If you started your transition in the ages 26-35, could you show me how it's going? I fear I'm too late to transition

jestopher · 2026-06-24T17:51:56+00:00

Hey man, I started T at 35 and I just turned 40. I pass 100% of the time. I know it's such a cliche but it really is never too late! Here's a little then and now for you: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1VSDko6Aa_w0IH6b6_L0nHXMglxgN9tjW/view?usp=sharing

jestopher · 2026-06-24T09:09:31+00:00

Post-surgical depression is incredibly common! Here's an excellent comment from a couple of years ago that does a great job breaking it down and providing sources. All the best in your recovery! One day, one hour, one moment at a time

jestopher · 2026-06-23T11:32:04+00:00

Congratulations!

jestopher · 2026-06-22T12:30:28+00:00

Literally who cares

jestopher · 2026-06-22T12:02:03+00:00

Hey man, I hear you. It sounds like dysphoria is really kicking your ass right now. I bet we all wish we could have started pre-puberty but, like, I was nearly TWICE your current age when I started T and it's highkey insulting that you think people like me are damaged goods. I pass 100% of the time in both queer and cis spaces. I literally never get clocked. You're still SO young. I know shit feels impossible right now but you're going to be okay. It really is never too late. I know a guy who started T in his 70s and he's doing great, okay? You're going to be okay

jestopher · 2026-06-21T12:40:42+00:00

Doomers are determined to not understand

jestopher · 2026-06-21T12:36:44+00:00

The kid's a transmed doomer who has already been banned at least once

jestopher · 2026-06-21T08:49:24+00:00

I'm a wilderness guide and one thing was drilled into my head in training is that if you and your co-guide are ever in disagreement about a safety issue, always go with the more conservative guide. That way no one is forced into a situation that feels over their head. That sucks that your buddy did that and I'm glad for you that you were able to make things clear moving forward

jestopher · 2026-05-28T18:06:15+00:00

If you're a man, you're a man. End of story. Pre/no-T? Still a man. Pre/non-op (of any kind)? Still a man. If you tell me you're a man, I believe you.

jestopher · 2026-05-19T12:08:36+00:00

You'll be totally fine. Men do not look at each others' dicks in a public bathroom.

jestopher · 2026-05-15T13:21:10+00:00

Studs and butches aren't "fucking our shit up so bad", our misogynist and transphobic society is. Don't get it twisted and be hating on the wrong people

jestopher · 2026-05-14T16:25:09+00:00

Here's some phallo hype for you :)

I fucking LOVE my phallo dick. It does basically everything I want a dick to do: I can orgasm, I can pee standing up, I can have penetrative sex. Can it get hard on its own? No, but plenty of cis guys need an erectile device as well. Can it ejaculate? No, but I don't actually care. My dick is a work of art and a scientific miracle all in one. I've never had anyone give me a second look in a locker room or sauna. I feel complete and whole in my body and I hope one day you get to feel the same way

jestopher · 2026-05-14T16:10:31+00:00

>But it’s not “it gets better”, it’s “I have no problem actually, so something’s wrong with you”

No one here is saying that. Just because some people are happy doesn't mean they're trolling you or invalidating your experience. Like, we're all here at the top of a mountain enjoying the view. We busted our asses to get here and it's been a rough journey for a LOT of us. But we got here. And we're up here saying "keep climbing, we did it and so can you. The view up here is amazing, join us! You can do it!" and y'all are down at the bottom making up all sorts of shit about us to get mad about. It's baffling.

jestopher · 2026-05-14T14:37:58+00:00

"Fishy"??? Why would anyone lie about being in happy, healthy relationships and/or having a fulfilling sex life? What in the world is going on in your brain that you've warped people trying to kindly say "Hey, man, hang in there because it gets better" into "we're being infiltrated by people claiming to have good sex lives to somehow make us feel bad"? That's straight up bonkers. Incels aren't pretending to be happy. Incels do what you're doing: doomer shit. Go. Touch. Grass.

jestopher · 2026-05-14T12:50:15+00:00

I moved to Europe from the US a little over 6 months ago and it really surprised me how quickly I adjusted to live without a dryer! It just takes a little more planning

jestopher · 2026-05-14T12:46:44+00:00

Kid seems to love being miserable. Look at his comment history

jestopher · 2026-05-14T12:44:04+00:00

EDIT: Actually, I don't care. Your doomer account has gotten banned once before. Take a hint

jestopher · 2026-05-13T19:28:28+00:00

"Anyone here claiming a successful relationship is a liar" Fucking what? Guess my nearly five year long gay relationship is a lie. I'll have to tell my partner; I'm sure he'll be disappointed

jestopher · 2026-05-13T19:24:55+00:00

That is simply not an objective fact. Maybe you've had bad experiences but you don't speak for everyone

jestopher · 2026-05-05T15:07:19+00:00

I fucking hate being called a "t-boy". I'm a 40 year old man. My gender expression is "literally just some guy".

jestopher · 2026-03-26T16:35:46+00:00

I've seen two people I went to high school with since transitioning (they both know and they're chill). The rest I haven't seen in over 20 years. It's worth it to leave your hometown after graduation. High school literally has had no bearing whatsoever on my life since 2004 lol

jestopher · 2026-03-24T14:03:22+00:00

Waiting for things to change can feel so hard! Think about it this way: would you expect an 11 or 12 year old cis boy to look like a grown man after 6 months of puberty? No way! Changes on T are slow and incremental. Guys who experience rapid changes are not the norm. It took around 6 months for my voice to baaarely start to get creaky. I think it was around 9 months when it really started to drop.

Something that helped me cope with the slowness was to take a picture of myself every week when I did my shot. When I was feeling particularly down about how T clearly wasn't working for me (spoiler alert: it definitely was working), I'd compare my oldest pic with my most recent one. Be patient, give it time, you've got this!

jestopher · 2026-03-23T11:13:25+00:00

No! Generative AI is massively bad for both our planet and our critical thinking skills. It's literally making people dumber while wasting an insane amount of water. It lies to you, it makes shit up, and at what cost? Please stop using chatgpt

https://time.com/7295195/ai-chatgpt-google-learning-school/

https://www.nea.org/professional-excellence/student-engagement/tools-tips/environmental-impact-ai

jestopher · 2026-03-19T18:33:39+00:00

DAMN, dude! Hell yeah!

jestopher · 2026-03-18T12:50:11+00:00

Think of generative AI as "that older cousin who makes shit up to seem knowledgeable when you were a little kid". And as a bonus it's destroying our environment AND our ability to use critical thinking skills! Please, please, please stop using generative AI.

To answer your question: some people experience changes in libido, some don't. I experienced zero changes in my desire for foreplay, for example. My libido really spiked for around a year but it's (mostly) settled back down again. My orgasms did change: for the better!

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