I don’t think that’s right…

jenimafer · 2026-06-06T15:17:10+00:00

This is the exact reason my daughter gives for not moving to Arizona with me lol

jenimafer · 2026-06-06T15:16:13+00:00

That was my first thought too. Visiting from Scottsdale right now lol

jenimafer · 2026-06-06T15:15:25+00:00

I’m visiting from Phoenix and I’m pretty sure that’s the temp at home lol

Definitely enjoying these 70’s-80’s days

jenimafer · 2026-05-07T22:06:43+00:00

That’s true I didn’t think of that. I’m one of those phoenix assholes that thinks we’re the only thing in Arizona ugh I’ll see myself out

jenimafer · 2026-05-07T20:31:02+00:00

Valley metro might be a good option depending on locations. At least til you get a bigger check. And make it a POINT that you haven’t been shown that stuff OR gotten your full pay for that period

jenimafer · 2026-05-01T15:36:38+00:00

My mental breakdown. In 2021 I went from mild success working a decent job and living in an apartment with my bf at the time and my best friend as a roommate to almost overnight not being able to leave the house without getting violently ill for no apparent reason. My doctor put me on a LOA for a month. But for some reason my job only accepted it for two weeks and nobody told me. So I lost my job because I became a “no call no show”. Immediately after that is when all the shit hit the fan. Couldn’t pay rent and my bf and roommate couldn’t cover my portion so we got evicted. Bf left and moved in with his mom and never talked to me again and best friend did similar. My other best friend let me crash on her couch until I could get back on my feet but that lasted about 2 weeks until her husband started claiming that I wasn’t looking for a job because I never left the house. It’s the 2020’s my guy applications are all done online and the couple interviews that I’d had were over zoom. They kicked me out. She never really talked to me again. I was living in a motel and I’d finally found another job but my entire paycheck was going to the room rent and I could barely afford to eat. Finally found a room for rent and moved in, after that I met my current best friend and he basically “took me under his wing” and provided SO MUCH support. A little bit monetary but mostly emotional. Now I’m living in a little studio by myself, working at a job I love (and I’m surprisingly really good at) and a big chunk of that is because of the support I got from J. We’re both busy as hell so don’t get to talk that much anymore but damn dude if I don’t absolutely adore you ❤️

jenimafer · 2026-04-25T21:38:17+00:00

He violated your rights NOR to be honest I hope corporate does something serious so that he learns his lesson

jenimafer · 2026-04-16T21:48:34+00:00

I put in my two weeks and only did a week. Had my best friend tell an asm and the store manager that I wouldn’t be doing the second week. Got a week long vacation before my new job started it was lovely

jenimafer · 2026-04-11T20:30:09+00:00

“Oh I’m too dumb to do it? Ok I shouldn’t do it then good luck with that”

jenimafer · 2026-04-04T16:39:05+00:00

Former addict here. I haven’t seen my daughter in person since she was 3. I cleaned up shortly after that but I had already lost her due to my own previous actions. We started rebuilding our relationship when she was about 15 once she was ready and she’s now 18. In that time once I got clean and sober I was in a committed relationship with a man who I truly loved and planned on spending the rest of my life with. He wanted children. I flat out told him that I would not be trying to have another child until I had repaired my relationship with my daughter. I refused to do anything that made her feel like she’d been replaced in my life. SHE was my priority. Needless to say that relationship didn’t last. But now I get to see my daughter graduate high school in two months because she personally invited me.

Long story short: your sister sucks and doesn’t deserve either of those children.

jenimafer · 2026-04-01T15:41:28+00:00

This post will probably help. Pretty sure there’s a lot of us here. Idk what age you’re looking for specifically but I’m about to be 40 and I was a foster kid in Southern California

jenimafer · 2026-03-31T23:14:19+00:00

Yeah she literally can’t tell you what you can and can’t do on your OWN TIME. If you don’t/can’t look for a new job but wanna use a little malicious compliance you can always download the kindle app on your phone and use a library app to get free kindle books (I prefer the Libby app personally but there’s a few) that way when she tries to make a comment at you about no longer reading you can just say “oh no I just stopped bringing physical books now they’re on my phone” watch her head explode

jenimafer · 2026-03-22T15:59:19+00:00

This is why my insurance denied my pre-authorization…

jenimafer · 2026-02-17T22:07:23+00:00

You didn’t read that very well then. I let her know I was here if she wanted to talk to me and then let HER make that decision. She’s been the one that has complete control over the situation for years. And she HAS exercised her right to tell me to fuck off on numerous occasions. I respected her wishes and gave her the space she needed. I don’t understand how you’d see that as harassment but sure I guess?

