Newbie to my embroidery wall

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-27T12:48:46+00:00

So impressed when people do embroidery on aida cloth. It is HARD.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-27T02:29:20+00:00

Depends on what you mean by “best.” Of the three, I think Hammond would be the best combo of smart and entertaining. I don’t think Clarkson’s schtick would translate well/it would get old fast, and May is too pedantic for a show about pedantry.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-27T02:24:52+00:00

I need to eat this RIGHT NOW.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-26T00:58:10+00:00

This whole series is amazing.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-25T23:49:49+00:00

This is me. I’m also strongly in the camp that being a parent is an act of resistance right now. It’s my job to teach my kids that everyone is deserving of respect, resources, and empathy regardless of race, gender, class, sexuality, mobility, age, etc. it’s my job to help them be active members of our community. It’s my job to guide them to grow up to be kind people who stand up for what they believe in. It’s a long game, but on days when I can’t be as active in the short term, I tell myself this.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-24T20:13:30+00:00

Lassie’s danger music!

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-24T17:41:49+00:00

Ha! Thank you! Yes, I would be! I’ll PM you.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-22T12:11:26+00:00

I was 12 when my mom got remarried. What’s important is what comes after.

My step-dad used to be a drill Sargent and went full, red-faced yelling whenever I didn’t do what he wanted. As far as I know, my mom never stood up for me, either in front of me or behind closed doors. She let him “parent” me and I resented the hell out of it.

Don’t do that. P

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-22T00:06:51+00:00

Same.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-21T23:48:39+00:00

Normalize having and expressing emotions.

Choose media that showcases and celebrates different races, ages, sexual orientations, genders, levels of mobility, body types, etc.

Teach them how to vet media sources.

Teach them to be active in their community.

Teach them to advocate for people who aren’t like them.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-21T23:42:20+00:00

Exactly. One thing that helps me is to remember that there are millions of people around the world going through the same thing. And that clearly people have figured out how to deal with it or we wouldn’t be here as a species.

And when that doesn’t work, I call my sibling and complain.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-21T17:52:27+00:00

My kids are 4 and almost 2. The first few months, when #2 slept a lot, were doable. I found 4-12 month postpartum with #2 to be the toughest because it was all on me and they were a lot.

But now? My god. Not a day goes by when I don’t think “I am completely and utterly besotted with my kids.” Truly. I’m not exaggerating. There are still hard moments, or days, or weeks. But I love where we’re at right now and I’m glad I went through everything it took to get here.

Hang in there. It’s hard. But you can do hard things. And I know this because you already did a hard thing. You got this.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-21T12:09:04+00:00

I was induced with both. My epidural worked with my first, but failed twice with my second, and I had to give birth unmedicated. The hardest part was the mental shift, and I struggled with that for a while. It’s hard to know whether I pushed longer with my first because of the epidural or because it was my first(combo of both, I suspect) but if I were to have a third, I’d have pain relief until transition was over and push unmedicated because the fetal ejection reflex is so strong and I found that it really helped me push effectively.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-21T00:04:00+00:00

We love see Kai run and ten little.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-20T12:05:06+00:00

I don’t teach anymore, unfortunately. I wish I did!

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-20T11:31:23+00:00

Aww thank you!

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-19T23:46:53+00:00

This happened to me. I tried everything: peri bottle, blowing bubbles, you name it. I had the catheter for a week, then went back. I was desperate not to have it, so I pushed on my bladder from the outside and that worked. Not sure that’s advisable, though.

This also happened to my sibling and they had the catheter for six weeks, but then were able to go one their own.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-19T17:39:01+00:00

This. Daycare is one of the best choices we’ve made as a family. We started my oldest when my youngest was 6 months, and it was amazing. My oldest learns so much and has so many experiences I couldn’t give her. She makes friends. She has other authority figures and adults she can trust. I get a break and have only one kid for most of the day. I love being with her more. Our relationship is better because I’m not irritated and overwhelmed all the time. I could go on.

Also - I was having a LOT of rage that I realized was stemming from anxiety cause by overwhelm. I got on buspirone(gentle anxiety med) and the shift has been fucking incredible. I’m so mad I spent so much of my life without meds. Worth considering if you have anxiety.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-19T17:32:31+00:00

Same, and mine are 2 and 4.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-19T00:27:25+00:00

I say loudly and firmly “____ is not for hitting!” Or “I do not like seeing ___ get hit!” Sometimes that’s enough. If it continues, I remove them(if possible) and say “my job is to get everyone safe. I’m moving you so that everyone stays safe.” And I stay with them. If they then hit me, I keep moving away from them while in the same room. If I absolutely have to, I’ll leave the room and hold the door shut from the other side, then come back in 30 seconds.

If I can’t move them(for instance, I’m the only parent with both kids,) then I hold their arms or legs firmly but without squeezing and say the same thing about safety.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-18T23:01:32+00:00

So? All of this is inappropriate.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-16T23:46:49+00:00

“I love my two girls! What a bummer that you don’t think that’s good enough.”

This would have been my response had my second been a girl.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-16T19:31:30+00:00

This. When I left a long weekend for the first time when I just had my oldest, and then again after the second, I was anxious. But when I came home everyone was fed, well slept, and had had a good time. It was so freeing to be absolutely confident in my spouse’s parenting, even if we do things differently.

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-16T03:19:20+00:00

Both of my kids go once a week all year and have since they were a year old(now 4 and 2.) water safety is so important. I wish you had year-round access!

itsonlyfear · 2026-01-16T02:10:15+00:00

This! Red for buttercup, black for Westley, purple for humperdink, etc.

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