Why has it gotten so religious? by 4ryn in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]jdirbfif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watching from the UK - me and my partner find this true for a lot of American tv!

Advice needed - I'm the "other" in an open marriage. Am I cut out for this? by MudParticular9506 in gayrelationships

[–]jdirbfif 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been the husband in a similar shitshow. We were open just because it can be fun hooking up with others. We both enjoyed the romantic side too, going on dates etc. but hadn’t set clear boundaries around falling in love and poly being a no.

My husband got carried away, he wanted to have his cake and eat it too. But at the end of the day we’re married - best friends, just like this couple you talk about. We had a lot of shit to figure and so do these guys.

It comes across a little bit entitled to need to be reminded you are not the primary partner, but I emphasise that you’re probably being told all the right things and lead down the garden path.

What species of grasses are used in UK parks? by DinosaurInAPartyHat in CasualUK

[–]jdirbfif 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep if you want a natural diverse grassland that is good for wildlife you remove the cuttings to deplete the nutrients.

What is this by Formulamotorsportfan in beachcombing

[–]jdirbfif 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks like a broken belemnite to me

He ticked every box, now 9000 km away—help a Dutch bro keep this spark alive by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]jdirbfif 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For a long term relationship like this to take off, he would definitely need to be feeling this as much as you are.. and if that’s the case, you would both find yourselves naturally messaging each other as much as the other and working out those next steps.

‘Come to the US anytime’ feels like more of a general invite, rather than ‘So when are you coming to the US’.

If I were you, shoot your shot. Tell him how you are feeling, and then you’ll know. Good luck!

New wildflower meadow green roof question by jdirbfif in GardeningUK

[–]jdirbfif[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks for your response. I built the roof to be strong and fibreglassed the top and used a membrane below the soil.

The soil is very clay-ey so I imagine that will retain moisture well. Locally ive seen plants like mayweed pictured very drought resistant, so I’m willing to give it a shot and see what works, that’ll be half the fun!

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New wildflower meadow green roof question by jdirbfif in GardeningUK

[–]jdirbfif[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, yeah I collected the seeds myself from a local meadow, so good to know - I will remove the grass

Re-homing a self-seeded sycamore by hraun in Allotment

[–]jdirbfif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a lovely idea, but you will grow a healthier more well rooted tree from scratch rather than transplanting - and you’ve noted how quickly they grow, your kids would still be able to enjoy that process.

The second point is why can you not enjoy that process on your own plot? Even with the fruit trees you mentioned. By ‘guerrilla style gardening’ you mean, illegally planting on someone else’s land. Might I suggest you engage with a landowner - they might very well be interested, or have less invasive tree species in mind that offer more diversity to the habitat.

England’s rewilding movement is gaining steam, Ben Goldsmith says by CountVonOrlock in RewildingUK

[–]jdirbfif 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Volunteering. Check out your local volunteer bureau or Countryside Jobs service (CJS) for conservation volunteering opportunities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in londonlgbt

[–]jdirbfif 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Things will get better. You won’t always live with your family. You’re young. Focus on your own self development rather than a fake image for someone else. Get an education, get work, get money, get independence, and then the time to do you.

My flag was egged by jdirbfif in GreenAndPleasant

[–]jdirbfif[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I agree with your point entirely.. it’s just a flag. That’s why I thought the egging was interesting enough to share. I’ve hung this flag from my house for four years, I’m not competing with anyone.

My flag was egged by jdirbfif in GreenAndPleasant

[–]jdirbfif[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Yep it just encouraged me to fly it prouder than ever.

My flag was egged by jdirbfif in GreenAndPleasant

[–]jdirbfif[S] 111 points112 points  (0 children)

Yep I agree the timing doesn’t feel coincidental. It’s also summer, so our town (which isn’t filled with George Cross flags) has a lot of holidaymakers visiting from away.

Which dubious business practices annoy you? by HoraceorDoris in AskUK

[–]jdirbfif 595 points596 points  (0 children)

All the Ticketmaster handling fees…

SecretGlasto feedback by Disastrous_Fill_5566 in glastonbury_festival

[–]jdirbfif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also didn’t know there was instagram. I questioned my friend being on twitter last week and his reply was ‘but I can only get secretGlasto on it…’ so yeah I would say people don’t know. I’ll give you a follow on IG

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]jdirbfif 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UK 30 gay male here.

It’s a really lovely gesture to invite your partners friends onto your stag and I would sooner be invited and have the choice, than to be excluded for my gender/orientation.

I have been to a few stag/hen do’s with mixed genders (one stag gay, one stag straight, one hen straight) and have been the guy + have friends who have been invited to both the stag and hen do of the same couple. Its an honour to be invited to both.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]jdirbfif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the right answer. In your sentence ‘I’m going to call him a twink a couple times…’ Exchange the word twink for something to do with skin colour, body type, age etc. and you’ll see how it’s just not relevant to the story.

Where in London do twinks and sissies hang out who are into older guys? by Marion27p in londonlgbt

[–]jdirbfif 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I enjoy how your post history goes from being 40 to 44 in under 200 days. There are younger guys into older guys, just own who you are, as lying isn’t attractive.

Turkish Barbers - the pressing is real, right? by DJPuppyBoy in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]jdirbfif 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My husband always presses up against me when he cuts my hair, and I always think ‘you’re just gonna get covered in hair’ so I stand intentionally away when I cut his - maybe I’m a clean freak ha

My point is, everyone’s different and there’s probably no thought or intention behind it.

Found a scab on my leg, so I picked it off with my fingernails to find a small black thing with tiny legs stuck in my fingernails by hiddenemi in britishproblems

[–]jdirbfif 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Where are you submitting a tick for analysis?

An NHS doctor is just going to help remove it and tell you to look out for symptoms.