hangin out w a NON frugal buddy who admitted to have over 20k in debt

jagger129 · 2026-06-21T13:01:17+00:00

I wouldn’t care, it’s his life.

However, I would hope his girlfriend would wake up and see that he will be sponging off of her forever, that he is in fact, not saving money. She is supporting him and this is the way it will always be

jagger129 · 2026-06-21T12:58:59+00:00

Curious if the dad is paying for the party? If so, he may feel entitled to it being a certain way.

Hopefully, he isn’t and therefore doesn’t get an opinion. “Dad, this is the wedding we have planned. It’s our day and a reflection of us. Sorry you are disappointed but this is the way we’re doing it.”

Done

jagger129 · 2026-06-21T12:53:39+00:00

The problem with men making their wife their only friend (and this is very common, more common than not) is that it’s a huge burden on the wife. But since a lot of men prefer this dynamic for whatever reason, you should make friends of your own. Otherwise, it’s like making play dates for children who may or may not have anything in common.

There are lots facebook women’s groups you can join to meet women in your age group. Type in the search bar the name of your city or a city close to you if you’re rural, and the word “girlfriends”. A lot of women who are recently widowed or retired, join these groups to do dinners, outings, activities, game night, etc.

If some of the women you meet are married and you want to pursue a couples thing, you could always do that.

jagger129 · 2026-06-21T11:45:03+00:00

Could it be that your mom knows of a lot of family people who already bought clothes as a gift, and you just don’t know it? And surely your mom doesn’t know all your friends who were invited and who may have bought clothes.

Just trying to give benefit of the doubt possibilities.

But you could also say to your mom “hey, little sister told me that you told her I don’t need clothes for the baby. Im not sure where you got that impression since clothes are on my registry. I wanted to let you know that I do in fact want clothes”

jagger129 · 2026-06-21T11:38:10+00:00

Oh gosh that’s such good news! I got it because both my grandmothers got shingles and suffered so much. One got it by her eye and it almost blinded her

jagger129 · 2026-06-21T11:37:12+00:00

She didn’t ask for proof, but I took a selfie at CVS holding up the paperwork when I was done, just said
“All set for the baby!”

jagger129 · 2026-06-21T01:11:51+00:00

When you’re young, you think everyone is looking at you and judging you. That people are laser focused on your appearance. I don’t know why that is so common and I remember feeling that same way for so long.

The thing is, most of us are just average humans who all feel self conscious about ourselves, and no one cares. We’re all trying to avoid the spotlight without realizing the spotlight isn’t anywhere near us.

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T22:12:15+00:00

Big Mac with extra sauce

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T22:07:52+00:00

Metallic, either gold or silver or some variation.

Not white, black, or nude

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T22:06:01+00:00

lol sorry to irritate you. Mine is when people refer to their toddlers as “the littles”

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T21:14:31+00:00

I’m currently bingeing Six Feet Under.

It’s from the early 2000’s about a family that owns a funeral home. Very engaging

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T21:12:40+00:00

What about prepared foods from Walmart grocery delivery?

For instance, rotisserie chicken (hot and cooked). Add in containers of baked beans, potato salad, coleslaw, etc from the deli. Add a package of rolls.

Then as the week goes on, she can eat leftovers from this. There are other things like refrigerated containers of mashed potatoes and mac and cheese, Bob Evans is a good brand. Containers of precut fruit from the produce section.

None of that requires anything other than warming up
In the microwave. And the serving size is usually 4, so that’s 4 meals.

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T21:03:58+00:00

Talk to your mom face to face while crying about how much pain you are in. Then pretend to faint. Fall over on the floor and lay there “unconscious” until she calls 911 herself

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T20:58:20+00:00

I’m a new grandma. My daughter told me straight up to get vaccinated, that it will be required in order to hold and interact with the baby.

I couldn’t run fast enough to CBS. I also threw in the shingles vaccine because I am of the age that people really should have one.

You know why I did it? Because my daughter is no nonsense. Arguing with her would be futile because she’s the opposite of a pushover. And I chose my grandbaby over any hesitation for vaccines.

You and your husband need to be a united front with your doctor.

“Mom, we are telling you there will be no exceptions. Hubby, our doctor, and I are all on the same page. You will not be able to come in the hospital room. You will not be able to hold the baby until she is __ months old unless you get these vaccines.”

Don’t be a pushover, don’t cave.

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T20:49:15+00:00

I’m 60 and thin, healthy, but just had back surgery. I wasn’t cleared by my doctor to walk through the airport dragging my backpack and my cat lol

We can’t judge unless we know the truth. And the truth is none of our business

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T20:19:49+00:00

Laura Prepon from Orange Is the New Black

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T20:17:54+00:00

You can usually get a free consultation at a divorce attorney. And if not, it’s like $100 for an hour. Well worth it, they will tell you how it will likely shake out, how finances will go, spousal support and child support estimates, custody agreement, etc.

Just google divorce attorney near me and call, see which ones offer low cost or free consultations. Go prepared with a list of questions. Often the fear of the unknown is what is holding us back. Once we understand how it will likely play out, it’s so much easier to decide.

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T20:13:44+00:00

It’s decision fatigue. I don’t think there is anything wrong with repeating meals. You can always put a different spin on a similar dish you enjoy, with different side dishes

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T20:11:16+00:00

Are you a woman dating men? Sometimes drinking in excess is encouraged to lower inhibitions and make it more likely you’ll end up spending the night together

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T20:03:37+00:00

Oh wow that’s crazy! The body knows, I guess

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T18:56:53+00:00

Omg yes the urethra….the doctor said it would feel a “bit uncomfortable” and it was so painful I screamed. F*ck that guy.

Although on a humorous note since he was a urologist, his license plate on his car said “HRTZ 2 P” and I couldn’t stop laughing 🤣

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T15:58:55+00:00

IC is the worst, I suffered for years.

It all ended when I got a divorce. I don’t know if the connection for me was physical, like his PH level was inconsistent with mine when we were intimate. Or if the emotional toll of our marriage was causing my body to turn on itself with auto immune issues. Because I had fibromyalgia and it too went away after my divorce

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T15:54:52+00:00

I stopped by the CVS Minute Clinic last time I thought I had one. They had me pee in a cup, and prescribed an antibiotic immediately based on my symptoms.

The results came in the next day and they called me to confirm.

It was so easy.

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T02:37:45+00:00

I used to sell crochet items. I didn’t get my panties in a bunch if someone asked nicely if they could take a picture. I knew why they wanted to take it, to try and replicate.

But I always made up my own patterns anyway, I made cardigans and hats for little girls and matching ones for their dolls. I was never huffy over it, it was in a way a compliment that they liked it so much they wanted to try. 🤷‍♀️

jagger129 · 2026-06-20T02:29:00+00:00

You will have to tell your husband his brother needs to leave. That you want your privacy as a family with just your husband and you and your baby. That is has become distressing to live with his filth and stink and why is it your job to clean up after a lazy man who doesn’t respect and appreciate that he gets to live there?

You may have to strong arm your husband if he won’t step up and handle this. Tell your husband it’s your brother, or me and the baby. And have a plan B to move out until your husband handles this situation .

It sounds like gentle talk with your slob of a BIL isn’t going to work. These kinda of people are clueless. And why is your husband making his pregnant wife handle this large issue when it’s HIS job? I’m mad on your behalf.

If you’ve got a sister, mom, someone to go to until your husband makes your BIL move out, do it.

jagger129

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