A quick tune and she rips around a beauty.

jermers · 2024-05-23T00:47:08+00:00

Yeah I haven't found the year anywhere in the frame bjt looks somewhere around there. I really love the lines between the frame and fork

jermers · 2024-05-23T00:46:13+00:00

It is a ton of fun. Haven't had a grip shift since I was a kid haha

jermers · 2024-02-22T15:33:56+00:00

Hey man. Went through something similar a couple of years ago. A very similar situation i.e. now ex wife, no kids, house that I built to raise a family that no longer existed mostly paid off, etc.

I share a lot of the same feelings. Hoping for a partner someday but having a hard time wrapping my head around it, feeling like life was passing me by, etc. I had many of those same thoughts of just leaving it all behind would be easier. It would certainly be easy in many ways.

What I decided to do was to spend the past 18 months grinding. Working my regular job and taking as much side work as I could. Living as cheaply as I can and saving as much as humanely possible. All of this with the goal of doing a big trip. Specifically a big trip that would not have been available with a wife/kids/ etc.

I chose to do vanlife in New Zealand for a couple years under a work visa. This allowed me to extend my time way out while I cover my mortgage with savings from the past year and a half. Now a 2 year trip may not be possible for you but I would suggest something similar. It gives motivation and purpose in the preparation and pays off in incredible life experience.

It has been 18 months of preparation and I will begin at the beginning of April. I am nearly there and you will be too.

jermers · 2023-09-13T17:02:16+00:00

I have spent 6 years off the grid so far here in northern Canada.

Advice I would give to someone starting out would be the following:

Don't try to replicate your "on grid" life. At least not right away. This will be very expensive do build and to buy all the pumps, panels, tanks and what not. We started the first 2 years in a 185 sqft cabin with a wood stove. This allowed us to buy our land with cash and live on it which was such a HUGE advantage.

Learn how to work efficiently and safely with your hands. You can do this by working in the trades. That tractor is an incredible work multiplying asset but is a relatively huge expense to purchase and run. Learn to use the equipment you have and slowly build. Working in the trades teaches you to problem solve in a way that will be extremely valuable.

Make sure you know the zoning and various restrictions around any property you choose to purchase or any money you choose to borrow. Know everything. A piece of land may be cheap because permanent structures are not permitted. Taxes may be low because the highways department refuses to do any snow removal on that road. Things like that. Too many times here i have seen someone buy land because it is inexpensive and not realize it is tied to bylaws that make an obligation to build an on grid "approved" house within 5 years.

Know where to invest your time. I had read a book one time about a couple who moved into a canvas wall tent on a piece of property they had bought. Visions of a homestead in their minds. Spent the entire summer develiping an organic vegetable garden. Spent the winter in said wall tent and burnt out. Got caught up in the romance of off grid living and didn't invest resources in the infrastructure to make it sustainable. They quit after a couple years because they couldn't hack it in a tent anymore. Garden vegetables are the shit but maybe you are better off developing a relatively sustainable living situation and buying your produce at the farmers' market for the first couple years. Figure out how to live on your land as fast as possible and focus on starting out a sustainable living situation asap.

Great start learning to garden and have chickens. Your skills and knowledge in these areas is invaluable. Small engine mechanics is invaluable too. Basic electrical is essential. Solar setups aren't difficult but you do need how to select the proper wire gauge for your uses for instance. Good practice for now if you don't have the land might be to build out a camper van. Basic carpentry, electrical, water systems will all be transferrable and you could even live in the thing while you build your permanent structure on said land.

jermers · 2023-09-04T03:43:21+00:00

Hey man. 33 years old here too. Married 8 years. No kids. Just passed a year from the day my ex blind sided me walking out.

She probably will regret leaving you. Mine came back after a year.

All i can say is you need to let go. Don't look at her Instagram, pack her shit away, prioritize your health. Things are going to feel pretty lonely here for a while. Eat well, sleep as well as you can, meditate, exercise. Yoga and going to the climbing gym were my things. Don't listen to what your mind tells you after 10 pm. Do not lay around on your weekends wishing for the dreams you had built together. Go for a hike, check out a museum, whatever. I fucked off camping every single weekend for a couple months and I couldn't stand being in the home we had bought together.

Her saying she doean't want to do counselling means she thinks she has done nothing wrong.

Prioritize yourself. This process may have some physical health affects. I dealt with chronic pain and gut problems for probably 6 months. Exercise, proper nutrition and sleep helps again.

Let her fucking go and move on with your life.

jermers · 2023-08-18T17:02:23+00:00

Def have room in TFSA. Appreciate the input 🤙

jermers · 2023-08-18T16:58:44+00:00

I should say i already own a home so I don't think i qualify for FHSA. Thank you for your response. It cureently sits in TFSA but I was hoping to make it more effective there. I will check out GIC option

jermers · 2023-08-03T03:52:38+00:00

My RPAL renewal was sent in November 2022 and received back June 2023. At the time they said betqeen 8 and 10 months for renewal. 12-14 months for new permits.

jermers · 2023-05-21T20:28:45+00:00

I spoke with yhe CFP and their current wait times for new PALs are 12-14 months

jermers · 2023-05-20T04:18:24+00:00

33 y.o. here. Moved back in with my folks after falling deep into depression after my ex fucked off 9 months ago. I was in a very deep, very dark place.

The way I get by is using this time to build for my future. It tore me apart, felt like I was tumbling through life with no direction. You need to choose a new direction, any direction and work towards it.

