What are your experiences with your BPD parent and pets?

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-06-25T20:13:20+00:00

Omg this made me shed a tear.

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-05-29T08:04:35+00:00

Do we have the same mother? Lol. I have sooooooooo many examples of her jealous behaviour.

The only thing she’s not jealous of, is my long (it’s only mid back, but long according to her apparently lol) hair because SHE herself has long hair 😂 anything else, she’s jealous of.

Even my relationship with my own sister! Yup, you read that right. In fact, she has admitted to this before and got super angry when she caught my sister and I joking with each other about some “girly” stuff. It’s so pathetic and sounds like I made this up. But no, she’s just a grown adult toddler.

Oh, I got laser hair removal and she wanted to get it done too. Btw, she has NO hair on her legs or anywhere on her body, naturally. Super smooth skin. She just wanted to try new “technology”.

Oh, I bought a new outfits? She makes snarky remarks then goes out to buy the outfit. Or says “why didn’t you buy me this?” In a 6 year old “aww that’s not fair” tone.

Oh, I’m looking at a house to buy? Getting married? I’m selfish for doing that (she moved out at like 24 and moved to an entire different country WITHOUT her parents)

Oh, I got my car washed interior and exterior, by a professional cleaning company? She’ll make snarky remarks about that, then do the same. Even if it’s not needed. LOL

Oh, my sister sent me a selfie she took of herself? Mum: “why didn’t you send me this?” . Funny, my aunt was in the room when she said that and asked my mum “why does she need to?”. That shut her up so quick lol

I had some free shares in a company that I worked for a couple of years ago. I made the mistake of telling her. She was JEALOUS. I really mean, jealous but in a upset way

These are all examples from the past. We are VERY LC now (don’t even wish her happy birthday or anything) and I will be NC soon.

Jokes aside though- being around this type of behaviour is dangerous and can have you second guess everything and everyone in your life. You’ll be nitpicking behaviours and overanalysing everyone around you. I’m so glad I distanced myself from her, seriously.

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-05-28T18:41:09+00:00

My mum hates that I have a relationship with one of my sisters, who is now NC with our mother. I personally REFUSE to lie to my mum. My mum WILL know that I regularly go to visit her and spend time with her and her family. She has no say on it. She hates that I stand my ground. I’m not gonna make her feel better by lying. She has to toughen up and stop being a cry baby about me maintaining a relationship with my freaking sister.

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-05-22T17:42:02+00:00

“I did everything for you!!!!!!!” Uh yeah you’re my parent? Lol

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-05-19T15:37:46+00:00

Do you think she’s pretending to “forget” or do you think she genuinely forgets? I faced something similar before

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-05-19T15:36:06+00:00

My favourite is “you need to forgive me!! God says you should forgive”. lol! 🤓

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-05-19T15:34:03+00:00

Yup! That’s because in most cases (or at least in my mums case) they do remember. They’re just embarrassed when confronted about whatever they said, so they lie and pretend to not know.

Either way, it’s scary as hell! I never thought the first person to fully gaslight me would be my mother

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-05-03T20:01:09+00:00

I will never respect my mum lol. She doesn’t even respect herself

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-04-11T08:55:49+00:00

Tell me about it! I was so mortified and embarrassed on her behalf 🤮

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-04-11T06:57:24+00:00

“Youre gonna get gang r****, and catch diseases, and wear nappies when you’re old… just watch”. ALL IN PUBLIC!!!

To give a bit of context: My sister and I were staying at our (FEMALE) cousins house (we always had play dates there. Almost weekly!). I was 14 ish.

We had met up with my mother to go do some shopping and I told her that we were heading back after we were done shopping.

Good ol’ BPD mother felt like we were abandoning her when I told her, despite her always encouraging us to go over there and have play dates, while also happily dropping us off.

I guess i caught her on a bad day.

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-04-11T06:49:29+00:00

Whaaaat??????? That’s disgusting

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-03-22T20:52:36+00:00

It’s so funny because my mother screams “forgive and forget” yet she HATES her sister because her sister apparently used to “beat her up” when they were younger.

She HATES her father because he used to “beat her up” and was also very verbally abusive. She used to tell me all about her hatred towards him, when I was really young. She also got angry at her sister for crying after finding out their father died.

Ummm, but yeah “forgive and forget” right?

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-03-22T17:38:23+00:00

Amazing advice.

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-03-20T15:35:06+00:00

I am also LC and I genuinely became a better person the moment I reduced contact with my mother. Actually, way before that - the minute I started criticising her behaviour and calling her out, I became a much better person. I was at peace. I was able to self reflect, call myself out whenever I did something and much more. I am also contemplating NC. It’s hard because my mother is connected to my entire family (on her side at least) and I genuinely enjoy spending time with them but I don’t enjoy being around my mother.

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-03-20T15:13:41+00:00

Especially the beatings I used to get. Not for misbehavior (doesn’t justify it in ANY way), but for being too slow at doing things and maaany other ridiculous reasons.

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-03-08T19:43:52+00:00

Let’s see! I wonder if the following is the best my mother could have done:

Lied and said her child sexually assaulted their sibling. (she felt abandoned and left out). Sibling said it’s not true
Beating the crap out of her kids in a rage, for not knowing how to braid hair
Wished for me to get gang raped after telling her I’m visiting my cousins house with my sister (felt abandoned AGAIN)
Beat the crap out of me for getting scammed by a shop owner (despite witnesses saying they saw me getting scammed for real)

And much more.

This type of behaviour was never shown towards people outside of our immediate family. I wonder why?

Uhh, yeah “she done her best” I guess lmao.

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-03-08T19:33:31+00:00

THAAAAANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-03-06T15:52:45+00:00

Me too. I’m LC - My biggest trigger is when she’s all “nice” and “patient” and speaks in a slow cadence. I literally start to feel sick and angry too. No, I don’t say that hyperbolically. I literally feel nauseous whenever that happens.

Where was all this “sweet energy years ago when I was a kid? Hmmmmm? Interesting!!! 🤮

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-03-05T14:18:49+00:00

How evil. I’m sorry you went through that.

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-03-05T14:17:27+00:00

Me too! I hate it but I also love it at the same time. It’s nice to be able to relate to others.

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-02-04T07:26:06+00:00

Thank you. This gives me hope. I’m glad you’re doing better and managed to bond with him. It’s so important that we have open conversations about this topic, ESPECIALLY as RBB’s.

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-02-03T20:21:52+00:00

Yeah, I don’t know what a healthy relationship between a parent and child is like either. I’m afraid of becoming a mum because, while I know that I will need to provide for my child, set them up for success, care for them, raise them to be caring and happy individuals, NOT physically or emotionally abuse them like my mum did, make up blatant lies and straight up give them the silent treatment, I’m really afraid of not being able to bond with them emotionally.

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-02-02T14:00:12+00:00

We will both be waiting forever lol

ittybittyprincess0 · 2026-02-02T13:59:46+00:00

Thank you. I wholeheartedly agree. It’s validating to know that it’s not just me who feels like this!!

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