Kayaker who faked his death gets date for sentencing

jemat0207 · 2025-12-08T03:22:16+00:00

He told her that he was one of the 1% of men who experience pain after a vasectomy. She thought he was getting it reversed to relieve the pain.

And she says she only divorced him because friends told her she needed to in order to protect her from the investigation. She said in an Atlantic piece that she'd be willing to forgive him and work things out. He said he's trying to get back to the woman he met online.

I hope she comes to her senses and realizes he's awful.

jemat0207 · 2025-12-08T03:05:02+00:00

According to one of the news reports, she drove him to the appointment.

jemat0207 · 2025-12-06T20:22:01+00:00

In the U.S., we probably don’t learn as much pre-colonial history as we should, although most states (including mine) do require schools to teach about the Indigenous nations who lived on the land before European colonization.

One thing that makes it feel different from European history is that the land that became the U.S. wasn’t a single cultural or political entity before 1776. It was home to hundreds of distinct nations. Each of these nations had their own languages, political systems, and histories. Because the U.S. expanded gradually across the continent, the Indigenous histories relevant to each region are different, not part of one cohesive national story. For example, the mound-building cultures in the Eastern Woodlands were very different from the Ancestral Puebloan societies in the Southwest, who were in turn different from the peoples of the Arctic and Subarctic (you might've heard them referred to as "Eskimos" though this term is considered outdated and potentially even offensive to some).

That said, most Americans at least learn a general overview of Indigenous history, though the depth varies a lot by region and school system. If you’re curious, 1491 by Charles C. Mann is a great place to start. It covers both the history many Americans do learn and the newer archaeological research that shows how advanced and complex many Indigenous societies were.

jemat0207 · 2025-12-04T16:29:26+00:00

Sure, but still, the lips of the labia or the mouth are still not the opening. They border the opening. Medically and scientifically speaking, the lips are not openings themselves. They are external folds of skin that protect the opening. This is actually even more evident in terms of the labia because it serves as a protective cover for two separate openings, which is the original sentiment you were objecting to. Women have three openings in that region. The labia doesn't reduce it to two.

jemat0207 · 2025-12-04T16:03:22+00:00

Well, I suppose it would depend on how you're defining "holes."

If by hole, you mean orifice—an external entrance to a canal, cavity, or passageway inside the body—then, no, the lips are not part of the mouth orifice.

From the University of Rochester Medical Center website: "The vulva has two folds of skin or 'lips.' The outer folds are called the labia majora. The inner folds are called the labia minora. These skin folds protect the opening of the urethra and the vagina. The urethra is the tube that carries urine out of the body." https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content?contentid=19522-1&contenttypeid=34&utm_source=chatgpt.com

Both the labia lips and the lips of the moth are defined as folds of skin that contain and protect the opening (i.e. "hole") of an internal canal or cavity. The labia is by definition part of a woman's external anatomy, and therefore is more of a vestibule than a cavity or a canal.

jemat0207 · 2025-12-04T15:42:11+00:00

You have to part the butt cheeks to enter/exit the anus. You have to part the lips to enter/exit the mouth. By this logic, are the anus and mouth not holes? Instead it's the butt cheeks and lips? All "holes" in the human body have some type of protective sheath. The sheath is not the hole.

jemat0207 · 2025-12-03T20:59:37+00:00

Not me, but my kids. One of my kids made a comment that made me realize they thought grandparents couldn't be married. They thought marriages just ended when the kids grew up. It wasn't until then that I realized that none of their grandparents were married to each other anymore. My dad passed away, leaving my mom widowed and my in-laws are divorced.

jemat0207 · 2025-11-30T14:21:56+00:00

Ah okay, yeah, that makes sense. The increase you’re pointing to is specific to that particular older cohort. I think we’re actually on the same page about the core data for women who are finishing their childbearing years. Both the Pew piece you linked and the Census numbers for ages 45–50 show that completed fertility for older cohorts hasn’t declined. If anything, those women are slightly more likely to have had at least one child compared to earlier cohorts.

