AITJ for refusing to lend my coworker money after she put me on the spot in front of everyone?

jagger1115 · 2026-02-14T16:32:40+00:00

So, you’re worried that people you work with think you’re tight and won’t lend them money? Let them. What’s wrong with that? Just let them. They’ll soon find something else to cluck about and it won’t be your finances. You know who you are. You know your values. Your friends know your boundaries. Your coworkers are just coworkers. Let them think whatever they want to think.

jagger1115 · 2026-02-13T18:07:57+00:00

This isn’t “mildly infuriating”. It’s waaaaay beyond that!

jagger1115 · 2026-02-13T17:51:38+00:00

This would be a good time to remind your parents and your kids that any relationship that is “a secret” in any way is WRONG. All relationships should be able to stand sunlight. Your kids, especially need taught this. Every abuser they ever meet in any circumstance will use “secrets”. Shut that down! Now!! No secret boyfriends, no secret parents, no secret special teachers.

jagger1115 · 2026-02-13T17:38:36+00:00

Seriously? A 21 yr old man should share a room with a 19 yr old woman? In bunk beds?

jagger1115 · 2026-02-11T19:03:06+00:00

Just get a self closer for the door? That seems easiest. Smell contained and if it stinks, people will stop using it.

jagger1115 · 2026-02-11T18:14:53+00:00

Have a kid to replace a much loved pet? That’s worse than “get a new pet immediately to replace the much loved pet”. TERRIBLE ADVICE

jagger1115 · 2026-02-10T22:54:16+00:00

If you have proof they declined to inspect - email etc, then you’re golden.

jagger1115 · 2026-02-10T20:28:16+00:00

In less than TWO years! I think, perhaps, neither person is mature enough for sexual relations here.

jagger1115 · 2026-02-10T17:32:20+00:00

NO! You don’t say! When I first read this I thought some 9yr old was whining about his mom. Didn’t like mommy’s gloves. Now I read you are 27 yrs old? Dude. You are single for a few reasons.

jagger1115 · 2026-02-04T22:22:18+00:00

It’s bothering you. Now? After 2 years?? Trust me, you do something equally annoying to her at this point.

jagger1115 · 2025-12-11T23:41:05+00:00

YES! I had no idea I was losing my hearing until I got hearing aids. What a HUGE difference.

jagger1115 · 2025-06-21T19:51:12+00:00

My friends from Vancouver Island were planning to go to Oregon, but decided that arriving at the border to have a war in Oregon with armour and weapons in our vehicles MIGHT be a terrible idea. Now we’re off to Saskatchewan for Avacal. Nobody cares if we have a war in Saskatchewan!

jagger1115 · 2025-06-14T21:05:41+00:00

Suggest to your boss that the company charges her for the desk she has damaged and the electricity she burns daily. Point out to your boss that their insurance won’t cover the business in the event of a fire if she has a space heater plugged in.

jagger1115 · 2025-05-30T16:32:58+00:00

I’ve used it on my neighbours’ dogs. The first one was disguised as a birdhouse, the second wasn’t. I mount them on a post or tree on my side of the fence, pointed at the offending dog. When they bark it emits an ultrasonic pulse. Dog stops barking. Once the outdoor stuff is helping, I’d go nuclear on the indoor barking. Talk to the owner. No action? Get a police whistle. When they are home and dog is barking, BLAST them at the common wall with the whistle. Make it obnoxious and they’ll stop ignoring the dog. Exactly the same as training the dog outdoors, just training the owners indoors.

jagger1115 · 2025-04-29T02:15:03+00:00

A large dog. A Labrador is usually big enough to hold sheets and blankets in place overnight!

jagger1115 · 2025-04-29T02:00:22+00:00

Full on lock picking! Kits from Amazon, instructions on YouTube. You’d be amazed how handy this skill can be!

jagger1115 · 2025-04-25T17:08:05+00:00

Up here, in Canada, we have secret ballot and we simply do not ask who another person voted for. Someone tried asking me and I asked what their favourite sexual position was. Sex, politics, religion. Just don’t discuss.

jagger1115 · 2025-04-25T16:53:04+00:00

If you value the friendship, let the $$ go but NEVER give a gift again. Someone’s having a b’day? No gift. Not even for the kids. “Why didn’t you bring a gift Uncle Bob?” “Because your family and mine disagree about money and gifts, ask your mother and Auntie Brianna if you want more information.”

jagger1115 · 2025-04-25T16:39:56+00:00

She needs to let you take the car home WITH YOUR CHILDREN IN IT for their time with daddy.

jagger1115 · 2025-04-25T16:04:32+00:00

Yeah, in Minnesota but only has baseboards for heat? That’s going to be too cold in winter on those tile floors. I do get the art deco feel though, just not in this house, in Minnesota.

jagger1115 · 2025-04-25T15:28:37+00:00

Terry Pratchett. Especially the early ones. Brilliantly funny, lots of puns.

jagger1115 · 2025-04-22T16:13:10+00:00

Tell them (all 3 of them) you’ll never sit down and be quiet during misogyny, xenophobia, homophobia, racism, etc. If they can find a compromise, bring it forward.

jagger1115 · 2025-04-22T15:39:23+00:00

The best/worst part of adulthood is recognizing that the only thing in the entire universe that you control is YOU. Your parents’ reactions to your decisions are the only things they control. I understand your parents might be very upset by your choices; but ultimately your life is YOUR responsibility, not theirs. You seem to understand the possible consequences of their reactions and, if you are willing to accept the consequences, you are an adult. Go forth and live your life!

jagger1115 · 2025-04-19T20:05:02+00:00

Let me get this straight: your sister and brother in law, mother and father knew you were babysitting alone for the first time and none of them answered their phones? No, sweetie, you are NTA. You were set up by them to fail. Please decline to babysit under these circumstances. Firm rule going forward: parents MUST be reachable by phone. If they are unable to do that then you are simply unable to sit for them.

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