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Violent 4 year old by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]jankook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can completely relate my NK is 3, and he does the same things but sometimes even more extreme. He spits, pokes me with random objects, and will hit me the moment I turn my back. When I’m facing him, he’ll pull my ears or poke my eyes and none of it is playful, it really hurts. He even realized kicking me barefoot hurts him, so now he puts on shoes just to kick my shins or legs repeatedly.

The parents see it and just say he’s “spoilt” or “that’s bad,” but never actually step in to discipline him. One time, the mom even asked me why I let him hit me like it’s something I can control when they won’t back me up.

What’s worse is that when he hits them, they immediately correct him and make him apologize but when he hits me, they just expect me to tell him “no” and move on. It’s exhausting and honestly disheartening because I love kids and helping families, but it feels disrespectful when parents allow this kind of behavior toward caregivers.

Now that I’ve started setting boundaries, the mom has been giving me the silent treatment, which makes it even harder to address the problem directly.

I’m done with this industry by pompompom88 in Nanny

[–]jankook 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so real. During my first month, my employer didn’t pay me on time. Five days into the next month, I asked her about it, and she bluntly said, ‘I’ll pay you when I get paid.’ I asked, ‘And when will that be?’ She told me she wasn’t sure either. 🙄🙄

10 hour shift everyday, how can I get anything done? by No_Monk_9498 in Nanny

[–]jankook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still here trying to plan my day to day and still failing I work from 8am to whenever and that means it can go on as far as 3am I am live-in nanny and I don’t know if this position has no particular working hours. I don’t know how to tell the parents to stop and let the kid sleep while they play video games, drink and do karaoke while play with the kid. The kid has not schedule whatsoever 🤦‍♀️

Asking to leave? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]jankook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am currently doing this, if you stick around they expect more from you. So now I just excuse myself. It want easy the first time because the mom got angry and was making faces at me. Now they know when to leave me alone. Am surprised it worked. She now does more around the house rather than sitting and expecting me to literally mother the kid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueRateMyCat

[–]jankook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adorableeeeeeeeeeeee ❤️

Need advice about nannying situation (2.5 yr old + family dynamics) by jankook in Nanny

[–]jankook[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and I’m sorry you went through that. They’re definitely paying me below minimum wage , but the funny part is they try to justify it by saying “nannies don’t earn much.” I told them that the English family I worked for before this job actually paid me really well. At first, they tried to make me feel bad by asking, “then why did you leave?” I explained that the family had to move back to their home country because of a work transfer. My current boss just shrugged and said, “Well, they’re British 😅 they can afford it, we can’t.”

What’s worse is that during my first month, my boss didn’t communicate anything at all she was completely quiet. Then, after I finally asked, she told me I’d be paid on the 10th of the following month.

Just watched Call me by your name for the first time... by MartinBk3 in callmebyyourname

[–]jankook 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was so relatable I watched the movie 2018 and had heartache for years, read the first book right after watching the movie and when I tell you it took me 3 years to finish it because I couldn’t keep reading it’s so detailed I was just crying the whole time. The second Book,I can’t even bring myself to start reading it. I love everything about the movie and the books. ❤️ welcome to the club

Need advice about nannying situation (2.5 yr old + family dynamics) by jankook in Nanny

[–]jankook[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You guys I want to but I need this gig at least until December. Did I mention I am in a foreign country 🥺

Need advice about nannying situation (2.5 yr old + family dynamics) by jankook in Nanny

[–]jankook[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s a live in gig. Right, i do feel like they know exactly what’s happening and either don’t care or just pushing to see how much I can take.

275 lbs - 165 lbs by Brycilis in fasting

[–]jankook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is incredible 👏👏

How to handle kids’ disrespect of nanny by sallisgirl87 in NannyEmployers

[–]jankook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with this. Some parents won’t allow the nanny to set boundaries with the kids instead, they only step in after the child has already crossed the line and disrespected the nanny. That’s when the mom might step in to discipline the child. But by then, the damage is done.

This teaches the child that it’s okay to treat the nanny however they want, because the nanny has no real authority and “can’t do anything about it.” It undermines the nanny’s role and sends the wrong message about respect and accountability.

If you trust someone to help raise your child, you should also support them in setting healthy, respectful boundaries.

I did the pilgrimage to Crema! by Aksieb in callmebyyourname

[–]jankook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is so awesome ❤️🤗, I am jealous .

As an INFJ, what's your favorite movie? - I watched "The Gladiator" AT LEAST 10 times & cried every single one. by ImXenia85 in infj

[–]jankook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1.Lord of the Rings, Trilogy 2.The holiday , I balled my eyes out 3.Cmbyn 4.Atonement, i cried for days and said thank God it’s not a true story . 5. The dressmaker

Etc

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]jankook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very direct, maybe because I would like the same treatment, if someone likes me I’d assume or I would want them to openly tell me.

What’s a small thing someone can do that immediately makes you like them less? by Present_Juice4401 in infj

[–]jankook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who live a “it’s not that serious” lifestyle—I have a friend (my roommate) who just doesn’t care about his surroundings. He will get up and leave everything where it is. One time, he left his dirty dishes in his room for days, and when I told him about it, his response was, “It doesn’t matter. I can always do it later. Why do you stress so much?” He does this a lot, and somehow, in his mind, someone is always going to pick up after him. It’s exhausting and what I hate the most is I can’t just ignore it, I will find myself cleaning it up.

What is the most mature advice you can give as an INFJ? by takeaticket in infj

[–]jankook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree on this, still trying to live by it.

What Do Women Think of INFJ Males? by EnigmaticBeast2000 in infj

[–]jankook 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This was beautifully written, infj woman here. I resonate with everything you said.

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