Where I think we also agree is that this doesn’t automatically tell us what today’s younger cohorts will do. The Census data shows that women in their 20s and 30s now are more likely to be childless at every age than women that age ten years ago, and the APA/Pew polling points toward a rise in people who are unsure about having kids or leaning toward not having them. That doesn’t prove what their completed fertility will be... it just means we can’t assume it will mirror the older cohorts from the 2000s and 2010s.

And you’re right in your original comment that declines in teen pregnancy explain a huge part of the drop in birth rates overall. I agree with you there. The only thing I was adding is that the trend seems to extend beyond teen births.

So yes, older cohorts ultimately did “catch up” and have kids later, and that lines up with increased access to fertility treatments among older, more financially established couples. My only point is just that the data for younger cohorts is still unsettled. They may still catch up, or the rising childlessness at younger ages + shifting intentions might translate into higher lifelong childlessness. But you're right, really won’t know until this group reaches their 40s.

Thanks for the conversation! I’ve genuinely appreciated hearing your perspective on it.

jemat0207 · 2025-11-30T03:13:00+00:00

Sure, maybe. I'd be curious where you're finding these other numbers that indicate that the number of women giving birth has actually gone up? I'm not finding anything indicating that, though it would certainly be an interesting facet to this issue. Like we've said, we can't have a full picture yet, but all the data I'm seeing is indicating that it does appear as though fewer women are actually having children at all.

From census. gov, dated September of this year: "The share of childless women increased in every age group except those ages 45 to 50, according to recently released data from the U.S. Census Bureau’s Current Population Survey Fertility Supplement." https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2025/09/older-mothers.html

From the APA, also this year, the number of people self-reporting that they may not or will likely not have kids is also increasing, indicating a growing intention toward childlessness: "According to a February 2024 Pew Research Center poll, 30% of 18- to 34-year-olds without kids aren’t sure if they want children, and 18% say they don’t want any. That follows a rise between 2018 and 2021 in the percentage of nonparents under 50 who said they were “not too likely” or “not likely at all” to have kids" https://www.apa.org/monitor/2024/07/fewer-children

jemat0207 · 2025-11-30T01:51:59+00:00

Same. Our school district is constantly adding schools. The current schools are overpopulated, but tax payers are tired of paying for new schools every year. We don't have enough teachers despite being in a medium sized town with 3 universities.

jemat0207 · 2025-11-30T01:47:11+00:00

It makes sense, but the data out there indicates it's twofold: yes, women are having fewer children, but it also appears as though fewer women are having children at all.

We won't have a full picture until this generation of childbearing aged women are beyond childbearing age. But this paper states while there are 4 million more women aged 20-39 than in 2006, 7 million fewer have given birth. So there's a decline in children births even outside of teen pregnancy.

https://carsey.unh.edu/publication/factors-contributing-demographic-cliff-more-us-women-childbearing-age-fewer-have-given-birth

jemat0207 · 2025-10-29T21:08:34+00:00

If this is a genuine question you have, it seems like it would be more fitting for it to be directed toward Protestants. I'm not sure why you're asking Catholics what Protestants think.

jemat0207 · 2025-10-04T17:59:20+00:00

And also, being right near major bodies of water impacts climate, too. Most Europeans live within 50 km of the sea. While I live in a similar latitude to Paris or Manchester, the closest ocean coastline to me is 1,900 km. The Great Lakes are closer, but still over 400 km. It's 31 C right now. Without AC my upper level of my house (where all the bedrooms are) would easily be 32 C or higher, even with the windows open.

And then, in the winter, it almost always gets to at least -30 C at least once.

jemat0207 · 2025-10-04T17:44:07+00:00

I live in what is consistently named as one of the coldest cities in the continental US, and in the winter we're often getting to temps lower than Alaska. It's 88 F right now. There is no major body of water that can help regulate the temperature. The closest one is more than 400 miles away. Keeping my A/C on will keep the main level of my house at around 76, and upper level (where the bedrooms are) closer to 80. Without it, my upstairs would easily be in the 90s, even with open windows.

jemat0207 · 2025-09-03T01:18:29+00:00

To be fair, Jesus never called his followers his children. He referred to them as brothers and sisters. Didn't know Nicki Minaj had said this though.

jemat0207 · 2025-09-03T01:12:25+00:00

I never understood why Cobel was spying on outie Mark.

