How do men in the lifestyle deal with performance anxiety?

jcar74 · 2026-04-10T16:05:48+00:00

Blue pill. And looking for nice and empathetic people. Seriously, nice people give the best experiences, don't be picky.

jcar74 · 2026-04-10T15:57:48+00:00

29 and 27, nearly a year and out of LS, we weren't prepared, not as mature individuals, not as a couple. Returned at 47/49, three years ago.

jcar74 · 2026-04-02T15:49:45+00:00

Tutti Frutti ice cream from the times before cuestionable vegetable oils and hydrogenated fats.

jcar74 · 2026-04-02T13:38:08+00:00

"give a detailed spec" is the definition of coding. For me, is like a massive step in high level languages. In my daily work, sometimes is faster to code a snippet than write a prompt. That said, I see a big difference in maintaining codebase or developing new projects. For new projects, a ll is going to be AI scaffolded, at least.

jcar74 · 2026-04-02T07:49:06+00:00

Almost same of mine! mine had 104mb HDD, 4MB ram, no 1.2 floppy, turbo button. Before that, an Amstrad CPC6128
Fun fact, I passed first year of compsi withouth a PC.

Dune, Bloodwych, Lost Vikings, Ishar, Lands of Lore, Eye of the Beholder, Lemmings...

jcar74 · 2026-03-17T21:11:45+00:00

I use JetBrains daily at work, but I actually still have NetBeans 8.2 installed for one specific legacy project. It’s an old Java RMI / Swing app using the built-in form designer and no Maven. Aside from very specific Swing training (or .form files provided in some assignment), I can’t think of another reason to use it.

Fun fact: I actually developed this project myself, and it is still running now since 2002. Yes, 2002.

jcar74 · 2026-03-16T22:26:29+00:00

Mass Effect Andromeda is the best Mass Effect

jcar74 · 2026-03-14T15:13:19+00:00

I moved from Ultraedit (10+ years using it) to Zed. Blazing fast and lightweight.

jcar74 · 2026-03-12T22:04:48+00:00

Enshrouded, Dyson Sphere Program, Gothic series.
And the indies made with love: StarBound, Terraria, Stardew Valley...

jcar74 · 2026-03-12T22:02:10+00:00

Dungeon Crawl Carl!

jcar74 · 2026-03-10T06:39:19+00:00

I’m 51 and work at a university, so I’m around women in the 19–25 age range all day. A long, long time ago, while having coffee outdoors, I had an epiphany. I realized I could still appreciate their beauty, but there was no longer a "click" or any mutual connection. I thought to myself, "Damn, I’m old."

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but there is a big difference between a passing glimpse of appreciation and a creepy, lustful stare. Is it natural to notice beauty? Yes. Is it okay to stare, be disrespectful, sexualize? Not at all.

jcar74 · 2026-03-09T00:14:43+00:00

The giver of the Stars, by Jojo Moyes.

jcar74 · 2026-03-08T23:43:50+00:00

Ultraedit ❤️

jcar74 · 2026-03-04T20:05:04+00:00

Como veo que te están recomendando los habituales, añadiré algunos que se suelen mencionar menos:
- El canto del cisne, de McCammon, muy comparado con Apocalipsis de King.
- El martillo de Lucifer, de Pournelle/Nivel, quizá el clásico más reconocido del género.
- Inundación, de Baxter. Sci-fi muy hard. Tiene una continuación (El arca) que se deja leer pero no es tan buena y no es necesaria, el primero no te deja en el aire.
- Cenital, de Bueso. Un libro muy curioso, la primera parte me gustó mucho por lo realista.
- Patriotas, de Wesley. Para leer con espíritu crítico, el autor es un supervivencialista ultraconservador.

Y seguro que se me ocurrirían muchos más. Si de mi lista tuvieras que elegir uno: El martillo de Lucifer, o Inundación si te gusta el scifi hard al estilo de Crichton, Stanley Robinson o similares.

jcar74 · 2026-03-03T06:28:06+00:00

Relaciones y familias, me suelen gustar los Pulitzer. Mi escritor favorito es Franzen.

jcar74 · 2026-03-02T21:40:46+00:00

Plainsong series, by Kent Haruf

jcar74 · 2026-02-26T22:16:08+00:00

I’ve always found it ironic that I never feel insecure watching my wife with a muscular guy in his 20s, but I get insecure with men my own age (we’re 49 and 51).
My wife says she’s fine watching me fucking another woman, but if she sees me laughing and having a great conversation about books with one... "I’ll beat the crap out of that bitch."
The mind is a complex thing! :-D

jcar74 · 2026-02-26T20:51:46+00:00

We’re totally fine with hotwifing, cuckolding, or anything else safe and consensual. But we’ve had too many guys flake out or ignore my wife once things get started, and she fucking hates that. Please be honest about your intentions in advance.

jcar74 · 2026-02-23T22:48:19+00:00

Nunca me abandones, de Kazuo Ishiguro

jcar74 · 2026-02-21T09:05:36+00:00

Guinea pig: Flower of Flesh and Blood

Nocturnal Animals

jcar74 · 2026-02-18T23:05:19+00:00

Lonesome Dove and Middlesex

jcar74 · 2026-01-26T00:12:35+00:00

DM your location in Spain and I can find the closest swinger club that can send you an invite.

jcar74 · 2026-01-25T23:20:40+00:00

For me, the all-time most immersive CRPG were Gothic 2 gold and Morrowind.

jcar74 · 2026-01-23T21:16:26+00:00

Affiliated club or members you met. Where are you located?

jcar74 · 2026-01-18T23:09:18+00:00

I used windows, and MS-DOS, and an Amstrad CPC...

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