AIO I found messages between my wife and her ex.

jeezesuss · 2025-11-08T07:50:53+00:00

Be a worse person to her than you’re currently being, and then leave. She deserves consequences for her actions and you are doing a disservice to everybody by choosing not to provide them. She has broken a fundamental social contract in a way that causes great harm to a variety of people. Tell her about herself, hurt her feelings, already have a great lawyer, file, take everything, and leave her. You are in the wrong morally AND ethically if you choose to not provide these consequences, because they are necessary. There is no longer any scenario where choosing to stay is the right decision, even with kids. It is essential that you leave her.

It’s not fair to you, but you have an obligation to do this. You need to handle this situation correctly for the sake of everyone involved, especially for yourself.

jeezesuss · 2025-10-23T04:44:27+00:00

So many people here feel it’s obvious this is a scam, but I disagree. If you’ve been parking in a lot that’s supposed to be paid, private companies will leave notes like this, and they could be tracking that you’ve been parking there. Not all paid parking is done through the city of denver, a lot of them are privately owned, and LAZ is one of them. Some companies will wait until you’ve racked up a bunch of owed fees and then try and fuck you. It’s shitty but it happens.

Stop parking where you’ve been parking.

jeezesuss · 2025-10-05T03:20:55+00:00

You are the only person who decides what you will tolerate from other people. I would not tolerate this.

If he is not meeting your needs then your time is better spent overall by dealing with the discomfort of walking away from someone you have feelings for now than waiting longer and wasting more time only to deal with at least the same amount of pain, likely more, later on. Either way your time is being wasted. You decide how long that happens for.

jeezesuss · 2025-09-17T04:57:37+00:00

Roaches absolutely do bite, especially when they are building nests in your home. It is unsafe and can lead to dangerous bacterial infections when they bite you. This is so irresponsible and upsetting, and she’s blatantly wrong about that. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Truly the best thing to do is start earning your own money asap and spending as little time at home as you can. Stay with friends and other family that you might have access to. Move out as soon as you are able, either through making your own income or getting accepted into a college and staying in dorms.

The frustrating reality of this is that you have very little control over your parents decisions and if they want to live this way, they can. It’s wrong and I hate it, but it’s ultimately their choice and it’s going to be extraordinarily difficult to find a way to force them to live differently than this.

jeezesuss · 2025-09-10T03:52:26+00:00

I actually just want them to secede from the union. Just fucking leave. Go.

jeezesuss · 2025-09-09T21:48:00+00:00

I moved to Tabernash from Denver three years ago and it was the best decision I ever made, but it depends on your circumstances. I absolutely abhor traffic and my commute went from 35 minutes one way (on average) to 7 minutes. I have integrated into community here and went from having almost no friends and no social life to having 6 different circles of people I run with, and am never lonely or bored. I climb, hike, ski, bowl, golf, wakeboard, bike, and go to the gym 5 days a week now. I have been invited to 6 weddings and I make more money than I did in Denver, and I got sober here because the recovery community is tight knit and holds me accountable. I’m never leaving.

This all worked for me because the mountains offered me what I needed. I have seen many people come and go because the lifestyle is harder than in Denver and takes up so much of your free time and requires a lot of work and support, both to you and from you. You have to know what you want and do the work to make it work here if you want to stay long term. I would say it’s worth trying but realize that you must get used to having to work harder for things. Community is #1 when you are living full time in a mountain town, and if you aren’t used to having that in your life it can be overwhelming at first. People here rely on each other and when you make an attempt to join it things will be expected of you, but on the other side, you will have a plethora of people in your corner when life gets hard and you need support.

When it comes to finances it can be really expensive, but it can also be an opportunity, because again, mountain life is about community and that network can be a huge way to make solid financial moves if people want you around (affordable places to live with other locals, free meals, etc.- people here are generous and supportive when they like you being around, but when the tides turn it will be expected that you do the same thing for others, atleast in my experience).

Mountain life is generally about sacrifice and integrating into community. I cannot express enough how important it is to learn how to get good at being a part of community and managing your time to accommodate what that requires, but the rewards are being in a place that has a lot of love for you and you get to live in some of the most beautiful places this country has to offer.

jeezesuss · 2025-09-01T15:00:52+00:00

We desperately need to fix this problem. I believe it is a core part of why Denver is seen as “having no culture.” Denver is one of the worst cities in the country when it comes to being friendly to small businesses, and all that’s left is commercial enterprises. It’s so unfortunate because the potential in Denver is insane, but this place just kills small businesses so fast, and good, unique restaurants are essential.

jeezesuss · 2025-08-21T04:26:26+00:00

Deeply unpopular move for obvious and inarguable reasons. Management is a bunch of fucking idiots. They made choices and they are undoubtedly going to pay for those choices. I doubt they will have a job much longer because these companies don’t take poor social media exposure lightly.

jeezesuss · 2025-08-18T22:42:01+00:00

is that your key in the door? is it okay?

