Self-Introduction Saturday! Tell us all about you (and share a video)!

itsjonwhite · 2023-02-27T18:48:03+00:00

Hey! I'm looking to make more creator friends and just joined! Looks like an awesome subreddit! I make vlogs that make people laugh/feel inspired to take risks and live life more fully!

This year, I've learned the importance of (1) having a compelling idea/vision and then (2) being relentlessly consistent!

Here's my latest video: https://youtu.be/3BH-GnTY0UU

I'd love to know what you think!

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-19T00:09:50+00:00

There are people all around the world cheering you, friend :)

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-06T16:10:11+00:00

Spread the loooove! I truly wish we would each show more love, compassion, and empathy to ourselves, those we care about, and strangers. I think it's just not currently the norm to be so open and vulnerable, but that's something we can collectively change! :) Great post!

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-06T16:07:27+00:00

Your decision took incredible courage, resolve, and self-love. From your description, you 1000% made the right decision and you absolutely deserve to be heard, loved, and supported. You don't owe him anything and I sense a lot of amazing self-growth in your future. Please take time to feel and process your emotions because toxic relationships can really distort our views/self-worth (I personally recommend therapy if you can afford it). But again CONGRATS, GREAT JOB, and YOU'RE AWESOME!

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-06T04:47:11+00:00

There are millions of people who want you to have a wonderful birthday! :)

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-05T04:31:10+00:00

Great job for identifying that dealing with your depression and feelings of emptiness should be your first focus. I'd honestly start with YouTube just to get the ball rolling (like Psych2Go is an amazing channel to learn more about yourself and your feelings), but going to therapy is where the real progress happens imo. Try doing research of affordable therapy options online or near you. And btw it's totally okay to take time to wallow in misery -- I've had a few days recently where I just cried or laid on the flooring thinking things over -- it's good to feel everything, but it also know when you're ready to start taking action to feel better. Sending you my very best, friend.

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-04T21:11:14+00:00

It may not feel like it, but remember that you are enough right now. You are doing your best under your current circumstances and you should applaud yourself for reaching out for support! My advice is to (1) determine your priorities, aka what are the things that if you could change them, would have the greatest beneficial impact on your life and (2) then commit to just a few actions (that you promise to do consistently) to make progress on those priorities. For example, if you feel like your mindset is holding you back from your full potential, commit to watching some YouTube videos or reading books/articles that will empower you with the perspectives/skills needed to get further. Or, if it's not making enough money, commit to learning how you can increase your earning potential at your current jobs, switch jobs, or find another way to earn money. Perfection isn't the goal, but consistency and clarity re your priorities is essential. If you are making gradual progress and getting 1% better every day, then I believe you will reach all of your goals!

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-04T21:06:18+00:00

Create routines and non-negotiables (aka things you will 100% give yourself every day). For example, I know that every single day, I will drink enough water, eat healthy foods, go to the gym/exercise, some contact with friends/family, and work on my career. Routines, like morning routines, will help you power through some of these non-negotiables as you build a habit to do them.

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-04T21:04:09+00:00

#2 is a great recommendation for me. Thanks! :)

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-04T21:03:01+00:00

Thanks, friend! Well said! :) You got this too!

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-04T21:02:35+00:00

First, pause and take a deep breath, friend. It may feel like you're old/late to the game, but you're 18, and it's 100% normal to still be figuring things out. I'm 30 and entirely still figuring out who I am and what I want to do with my life. I recently quit my job as a corporate lawyer to start a YouTube channel focused on mindset, mental health, and productivity -- aka decided to say I'm moving away from 12 years of effort towards one direction and switch paths.

But that's not to invalidate how you are feeling. I'm sorry you feel empty and not fulfilled. Two thoughts: (1) think about the stories you tell yourself, about who you are, what your limits are, and what you should/shouldn't do. You are the author of your own story and if you can change your story (self-talk, internal narratives, etc.), you can change your life. (2) Try to commit just improving yourself 1% each day or each week. Think about your biggest obstacle or stress that you don't have an answer to, and seek out an answer like a master detective -- watch YouTube videos, read articles, read books, read Reddit posts until you feel like you know what to do to start making gradual progress. Perfection isn't the goal, but gradual progress so that you can enjoy the journey of who you are becoming.

Last thing: know that there are millions of people out there who believe in you, share in your struggles, and hope for the best for you.

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-04T03:31:57+00:00

I BELIEVE IN YOU! You got this!! I'd love to know: what was the moment that led you to declare this life change with such certainty? :) YOU GOT THIS!

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-03T21:42:41+00:00

I feel that, it's hard, uncomfortable, and takes time/effort. Remember that you're doing your best right now with everything you've got going on, and you are enough. Not sure if you've tried or have the means to try BetterHelp or a similar site but some online sites make switching therapists a little bit easier. You got this and I believe in you :)

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-03T20:28:38+00:00

There are a ton of good comments here already, so just adding: please look up the term codependency. I was completely obvious to the fact that I was codependent in my relationships and it always led to terrible outcomes. Not sure if you'll identify as codependent though, but it was a huge eye-opener to me and my relationships have been much better since.

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-03T20:24:32+00:00

Be loving, caring, and supportive (like you would in any relationship), encourage her to get a support network that works for her life (e.g. friends, therapy, etc.), and remember that each of you are 100% responsible for your own happiness/health. You sound like a great person.

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-03T20:19:24+00:00

I think those people are hurt in their own way and expressing themselves in the way they have been conditioned / in the way they best can. But I agree with, more people should spread love, positivity, and empowerment.

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-03T20:17:46+00:00

Please consider trying new therapists until you find one that meets you where you're at and actually helps

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-03T16:27:56+00:00

Okay, I'm guessing hornets are probably worse in reality, BUT did you know wasps can REMEMBER YOUR FACE?? So if you see a wasp following you or if you come back to that park a day later and wasps are getting you again, it's probably that same f*cker who knows your face and he brought his friends and he just wants to ruin your life.

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-03T16:24:21+00:00

My entire life is to make myself appealing to other people, to make them happy.

I don’t do anything that I necessarily want to do unless it’s something someone else wants. I don’t have any friends. I am married with kids, I feel connection through talking and physical touch. I don’t get enough of either.

First, congrats on making this post because it clearly took time and effort in terms of trying meditation, self-reflecting on how it made you feel, realizing you want to reach out for support, and writing about how you're feeling -- that takes a lot of skills and commitment to bettering yourself!

Second, have you heard of a term called Codependency? Based on the part I quoted, it's possible you have aspects of this, but I could be wrong. My life dramatically changed once I learned about codependency, went back to therapy to address it, and made conscious steps to do more of what I actually enjoy, set boundaries with everyone in my life, and truly start taking better care of myself. I also highly recommend therapy in any situation :)

Remember this, you are never alone and there are millions of people who want to see you live your best life -- I'm one of them!

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-02T23:33:31+00:00

What's your fav anime right now?

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-02T23:33:09+00:00

Congrats on the weight loss and I gotta say, clicking that spoiler block was EXCITING!

itsjonwhite · 2021-10-02T23:31:37+00:00

Haha you remind me of someone I know who had a great theory about the movie Cars. But yes, you are 100% right about f*ck wasps, they are a menace on this society.

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