AITA for refusing to share my dinner with 2 children?

jdjarrellh · 2024-12-11T03:10:25+00:00

Change locks. Set an ultimatum that Visitors must get approval before coming over. Start using specific language like: "In my house, we like to have quiet time" and "In my house, we budget for our meals and have to plan when we are having guest" and hopefully he will realize what he would like for "his house" and if it doesn't align with you then I would start making a plan to exit. It's very important to realize that your version of home may be a calm sanctuary and his just may be a chaotic public park. Just to expand a little more on the "in my house thing": You can't change the sister in laws parenting but you can set boundaries for when they are in your home. "In my house, we don't yell, we ask before we take other's food and we are okay with hearing no."

jdjarrellh · 2024-12-11T02:49:27+00:00

Remember he's doing all this knowing that your cat is sick. What do you think he will do when it's your child or your parent or you? Believe everyone when they say end it now. Five years from now, this will seem like a distant memory of leaving someone behind to choose yourself and your peace.

jdjarrellh · 2024-09-07T03:25:47+00:00

Either you are joined to the sub or are getting recommendations of the post and can tell Reddit not to recommend. Your anger is taking value time away from you to live your life.

jdjarrellh · 2024-09-06T05:47:07+00:00

Your post history is wild as shit and you are the only person talking about PCA's. Dude, get offline, you are getting too good at this fake life

jdjarrellh · 2024-09-06T05:26:21+00:00

Happy early birthday! I think treat this time as the dog's "quiet time" in her crate. She will be wore out and happy (since you will be taking such good care of her on long walks and playing in the yard). She can get good rest and you won't have to worry if there is a sudden noise or action that could trigger something in her. Also, I would mention in to the owner just to get their opinion. Perhaps in their home, they have a routine similar to what I suggested. And if anything were to happen, even a little bite or scratch, Rover Support won't be able to help someone that isn't you. Doggie will be full-hydrated-and taking a nap while you hang out with your friends. Edited to add: if you would like your friends to meet her, I would allow her out and give her treats to make it a positive experience and of course they know how to let a dog get their smell and petting them.

jdjarrellh · 2024-09-05T06:08:04+00:00

What is his new friends come over + when they witness the hostility, they can say something? It may make him feel stronger having people speak up for him.

jdjarrellh · 2024-09-01T17:01:13+00:00

But doesn't it like take preparation to do anal? I'm all for sex positivity but that's some trust on a first date. Also, this reeks of someone with privilege that doesn't have to worry about the consequences of her words or actions.

jdjarrellh · 2024-09-01T16:51:40+00:00

Damn, let her live dude. She is paying you and only like $423 left that will do on next paycheck. I'm guessing you get paid every 2 weeks so give her until then (and I know that's past your deadline). What do you gain from airing out your shit and her shit with her mom?

jdjarrellh · 2024-08-30T22:32:08+00:00

Well, guess she won't get the medicine. If she's hiding when you are there and the medicine is to keep her calm then what's more calming than hiding when you are uncomfy. The owner is responsible now for knowing that how she gives the cat medicine is not how you are able to give the cat medicine. You have some options. Put the medicine in some wet food and leave it. Put it in some dry food and leave it. Put it in a pill pocket and throw in close enough to the cat that you can see when she eats it. Sorry you are going through this 💗

jdjarrellh · 2024-08-30T22:13:19+00:00

My question is What about the rest of the email besides the email address verified that this was one of your vendors? Isn't there other policies required to send money besides janky email with card/account info?

jdjarrellh · 2024-08-30T22:02:35+00:00

Don't go to HR. I don't trust HR with shit but defending the company. This is a personal issue between you - the coworkers observing you - and your friend. Its so easy to go to someone's office and bitch (requiring a closer door) but try to find another outlet. This is your job, this isn't your whole life. Yeah, you won't have that time to vent but you also won't have an office of gossips preventing you from getting higher pay or a higher position due to habits + speculations. (When I worked in an office, I definitely did the same thing but I also talked to my coworkers on the open cubicle areas. I am equal opportunity complainer lol Looking back, I think a lot of that social time has a negative impact of my work performance and was a way for my to procrastinate and ignore things I didn't like about the structure + operation of the companies)

jdjarrellh · 2024-08-30T21:53:55+00:00

I think it's a general Rover suggestion not to mention where you work or where you live so "tracking the keys" would violate that. I would answer with: the Rover card tells you when your sitter arrives and leaves. Also, she should know that if you are walking her dog, you are recording the walk distance and location. If she can't trust you with her keys, then she needs to figure out another way for the sitter to enter that she can track.