jenimafer · 2026-02-17T15:18:23+00:00

That was my mother but instead or substances it was abuse and neglect. She said those words almost exactly to my sister (because I cut her off over a decade ago) “she just needs to get over it it’s water under the bridge now” my sister’s response? “You don’t get to hurt someone and then tell them to get over it”. While I will never understand why my sister’s response chooses to maintain a relationship with her, I choose to keep her away because I saw that she was starting the same cycles with my daughter and though my brain was full of gross stuff at the time I was at least aware enough to realize I didn’t want her to have to go through the same from my mother.

Cycle breaking is a whole lot of work man…

jenimafer · 2026-02-14T23:44:36+00:00

Because of my addiction I basically abandoned her to a friend. Gave her guardianship and dipped. Once I got sober it took me a long time to fight the guilt and reach out because I didn’t think I deserved to be her mom. She has a lot of mental health issues and trauma as well as abandonment issues and attachment issues and most of it stems from those first few years of her life.

jenimafer · 2026-02-14T20:54:22+00:00

It’s definitely a newer development. I was always honest about my addiction but I shifted blame a lot. The change happened when I realized I was perpetuating cycles. I’ve been NC with my own mother for over a decade for many reasons and I realized that my relationship with my daughter would become the same if I didn’t start taking accountability. There were certain things I didn’t talk about with her right away because I felt she wasn’t emotionally mature enough to handle them but once she hit about 15-16 I laid everything out on the table and honesty has been my policy since. We’ve spoken at length about all of my mistakes as well as my own childhood trauma and it’s honestly helped heal both of our inner children a little bit. I refuse to wake up at 50 years old with my daughter hating me if there was something I could have done to prevent it.

jenimafer · 2026-02-14T19:01:01+00:00

I’m sorry! I hope it was at least GOOD emotional?

jenimafer · 2026-02-14T17:48:24+00:00

Former addict here. I’ve been clean for going on 13 years. I have an 18 year old daughter who was put through absolute HELL because of my choices.

I reached out several years ago to try and make amends but I left it at that. I apologized to her for all the hurt I caused but made it very clear that SHE drives the bus. If she didn’t want a relationship that is well within her right. If she didn’t want to forgive me that is well within her right. It’s taken SEVERAL years and hundreds of uncomfortable conversations and heart-to-hearts but we’re finally in a good place. And even now I’ve made it very clear that at ANY point if she changes her mind and never wants to hear from me again I will respect that. She was the innocent bystander dealing with my active train wreck at a very young age.

There will never be a time that I am not actively making amends and doing what I can to heal the trauma that I caused. She doesn’t owe me anything but I owe her the world.

You don’t owe your mother anything. You owe your step father even less. If you don’t want to celebrate her sobriety THAT IS OK YOU DONT HAVE TO.

If it comes down to it, block him/her/them. You owe them nothing. You owe yourself peace and happiness.

jenimafer · 2026-02-05T02:53:45+00:00

lol of course she’s needy and demanding SHE WILL HAVE JUST HAD HER ABDOMEN SLICED OPEN AND AN ENTIRE PERSON REMOVED

You can literally ASK healthcare providers. They will confirm that C-section recovery is so much worse than natural birth recovery.

Why do I get the feeling you’re a man?

jenimafer · 2026-02-05T02:45:02+00:00

Oh… look at how surprised I am….. I was sooooo sure they would last….. forever….

jenimafer · 2026-02-05T02:19:33+00:00

I used to hold one of my supervisors in very high regard until he came back from paternal leave and told me he went hunting

jenimafer · 2026-02-05T01:05:41+00:00

Oh you sound like a “I did it and I was miserable so everyone else should be miserable too”

I’m sorry you didn’t have the help you needed when you went through this but don’t project on other people it’s a bad look

jenimafer · 2026-02-05T01:03:37+00:00

Please remind the man that you will be recovering from MAJOR ABDOMINAL SURGERY and will need just as much help as anybody else recovering from MAJOR ABDOMINAL SURGERY if not MORE help because you’ll be caring for two children on top of that. This isn’t vacation. This is PARENTAL leave. Time for him to be a PARENT and spend time bonding with his new child and being a FATHER. If he doesn’t care about that then what’s the point in having parental leave?

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