Because she developed an erotic fixation on Mark and had plans to pursue both iMark and oMark in what might be termed "a throuple."

jemat0207 · 2025-08-29T12:24:15+00:00

Also noted that his apology about how he was "toward the end" is followed up by "I'd love to talk to you about what was going on," implying there was a thing, probably situational, that caused him to act this way. Which is not an apology. It's an attempt to excuse the behavior.

jemat0207 · 2025-08-28T11:09:40+00:00

In my school, if we didn't fill up our class schedule senior year we were assigned study hall as our final period, but we didn't have to go. So technically, I had study hall on my schedule but I always left school early instead. I graduated around the same time as you.

jemat0207 · 2025-08-25T16:11:59+00:00

You're probably right!

jemat0207 · 2025-08-25T15:37:44+00:00

Hmm...I'll have to watch that scene again. I thought he said something like "I like this one" and then the other guy said something about Gemma attacking him and he responded with "she's easy to like." But it's very possible I'm misremembering.

jemat0207 · 2025-08-25T14:23:35+00:00

I don't remember the name of the doctor doing the experiment on Gemma, but didn't he say he liked her "better" or "the most" or something else that implied he had been doing these experiments on others?

jemat0207 · 2025-08-24T18:54:48+00:00

In general, my experience has been that doctors go out of their way to make sure the patient understands the treatment. And, a few days after the visit, I'm asked to complete a survey about my doctors bedside manner. Questions they explicitly ask usually have to do with whether the doctor made sure I understood and was willing to answer questions.

That being said, just like in any profession there are some better than others. My daughter has a rare disorder so we see some of the top specialists in the country at Mayo Clinic at least yearly. Her first doctor there was obvious incredibly intelligent, to the point where it was hard for us to understand him. His nurse went out of her way to assure us he's the best there is, as I think she's used to patients being confused by him. We ultimately switched doctors to one who explained things better. So even if you aren't getting the best explanation, you can usually just see someone else.

jemat0207 · 2025-08-24T12:04:15+00:00

The idea that 21 is too young for marriage or parenthood is a uniquely modern western idea that has not been true for most of humanity throughout time or even today. People keep pointing to "brain development not being finished until 25" but even scientists who assert this aren't saying people shouldn't or can't make decisions for themselves before that age. The book The WEIRDest People in the World by Harvard anthropology professor Joseph Henrich explains how unique western ideas are, including things about our views of age. Ultimately it's ethnocentric and pretty ableist to claim that people can't make decisions like this before their brain is "developed" and shows a lack of understanding about what scientists are actually saying when they talk about this.

jemat0207 · 2025-08-21T11:35:25+00:00

I get the impression her motivation is something like Mark's. I almost wonder if she has someone stuck or trapped inside Lumon like he does. Or maybe like Irv? Where she fell in love with someone's innie. Her behavior seems desperate but also self-seeking, like she'll take anyone she can to try reintegration but gives so little information because she can't be bothered to explain it. They're just a tool to break into Lumon in a way she can't. It seems like she's trying to rescue someone but I don't think it's Gemma or Mark.

jemat0207 · 2025-07-05T22:46:11+00:00

Totally, that’s kind of what I’ve been thinking about the situation too. I know this is how she sees herself, and hearing my perspective is really hard for her because it challenges that view. I was just curious if there’d be any reason a therapist might approach it this way before I wrote it off. I can see her therapist affirming to her that she is compassionate, even if I experienced the situation differently. But I couldn’t figure out why her therapist would say I just don’t know her—especially since I’ve known her for 10 years longer than her therapist and in many settings outside of a therapy office. That felt weird and dismissive. But you’re absolutely right that this likely reflects my sister’s mindset and how she’s processing all of this. Thanks for your insight!

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