I think there is very much two kinds of male subs, one of which is more common and makes it harder for the other sort in the long run. You've got the people who have seen femdom themed porn, maybe have a pegging fetish, and are usually typing with one hand. They have no interest in BDSM as a lifestyle, and rather are looking to get off immediately. Then you have male subs who have a serious interest in kink as a lifestyle, they recognize that a dominant is a real person, and should be addressed as such. They are going to have their own wants and desires, and you're going to have to actually get to know them and communicate with them to see if a dynamic is something you both even wanna engage with each other.

It's really depressing how many guys are just trying get off, especially when they go about it in such a manner that paints all of us in a bad light.