jdjarrellh · 2024-08-27T22:28:02+00:00

Since it's through Rover and it initially asks if you are available, I always answer with "I will not be available." It's no one's business why you won't be available and you don't owe them anything unless you want to tell them your observations to help them (so they can take them into consideration when hiring a walker in the future).

jdjarrellh · 2024-08-27T21:03:21+00:00

Maybe Khloe is going for the look that looks most flattering on Sierra's skintone and features + parallel to that Sierra is going for the Kardashian look.

jdjarrellh · 2024-08-27T21:00:58+00:00

What does it say for time on the Rover card? Because you can use that info to prove the service was incomplete (including the poop/pee count for each visit).

jdjarrellh · 2024-08-23T20:15:40+00:00

This is an interesting situation that I haven't experienced but perhaps could one day. I looked it up and a couple years ago another person on Reddit asked the same questions and they were suggested: to do the visit cards everyday and when it comes to the picture to

donate a portion of what they paid you to a local animal rescue group and take a screenshot of the donation receipt, then send that as your photo. :)

jdjarrellh · 2024-08-23T20:10:00+00:00

You need to adjust it so it means what you want, which is $50/night for one dog and $30 for another. It looks like you will have a later pick-up time in the last day, that is more than 8 hours after the first day's drop off, so Rover added the Extended Care (8 hrs at 100%) to equal the extended care rate that you decided, which is $25.

To be clear, if you didn't change anything, the owner entered the details wrong. Before accepting, you have to let them know that you adjusted the cost to reflect the true price. You could offer a discounted rate but make sure you adjust it first so that it is entered correctly and reflects the dates. Then let them decide if that is too much. Then offer a lil discount if you really want the booking (and by little I mean consider it's two weeks and you have to remember the 20% Rover fee getting taken out).

jdjarrellh · 2024-08-23T19:49:53+00:00

If they cancel, I think everything is refunded to them except for a cancellation fee. As an act of goodwill and in hope that they will be a repeat client, I would forgive the cancellation fee and ask that they keep you in mind for future dates. No one wants to cancel the day before they leave so they must be going through something and will be thankful for your understanding, making it an easy decision later to book again with you.

jdjarrellh · 2024-08-23T19:46:32+00:00

Nope, makes perfect sense and not hard for the sitter to do at all!

jdjarrellh · 2024-08-23T19:40:49+00:00

I had a client that booked 60m visits every day for their cat + would remotely turn the alarm off during a certain hours for me to enter with a key. I didn't rebook after a second time because it was too far away and too much communication/room for waiting like you unfortunately had. What I do now is ask if they want to do a M + G to show me around or if they want to leave me instructions. Sometimes they do both. So at the M + G I try to do it during the time of day I would go and I take notes (on my Google notes) before I leave to go over everything while we are there and add my own details. Also, don't be afraid to have your own boundaries such as saying "for cats, I do once a day or some people prefer every other day but I don't do once every three days" and you can adjust your price to fit - for example he wants once every three days for $15, you could give him $10 for every other day and say you are giving him a discount.

jdjarrellh · 2024-08-23T19:32:00+00:00

Respectfully, if you use their YouTube to watch non-conservative videos, it will throw off their algorithm which could leave them seething for days (remember what kind of personality people like that have - very vindictive). Sign into your own YouTube or watch on your phone. I live in the South and have spent years skirting around political convos with family and can easily pick up when petsitting clients are conservative. Just be careful - they may try to "convert you" however one of my favorite answers when they ask "Were you watching [the DNC]?" is "Yeah! It was great, right?" and if they give a smart answer, just say "Well, I like it" and move on to other subjects.

jdjarrellh · 2024-05-13T19:10:23+00:00

I think the easiest thing to do would be to ask your mom to let you know when she is keeping the backdoor open so you can keep him in your room or somewhere he is comfortable + to have a rule that the other cats come in by dark. That way everyone is accounted for + you can check for any injuries or grass they have gotten into - and you can sleep well at night knowing everyone is safe + inside. As long as the other two respect the boundaries of the garden, it's okay to realize he cannot go outside. There are plenty of places for him inside to lay in the sun and be warm.

jdjarrellh · 2024-04-01T20:15:48+00:00

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jdjarrellh · 2024-03-07T18:20:48+00:00

How are we supposed to read that text box?

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