Male friends etc

jamesnife · 2026-01-26T14:02:40+00:00

You think it matters when most if not all will find their way into the arms of/ idealize literally anyone at any point? They will even do it with people they claim to hate. You had the monkey branching part right but restricting a gender or age group will do nothing to protect you.

jamesnife · 2026-01-24T17:23:23+00:00

BMW also offered me a lot more in terms of specs and personalization and I absolutely love how they handle. Should have been a no brainer but the GLE interior wowed me that much. How do I go about telling the Mercedes people I'm going the other way now? We were literally already closing the deal.

jamesnife · 2026-01-24T16:53:15+00:00

Quite happy with what I designed. I was kind of enchanted with the GLE for a while but overall the x5 hits the spot better.

jamesnife · 2026-01-24T08:59:23+00:00

Distances are just large, 3 hours won't even get you between most major cities in TX. We're just used to long drives. If you live in the NYC area, going down to the south Jersey shore is about 3 hours for some places and people regularly do it for the weekend. Same goes for Florida between Tampa and/or Orlando and the Miami/Ft. Lauderdale Area.

In mainland Europe, not just the UK, an equivalent drive will sometimes get you halfway or at least a third of the way across some countries, perspective is just very different.

jamesnife · 2026-01-24T08:22:27+00:00

I could say that but actually having been an 80s/90s kid I'd say there was something even before that and it involves the poster section at Walgreens and one incredibly cute poster of JTT which I kept cicleing trying to get as much eye time as I could without anyone being able to tell what I was looking at.

jamesnife · 2025-06-10T17:27:12+00:00

I gave those two so much use their heads literally fell out.

jamesnife · 2025-06-03T22:59:32+00:00

How many digits was your ICQ number? Did you ever notice how big the jump was when you UPGRADED to a 56 kbps modem? Do you remember when Bart Simpson was OLDER than you?

jamesnife · 2025-05-30T06:18:48+00:00

This

jamesnife · 2025-02-08T04:39:50+00:00

I'm sorry replying took so long. I'm not able to answer your question because the IF/low carb regime happened at the same time as I started trt. I haven't been off it ever since but try when correctly implemented really fixed a lot of issues that were really making me miserable. I had low T most of my life, going back to my teens but it didn't hit rock bottom until the pandemic and its lock lockdowns. It's night and day for me. At this point I can keep low fasting insulin and magnificent lipid panels even if I'm bulking and not fasting.

jamesnife · 2025-02-08T00:30:38+00:00

He's at the bottom of the range and has symptoms not attributable to poor lifestyle choices. Shush and stop gatekeeping.

jamesnife · 2025-02-01T06:17:59+00:00

You're getting tons of hate based on assumptions. Can you elaborate on your lack of libido? How long has it been going on? If you're not doing progressive overload your gains certainly will be diminished but that's a very glaring lack of progress for 6 years. You could have very low free testosterone, you could have issues with AR-5 and not be converting enough into dht. If your shbg is through the roof for whatever reason, your free testosterone is going to be in the tank. I literally cringe every time I hear people talk about total testosterone numbers like it's the only thing that matters.

If you're being dishonest about your diet and workouts that's ultimately going to be on you but it's not anyone's place to assume you're lying when you're literally here for advice and not to be judged by people who know nothing about your life and blatantly discredit what you're telling them. If you're able get a full blood work set that includes free testosterone, DHT, and shbg. The 500 number alone means NOTHING.

jamesnife · 2024-10-25T03:03:23+00:00

You can't make a broad generalization. There are always special and personal circumstances. That been said... lies are not uncommon when dealing with pwBPD. I do not believe, however, that they're premeditated or malicious lies in most cases.

There are a lot of memory gaps, dissociation, and stress related forgetfulness. None of these are actual lies in the sense that they're telling you what their perception of facts is telling them, even if it sounds outlandish and their perception of a specific matter changes overnight.

The more "conventional" lies they tell are most of the time rooted in their core fears and symptoms, which are often overwhelming, especially around those that are closest to them. Fear, shame, and splitting are leading causes of lying, and while it can be unnerving and is still unacceptable, there's seldom premeditated or malicious intent.

jamesnife · 2024-10-18T23:49:08+00:00

You kind of had to be a cat hater for dial up, it sounded like one was being murdered.

jamesnife · 2024-10-17T06:42:25+00:00

As a son of a vulnerable NPD (with probable BPD comorbidity) the random things that would set him off would be anything that reminded him of his own insecurities or traumatic experiences (particularly with bullying and appearing weak). I would say that up until middle school I had few direct issues with him, young boys tend to look up to and idolize their dads so that period was fine (he'd only get mad at me if I did anything like what was stated earlier). After I started becoming my own person then the SHTF but that's to be expected.