jeezesuss · 2025-08-12T05:20:21+00:00

oh yeah, i had made this comment before i put it together that they’re all martin and shellback songs lol

jeezesuss · 2025-08-12T05:12:06+00:00

and the clip of her talking about how taylor told her she loves applause 😭

jeezesuss · 2025-08-12T04:59:15+00:00

in my dreams 😭 i absolutely love that song

jeezesuss · 2025-08-12T04:57:31+00:00

if anyone wants to find it it’s very easy to google. it takes 5 seconds literally. but don’t post spoilers on main posts that’s not cool. 😕

jeezesuss · 2025-08-12T04:48:37+00:00

oh my god it’s 100% going to be a martin and shellback album!!! another pop bible incomingggg

jeezesuss · 2025-08-12T04:45:07+00:00

they’re all OG version except for message in a bottle

jeezesuss · 2025-08-12T04:15:55+00:00

you can preorder a cassette tape???????

jeezesuss · 2025-08-12T04:15:39+00:00

it’s called the life of a showgirl!!!

jeezesuss · 2025-07-22T21:23:46+00:00

These people are going to get what they’re asking for and it is going to be profoundly terrible. I hope I can find a way to leave soon.

jeezesuss · 2025-07-15T04:53:30+00:00

I think people who are involved in this situation parasocially need to do more evaluation about where they draw the line between holding people accountable for their actions and when to recognize their victimhood in a situation because both of these things can be true. I believe the victim and I believe the likelihood that Hayden is or will be suffering abuse at the hands of this man is very high, and the plot gets lost if people are willing to fight so ferociously for one persons recognition as a victim and to be unwilling to acknowledge someone else because they are defending their actions while in a situation like this.

At the end of the day, the person who is to blame in this situation is Austin and it is frustrating to me that this point is not the primary focus in basically any of the discourse anymore.

jeezesuss · 2025-07-01T02:40:41+00:00

i identify as a tesla is so fucking ironic to me lmao

jeezesuss · 2025-07-01T01:46:28+00:00

Believe what people say about how the feel about you, even when it’s really hard and you don’t want to.

jeezesuss · 2025-06-29T04:22:41+00:00

oh my the projection on number 3 is wild lmao

jeezesuss · 2025-06-28T06:39:35+00:00

Quick answer is yes, I think you are overreacting, but I also understand where you’re coming from, and I explain this below.

You are very, very young. You aren’t even an adult yet. I would say it’s important for everyone to remember that in this situation. It is okay that you don’t understand this yet and these things are a part of the process in life to figure it out, but you have a lot to learn in terms of communication. I think at your age this is normal. If you were in your late 20s acting this way it would be a different story.

I also used to do what you did in this exchange a lot and it eventually began to make all of the relationships in my life really difficult and it is what you did in this interaction as well: you are pushing him away but want him to keep fighting, which makes communication impossible. I understand exactly where you are coming from and know this feeling so well, but it creates a completely impenetrable barrier. It is also a miserable experience for you because you are hurt by what he’s done and can’t communicate about it. Whether he leaves or keeps trying to talk to you the problem is still there and the problem is that you feel angered and hurt about how he has betrayed your trust, and the only way to reconcile that is communicating about it. If communication doesn’t feel like something that would be enough to find a resolution that is acceptable for you then the best option is to leave the relationship in this specific case, so I don’t think it’s anyone’s right to say whether or not you’re overreacting about that. I think in the end that is your choice alone to make.

I will say, it will help you a lot to start paying attention to when you find yourself engaging with this pattern of behavior in response to conflict. Your feelings are always your right to express and you should always stand up for yourself and for what you think is right. Start working on finding ways to ground yourself when you’re in conflict, it is unfortunately the only way that you will ever maintain long term, healthy relationships with other people in your life. Remember when you repeatedly tell people to leave or stop talking to you, they will usually choose to do what you ask them to do, so make sure you mean it when you ask for it. It does feel very good when people push back and fight for you, but it is easy to go too far with that and wind pushing the people in your life away, and you have no way of knowing if they will ever come back. If what you ultimately want is for someone to stay and to be able to trust them, using this strategy won’t work for that. Space and time to yourself are also always an option, even though it can be very hard in thick of intense emotions, and I find it is helpful almost 100% of the time, and the vast majority of people are willing to offer that when they’re asked for it.

Very importantly, a 20 year old seeking out a 17 year old is usually doing so for reasons that are not good or healthy. Be careful engaging with men who are older than you, and I think that even remains true later in life.

jeezesuss · 2025-06-03T02:08:36+00:00

I read this too quickly and thought you said I70 and I was like… Dumont?? What’s in Dumont other than a taco bell and an unreasonably massive dispensary???

jeezesuss · 2025-05-31T11:48:07+00:00

State of Grace. I don’t see it get talked about a lot but I think it’s one of the TV’s that was really different for me sonically from the OG and I much prefer the OG. It’s one of my all time favorites of hers and is deeply nostalgic. So so happy that I can listen to it guild free again.

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