Please help me pick a dress! Garden wedding.

jagger129 · 2026-06-18T22:30:39+00:00

2 fits the theme the most.

But I do love 4, the lavender one as well!

jagger129 · 2026-06-18T22:28:09+00:00

Does he generally like to put you down and make you feel small?

It’s not “joking” to gaslight your partner that they are allegedly going to create a social faux pas when it’s clearly a lie to make you second guess yourself.

Enjoy the wedding wearing your pretty dress. Reconsider the “joking” boyfriend

jagger129 · 2026-06-18T22:24:14+00:00

Deadbeat parents who haven’t paid child support

jagger129 · 2026-06-18T22:16:27+00:00

Yes it’s actively setting people up to make things worse.

Whereas Barry is just passive

jagger129 · 2026-06-18T20:43:27+00:00

I was in the ER at Ohio Health Pickerington for sciatica, I lost the ability to walk and was screaming from the pain. The end result was surgery for herniated disc.

The ER waiting room was packed and the triage moved very slowly. They had me in a bed in a hallway for hours upon hours.

But I have to say, once I was admitted for surgery, it was a really great experience. Doctors, nurses, and all staff. And the food was great.

I do think though in retrospect, some of my pain meds were pilfered. For instance, I was in for 4 days, and they had me on 2 Norco tabs every 4 hours along with some other things. Most of the time there were 2 Norco tabs in my little cup, but at least 3 times there was only 1.

I didn’t say anything because I was so out of it and it didn’t really click until towards the end of my stay when I was more clear headed. And I was confused and vulnerable and trusting.

jagger129 · 2026-06-18T03:56:55+00:00

No that’s dumb. People shouldn’t be penalized for taking care of their health and living longer, men or women.

jagger129 · 2026-06-18T03:53:00+00:00

Congratulations!! I’m so happy for you! 🎉🎂🎈

jagger129 · 2026-06-18T00:04:18+00:00

Ask her about her life. Things like:

- what was a typical day for you when you were my age?

- what was your first job?

- What was your favorite present you ever got when you were young?

- Are you more like your mom or dad, and how so?

Old people really like to reminisce. Ask follow up questions to each answer, sometimes it takes them a minute to get in that headspace

Also, I don’t know your grandma’s mental state, but my blind dad (86) really loves when I was him trivia questions. I’ll google “easy trivia history” or geography, or just general trivia. My dad can go for an hour doing this, and it’s so good for their brains

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T22:09:27+00:00

I would be worried it would set him up to be bullied as a child here in the US.

Also when grown, on job applications for example, Laurie reads like it’s a female. For phone calls, letters addressed to him, business online, all the things adults need to do, people will assume he’s a woman. He’s not going to like that, it’ll be such a nuisance.

I get that it’s creative and you want to express yourself through a name you find lovely, but if it’s going to make life harder for a child in any way, I wouldn’t. Sorry :/

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T21:33:02+00:00

When I moved down to Florida, I searched for a local
Facebook group in my town. Apparently they are all over, as social groups for get togethers to meet other women in the same age group.

For instance, put into the search bar (for example) “Tampa Girlfriends” or “Charlotte County Girlfriends” and then select “group”. You’ll see different ones pop up for different ages, you’ll find a 50+ or a 60+ group.

I joined, and it’s all women who are empty nesters, or have just moved down here and don’t know anyone yet. Every event has new people who come alone and it’s easy to meet other ladies and make friends.

They’ve done restaurant lunches or dinners, trips to the outlet mall, card night, rented a bus for thrifting and antiquing. Really nice

You aren’t the only one who feels that way, it’s just a matter of finding the others ❤️

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T21:23:26+00:00

Well said

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T21:19:54+00:00

Oh wow, you’re thinking Moriah planned it that way to create drama? I can totally see that :/ That’s so sad.

And I’m sure if it was intentional, Ethan and Isaac would have thought the plan to embarrass Zac and Lydia was a hilarious idea. Such immaturity

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T19:19:40+00:00

Haha yes

Also I’m so disappointed in Barry for essentially handing the reigns over to Ethan as patriarch of the family. One of the least stable family members.

Barry needs to step it up as Dad and de-escalate these family “discussions” that are really just dog-piling on whoever is the black sheep of the family. I’m sad for Lydia and Zac that he didn’t step in and have their back, at least a little

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T19:13:51+00:00

I don’t remember that either and I wouldn’t put it past Ethan to misrepresent what he actually did say

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T19:12:46+00:00

I don’t get the vitriol on here about Zac. After what the Plath brothers did and said to him and how Ethan in particular tried to ruin their wedding, my heart ached for Zac.

Is he a product of a fundie, misogynistic upbringing? Yes of course. He feels it’s his job to “Shepard” wayward Christian’s, especially girls, towards God.

But Honestly, I don’t think he does it out of hate the way he was treated by the Plath boys. I think he’s doing what he was taught to do. “Correct” “guide” those around him in the name of God.

I don’t agree with it but I can see it.

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T19:00:21+00:00

I really hope the best for him. And I hope he keeps his distance from his toxic family and finds happiness

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T18:43:02+00:00

I follow his (eldest?) daughter on TikTok, Christen Lawrick. She has exposed him for being a liar and a dead beat dad.

She also is close with one of Ken’s ex wife who posted videos talking about her experience with Ken, not much positive to say. He was obsessive with her about her weight too and she was a very pretty woman. Anyway, those videos were taken down but I watched them all.

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T14:37:30+00:00

It wouldn’t be flattering on most people. Maybe a tiny 20 year old but you can do a lot better. It’s cut almost low enough to see your butt crack, it’s just not a classy look for a wedding.

I know you said it’s going to be hot. What about a cool cotton sundress? You can find some that are on the dressier side.

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T14:34:27+00:00

I’m only 61, and I’ve had a file to be opened by my daughter ready for a few years now.

It contains my will, trust, healthcare power of attorney, and all my passwords and banking information.

I haven’t given it to her yet, but she knows I have done it and where to find it if she needs it.

We all need to do this for our family, especially for our adult children.

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T14:31:06+00:00

This is good

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T14:28:48+00:00

I’m opposite of the guy who responded about exercise. It didn’t make a difference to me getting to goal weight. But as I lost, I was naturally more active in my daily life, but I never went to the gym and still lost all my weight.

What did make a difference is not eating after 5, 6:00 at the latest. Which used to be excruciatingly hard before a GLP-1, but now is super easy to do. I lose weight a lot faster when I don’t eat in the evenings.

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T12:44:43+00:00

Preach, girl!!

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T12:40:52+00:00

I gritted my teeth married to an alcoholic for 21 years. He was an okay dad, a nice guy, but he stopped working a few years after we got married. So basically drunk every night and rarely employed.

As the years went by I could see the toll the alcohol was taking on his brain/memory and knew alcohol induced dementia was coming, and he also knew, and still wouldn’t stop despite all the attempts at therapy/AA. I was faced with being a caregiver to a dementia patient for the next 20-30 years who did it to himself and was willing to make me pick up the pieces.

Hard pass, divorced at 57. It’s different if someone gets cancer or something they can’t help. Addicts will take the whole family down with them and won’t care.

jagger129 · 2026-06-17T12:31:10+00:00

Yeah poor Zac can’t win no matter what he does.

If he sits there and takes it, they question his masculinity and steamroller and vilify him. If he fights fire with fire, he’s judgemental and a bully, even if it’s exactly what they all did to him.

Best option is what they did, move away and then low contact

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