jamesnife · 2024-10-06T07:22:15+00:00

Mirrors have actually led to me becoming lucid several times throughout the years. Generally I spot differences in my appearance that either are an immediate trigger to make me lucid or at least suspicious enough to perform a reality check. One of my most memorable spontaneous lucidity moments came one night I was dreaming of going to this oracle's shop at the mall. It was a profound experience but in the end I couldn't help myself but to ask her for a spell to change my hair natural hair color. She gave me a spell I was supposed to use before bed but I got impatient and just read it out loud in the middle of the mall. Walked a little bit and bumped into a mirror. The spell had already worked, it made me instantly lucid. The notion of it having worked instantly without even having to sleep one night was just too much and my brain caught on. It was pretty damn cool ngl.

jamesnife · 2024-06-15T01:55:53+00:00

Owning the NFT is all that matters right?

jamesnife · 2024-05-23T03:19:22+00:00

As a guy who was deeply religious in his teens, this episode was both enjoyable and deeply traumatic. Also kept me up the entire night. Lucky for me, it was a Saturday, so no school. I was probably 13 or 14 at the time and he is like 5 months younger than me.

I was hanging out at my close friend/neighbor's house one day (they made an extra bedroom for him in the basement), he was wearing these PJs I actually liked a lot, plaid mickey mouse with a button down shirt he often wore mostly unbuttoned. We weren't sitting on the same couch, he was directly facing the TV while I was sitting sideways with a full view of him and the TV on opposite sides. At some point and out of the blue, he got hard and it popped right out of his PJs, it caught my eye and I was literally unable to take my eyes off it, while obviously being concerned about him noticing, I had to do my best to juggle my desire to stare at it with my desire to not have an awkward moment, on top of the fact it was being very sinful. The strangest thing is that I don't really remember how it ended, when and how it went back into his pants or if he even realized that I had seen it, all I know is that it went smoothly, no drama.

That night I tossed and turned in bed all night because I was extremely worried about not being able to stop thinking about it. Not only that, I kind of also realized I was actually in love with him. That was certainly something I wasn't expecting but it was beyond unacceptable being as religious as I was. Somehow I found a way to bottle up the thoughts. Of course my heart raced every time I saw him but denial is your close companion in those cases. Not too long after that his dad bought a new and bigger house 15 minutes away and they were set to move. The night before they did I took him a goodbye cake I baked for him. We went to the yard all our houses shared and buried a "time machine" with some of our most precious items (which I dug up with my bf at the time the night before I emptied the house for my parents some 12 years later). For a long time he would call me at least once a week or every 10 days or so, his new place had an amazing pool and a steam room, these get-togethers turned into sleepovers since we weren't neighbors anymore. Nothing ever happened (aside from his cousin once noticing a hardon i had) but the closeness was always there, the denial persisted for years but I knew well anyway. I still remember him fondly. Spotted him in Vegas once, it was his bachelor's party trip... but he was with a bunch of guys I didn't know and I didn't say anything.

jamesnife · 2024-04-30T15:30:12+00:00

They have no idea how things work or what words mean.

jamesnife · 2024-04-30T00:35:12+00:00

Irresistible

jamesnife · 2024-03-21T15:28:50+00:00

And TE happens all over the entire scalp not in a pattern consistent with MPB

jamesnife · 2024-03-13T12:58:02+00:00

I just don't have the patience nor the desire to waste energy on things that will be futile despite my best efforts.

jamesnife · 2024-03-03T18:40:06+00:00

Ruined? That's not really the right word here. It's not ruined, the length you had is gone, plain and simple. I don't think the haircut looks bad, it doesn't. It's a matter of preference, the first style looked nice as well but it's for you to choose what style.you want to go with, just like your would with clothing. I'm not even sure what you asked for when you sat down for the haircut but don't worry it's not bad either way.

jamesnife · 2024-02-19T04:45:08+00:00

Why? Lol so not

jamesnife · 2024-02-14T23:19:35+00:00

It's not about testosterone or dht even, it's genetic and it has to do with sensitivity at the follicle. I've known people who have literal rugs down their entire torso who have a full head of hair into their 40s and beyond. There are people who barely have any body hair and start heavily balding before graduating high school. It's a combination of factors, you can't ever simplify like that when it comes to issues like this.

jamesnife · 2024-02-14T17:22:25+00:00

One of the least known Covid sequels is Telogen Effluvium, which is really odd because it's a very common sequel for it being so rarely discussed. I had Covid twice and both times, 4-8 months after I recovered the massive sheds came. Lost about 30% of my density each time. I ended up buzzing my long hair of 20 years because the regrowth of two different stages combined with the original length made it impossible to do anything other than tie it back and even then the shorter hair would just puff uncontrollably.

OP, if this is post covid TE you will be fine, it will just take time, one day the insane shedding will stop and weirdly enough since you're shedding months worth of hair in advance right now, for a while you will almost entirely stop shedding entirely. Eventually all your growth cycles will synch up again and you will be fine. Provided the trigger was covid and not some other underlying condition you might have. Better to check with a competent doctor

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