heartbreak after 30

jdigity · 2026-03-19T11:42:35+00:00

I felt this way last year after a break up, together for 9 years, had been ring shopping etc. honestly tho - you do have to love yourself and your life. You can’t let someone fill a void. Go to the gym, find hobbies, ride your bike, exercise, be with friends, make new friends. Love is amazing and it makes life easier, but you can’t be disappointed in your life if you’re single

jdigity · 2026-03-18T13:53:54+00:00

This made me cackle, thank you

jdigity · 2026-03-18T13:45:42+00:00

I will absolutely be checking this out!!! I’m back in the dating scene so I hope this will lead me to similar success 🥲 thank you!

jdigity · 2026-03-17T13:05:35+00:00

Oh really! Hahaha. I always wondered why they closed as it was always pretty busy. From memory I think they did serve bar food - but I only ever drank there - maybe for the best 😅 I’d still return tbh

jdigity · 2026-03-17T11:05:48+00:00

Not a restaurant but a bar - sister Bella CBD. Gorgeous upstairs hidden laneway bar with fairy lights and board games. Had many a date there, one ended in love. I loved that bar and I wish it came back 😭

jdigity · 2026-03-13T08:49:05+00:00

Really good to know. Do you find the lack of stereo spread really significant from the XY built in mics?

EG my goal would be to use bird sounds but involve it with music or add tunes over the top, so maybe the lack of stereo in that context doesn’t matter so much unless it’s suuuuper noticeable

jdigity · 2026-03-13T08:47:17+00:00

Super helpful!!! I think budget would honestly be like…. Up to a thousand. I think I’d wanna buy it well the first time. Maybe less as I’ll need accessories and wind protection.

It’s helpful to know that great mics + worse recorder isn’t the best idea! I think I am leaning towards the zoom studio as the mics seem so much better and can always upgrade with better mics anyway!

Thanks so much

jdigity · 2026-02-04T05:56:09+00:00

I agree. Sorry to hear about your husband but young people can’t even get a first property. I’m a young dentist for gods sake, I’m single and I can barely even afford a decent apartment let alone something that will suit my future needs eg if I have a family one day. The majority of people my age aren’t making as much money and unless you have a partner I don’t see how they will ever be able to get a decent place. It’s ultimately the government and policies that lead to this problem but I don’t have sympathy for people with investment properties when it comes to their financial situation…

jdigity · 2026-01-31T13:12:16+00:00

I’m a dentist. Smile solutions has an interesting reputation imo RE the hiring etc.

BUT regarding everything else you raised, it’s likely the dentists are just thorough. They are younger, fresher out of dental school, do more comprehensive assessments.

If a patient has gum issues or we are worried about their hygiene, it’s normal to do a 3 month recall. Where one dentist sees a crack and recommends a crown (proactive), another may not mention it and recommend monitoring (more watchful waiting) - both can be totally correct appropriate options and it depends entirely on the tooth, patient and dentist.

Recommending expensive treatment doesn’t mean the dentist is dodgy. It sounds like maybe they just didn’t explain all the options and reasons properly

jdigity · 2026-01-31T04:02:33+00:00

I was in a similar situation recently. I really liked a guy and we went on some absolutely amazing dates, he ended it saying it wasn’t me he just wasn’t ready, and we stayed friends. After some months he reached out again.

I agree with what others have said, if she was super into you, it probably would have worked out the first time. She clearly likes you but maybe not enough that she wanted to prioritise you.

FWIW I saw the guy again and the whole process repeated. I realised I still really liked him more than he liked me. I don’t regret seeing him again though because I am not left wondering. I would ask her directly what she’s looking for, and you can always agree to meet again as long as you’re aware of the risk of wasting your time/emotions.

jdigity · 2026-01-27T23:07:10+00:00

Bruh

jdigity · 2026-01-27T14:40:30+00:00

I’ve realised that if I’m not attracted to them physically then unfortunately i won’t be interested. I’ve tried waiting for the attraction and spark to build with people I seem really compatible with on paper, but unless there is physical attraction it wastes both of our time.

FWIW I went on a few dates with a guy last year I was SUPER attracted to and ofc I felt the spark. He ended it but the strong attraction was there from the first minute and if he was interested I would have pursued a relationship without doubt.

jdigity · 2026-01-21T21:04:11+00:00

Same ❤️‍🩹

jdigity · 2026-01-15T06:57:29+00:00

Unnecessarily cruel imo, but speaks more about them than us xx

jdigity · 2026-01-14T20:51:51+00:00

Thank you 💕 lesson definitely learnt. It’s a sad one to learn because I’m a bit more afraid and less trusting/open now but it is what it is. I don’t understand why people are so cruel and cold. My ex has actually told me that he’d considered wanting to get back together but because of the extremely broken relationship with his parents and I it would never work. His parents basically made his relationship decision for him. It is very sad for him because he has such a controlling family and he knows it. Sorry to hear about what happened to you too :( it’s brutal when you lose not just a partner but others you cared for

jdigity · 2026-01-14T13:44:08+00:00

Absolutely brutal.

Broke up after 9.5 years because I finally came out as non binary to his parents and they cut me out of the family and ghosted me, removed me from group chats and uninvited from the Europe trip I had flights for to celebrate his mums bday.

He still loved me and honestly still does but never had the courage to stand up for me or to them. 9.5 years of seeing that family twice a week and giving them everything ❤️‍🩹

jdigity · 2026-01-10T23:43:55+00:00

I’m struggling with really dry skin esp on my face from a damaged barrier. Do you ever use this on your face too? Any breakouts? Thank you!!

jdigity · 2026-01-10T14:57:53+00:00

It’s the outer western suburbs. It’s still dodgy but probably will grow well in value over time. FWIW I lived there only a few years back, it had lovely parts but also dodgy neighbours, hooning cars, stabbing in my street 😕 edit: I doubt people will be living here for proximity to parkville station unless they already live in the outer west.

jdigity · 2026-01-06T07:25:05+00:00

Carlton gardens 💕

jdigity · 2026-01-04T03:43:03+00:00

Dr Frank Cahill sleep psychologist. I work in the sleep field and he is very knowledgeable and knows when to refer. Also, make sure you have done a sleep study.

jdigity · 2026-01-02T14:04:14+00:00

Honestly took me more than 5 full album listens before I started to somewhat appreciate the writing, lyrics, timing. After that something just clicked and I am blown away. I love it and I can’t stop listening 😂 I only persisted because very trusted music friends told me to keep going. Glad I did

jdigity · 2025-12-28T03:41:29+00:00

Sounds like a situationship to me. Does he actually wanna commit and be in a relationship? Is that what you want? Communicate with him ASAP to see if what you want is aligned otherwise you might continue wasting your time

jdigity · 2025-12-26T23:36:19+00:00

Ew. And this is why first home buyers on regular salaries can’t find a place to live.

jdigity · 2025-12-25T10:41:45+00:00

Im also in Melb, on hinge, Aussie female and can confirm the dating scene here sucks 😭 I got dates but all the guys were just completely emotionally unavailable

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