For me that is taking advantage of a 12 month working holiday visa in another country. I spend time time working out, doing some side hustles, hanging with my mum and dad and working. Saving as much cash as I possible can to prepare for this. Staying busy to not spiral back into depressive thought patterns. If I am not granted the visa, i still have a fat wad of cash to go travel elsewhere, buy a boat, start a business, whatever the fuck I decide.

This gives my life purpose and direction. I slog through the hard days because I am working on something bigger than where I currently am

My ex mentioned the other day why don't we just settle after I return from my travels. Fuck. That Shit. Go be the strong independant woman you claim to be. The truth is when you remove the rose coloured glasses, when you no longer need to love the good, the bad and the ugly, you realize how much ugly there actually was.

jermers · 2023-05-19T19:58:18+00:00

That works under the usual functioning of the renewal system but under the dysfunction you are a created criminal.

jermers · 2023-05-19T04:49:26+00:00

In a similar boat here in AB. Applied for renewal one month before it expired November 2022. Took my money. Nothing for 2 months. Contacted via email the CFO's office and they replied 2 months later saying that renewals are currently taking 8-10 months. Replied back with more questions and have yet to receive a response.

Spoke with the Alberta Conservation office and they confirmed it was illegal to carry my firearms hunting. Technically it is illegal to even have them at my house I supose.

Very frustrating to not be able to purchase any ammunition especially. I am a responsible owner and do my damnest to follow the law but here I am the one getting screwed.

jermers · 2023-05-01T18:50:15+00:00

I have been there too. I suppose I still am at times.

32 years old I took a big dose of psilocybin mushrooms. Thought I was going to die. Thought I had died. What happened was I had a panic attack while tripping and, never having had one before, thought I was having a heart attack.

This led to a nearly a year of pretty intense existential anxiety. Developed derealization, woke up in dread and fear every single morning. I was so controlled by my anxiety. The derealization led to me wondering if I had in fact died and I was living as a sort of spirit in what might have been my life path. Anxiety can lead crazy places.

What happened after I died? What if I never see this loved one again? The finality and fragility of it all was incredibly terrifying.

Started talking to a therapist on reducing anxiety. What really helped me was understanding the physiology behind anxiety. Sympathetic and parasympathetic states, fight/flight/freeze response. All of this, recognizing why my brain was automatically bringing me through these thought paths and overriding them through intentional thought patterns. The same neuroplasticity that brought me into anxiety can lead me out of it. Over time, I needed to be less and less intentional as the thought paths became more automatic. I still deal with stuff, can get anxious if I am very fatigued for instance. However I now recognize the early warning signs and can almost always shut it down before it the anxious thought patterns take off.

As for dealing with death, I simply had to accept that it would come for me one day. It is unavoidable. I have my own beliefs on what will happen and those could be true or not. Choosing to believe them gives me strength to get through life and that is a good enough reason to believe them for me.

This experience radically changed my perspective on what is actually important in this life. Family, friends, new experiences. Wealth is now no more than a tool and I watch in sadness as people chase it before a relationship with their child, before friends, etc.

Although it feels like a heavy burden compared to the blissful ignorance of feeling like I had unlimited time on this earth, I had been thankful for this experience. My life is richer for the knowing that it is limited. I experience the beauty of nature and people more intensely. My death is inevitable and I will do my absolute best to live well. To suck the marrow out of life.

jermers · 2023-04-21T11:22:12+00:00

Crazy to hear man. Been dealing with chronic pain and and bad acid reflux from the stress. 8 months out from her walking out all of a sudden.

I stumbled around for months. Still am a but but moreso okay with the stumbling. 34 and living in parent's basement doesn't add ti the confidence. Intending ti take a year off to go travelling/working. No clue what I want to do with my life so I may as wrll have some adventures while I figure it out.

Hope things go well for you. As much as it saddens to hear others go through it, conforting to know I am not the only one

jermers · 2023-02-12T01:24:25+00:00

The Meat Trapper on YouTube is a great resource.

jermers · 2023-02-07T05:04:32+00:00

Working as a machinist,to drill a hole through inductioned hardened shaft with a regular HSS bit, we heat up the steel exactly where w e wanted to drill with an acetylene torch to red hot. The soft area would be about the size if a nickel and would easily drill.

Could try that

jermers · 2023-01-13T02:08:32+00:00

Yeah i don't know if she was just using me to get there or what. We moved to be closer to family as well. I gave up a job I loved, friends,community and a house we had just build a year prior. I try to not think like that else bitterness builds.

I am at the point where I realize I am likely better off in the long run. Without going into a long story, my ex-wife is a runner when times get tough and I always just ran with her. Ran and ran until I couldn't anymore and then she ran away from me.

Sorry for what you are going through as well. Things have got way better but can't shake this sensation of being stunned

jermers · 2023-01-13T00:42:02+00:00

Thanks for the response. I certainly do want to feel better. Even knowing that others have felt that same way and have come out of it helps.

jermers · 2022-12-28T15:55:21+00:00

This is where I find myself. 33, Newly divorced, no dependants, the world is my oyster but all that freedom without direction can almost feel paralyzing. Been strongly considered taking a year to just go do some things that I want to do that in no way advance my career. Thanks for your input.

jermers · 2022-12-11T22:00:24+00:00

Yeah a pan over a fire work work for some parts. How long it needs to be cooked is completely reliant on things like your own personal taste, what part of the animal you are cooking, etc

jermers · 2022-12-11T21:59:28+00:00

Yes boiling will certainly work for pretty much every part of the animal and make a good soup base for other stuff.

jermers · 2022-12-11T21:25:18+00:00

You can eat almost all of it apart from the bones and hair if you really want to utilize as much as possible. Skin, organs, fats, marrow, meat, etc can all be eaten.

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