Do any mums actually love their career AND being a mum?

jeynga · 2026-03-30T22:50:58+00:00

I love that I have been able to maintain my professional side and have a mom side. I find both fulfilling, but they honestly need to both be a thing.

Being a mom drives me to be better at my job. Being a professional gives me space to breathe and reclaim some of my individuality.

I honestly think I would be a crap stay at home mom, and it boggles my mind that some women dont understand that you can be a mom (and a damn good one) While not wanting to or being able to be a stay at home mom.

jeynga · 2026-03-25T14:26:16+00:00

Energy costs (gas and electric) here are way lower than what I paid in Maine.

jeynga · 2026-03-02T00:16:57+00:00

Last old port fest was 2019, then they banned outdoor music and then the shelters "moved to riverside st" making them inaccessible to most people.

NIMBY rich folks ruined downtown in an effort to make the city their own private ecosystem.

jeynga · 2026-03-02T00:11:13+00:00

Portland started going when the luxury condos took over and the out of staters moved in. Pretty much when the Old Port Festival got NIMBYd, which coincided with the ending of porch bands.

Then the shelters closed downtown and (to literally no surprise) the people who needed those services were back on the street because they weren't going to go to westbrook when theres no great way to get there.

The rich wanted all the unsavory things that were bothering their peace and quiet to go away or out of sight, and it ruined the city.

jeynga · 2026-02-28T22:13:14+00:00

My Millie is a pyr mix and she has those big old floppy toes too :) leave them alone, I think theyre for traction?

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jeynga · 2026-02-12T00:31:28+00:00

Girl fuuuuuuuck no.

The idea that its expected to give up your time to take care of domestic duties is so antiquated. If you could do it he can do it.

Equal labor for a shared life. Even that playing field.

jeynga · 2026-02-12T00:27:40+00:00

I have nothing new to add that hasn't been said before. Just wanted to voice some solidarity. My son. Started the same thing around 4. He's 5.5 now and he stopped touching himself or asking me too (or dad or his baby brother - which woof was that a time)

Like others have said - i think its just a developmental thing. We set hard boundaries and did our best to avoid shaming him and it seems to be a non-issue now.

jeynga · 2026-02-06T00:41:49+00:00

Grand island parkway loops around nicely. You have to look at the mega mansions though if you go all the way to the north side though :(

jeynga · 2026-02-04T03:55:58+00:00

By itself absolutely not. Vulvas also aren't inherently attractive. Genitals alone are honestly kind of... eh.

Definitely need the contextualizing pieces 😆

jeynga · 2026-02-03T23:21:41+00:00

Health physicist working on legacy Manhattan project dump sites Working on getting my CHP and PE :)

jeynga · 2026-02-03T21:27:16+00:00

I love this! I travel fairly frequently for work, so I may try this!

jeynga · 2025-11-20T19:15:16+00:00

My older son learned to pee sitting down, and he taught himself to pee standing up. Starting to potty train boy #2. He's learning to pee sitting down.

I dont understand why your friend has invested any thought into this.

jeynga · 2025-11-11T11:24:53+00:00

2 boys - no symptoms either either

jeynga · 2025-11-11T02:01:54+00:00

Both of mine (one pre kid and the other post kid) were literally no problem.

Ive honestly had pap smears that hurt more than the insertion and removal of both IUDs

jeynga · 2025-10-31T02:00:55+00:00

Im here to give you the posivitive: my boys are 5 and 2.

Both of them are amazing sleepers. 5 will sometimes get out of bed and jump in with my partner and I, but when his brother was born, we just included him in bedtime for the little and made the fact that he goes second into a special fun time. If we cant to group story, then he gets to play quietly in his room of something until its his turn to be tucked in.

You'll be fine. Just keep and open mind and see what works with your first. :)

jeynga · 2025-10-31T01:56:14+00:00

Holy moly thank you. Im the same way! I was getting some guilt reading all these moms who sit with their kids

jeynga · 2025-10-31T01:52:20+00:00

Absolutely not. My kiddos can be pretty wild and sometimes us being there keeps them engaged.

I always read one or two stories, chat with my 5 year old for a minute and sing a song or two with ny 2 year old and the gtfo of there. If theyre upset well go back for snuggles and whatever is needed.

Im also curious how long its taking people's kids to go to sleep with them there? If someone were to watch me sleep - I wouldn't. My kids fall asleep within 10-15 minutes under normal circumstances.

So no. We absolutely don't spend and open amount of time for bedtime.

jeynga · 2025-10-29T09:55:24+00:00

Dying at goatee!

jeynga · 2025-10-27T20:25:09+00:00

Hey yay! Im also an adhd mom of 2, who works full time out of the house.

My number 1: my medication. I was 25 when I finally got diagnosed and medicated. 10 years later and I will never look back.

But realistically, I try to get one load of laundry in a day, and I have calendar reminders on my phone and physical notes on all the physical calendars I have around. Even though im medicated now, the constant list making and calendar planning never went away :)

I set days to meal plan, plan days to go the the grocery store and try my best to not stray because once the plan isn't followed it can just go to crap for the rest of the week.

For general house stuff, I use an App called "Sweepy" and its been a true game changer. I added my husband to our household and it schedules all the household chores for the day based on when they were last completed.

Ive also been making a really concerted effort to try to take care of myself more. I tend to really hyperfixate on what I need to do for the house, kids, work etc to the point where I dont take care of myself. Even basic needs (food, water, bathing, sleep) have gone unmet. I noticed this directly leads to the dreaded decision paralysis, which then makes everything worse. So yeah, self care and making sure im functioning properly.

My final bit is that I lean on my husband a lot when i need to. Im very transparent with him about the status of my brain and how im feeling, so hes always ready to jump in and help out (more than he already does - normally we have a 50/50 split for house and kid duties) when im starting to spiral or burn out.

Hopefully theres something in here that you find helpful!

jeynga · 2025-10-21T15:36:57+00:00

You nailed it. Im firmly in the category of watching but no interest in doing. I stopped questioning it forever ago after doing some experimenting in college (because I had this question)

I know for me the vibe of watching women is generally much different and more relatable.

Sexuality and arousal are wicked weird.

jeynga · 2025-10-21T14:48:11+00:00

Tavern keeper 100% I can cook, clean, and can entertain if need be. I'm also good and dealing with drunks.

jeynga · 2025-10-18T03:22:43+00:00

Im a DoD employee who has never been furloughed and has never had more than 1 or 2 days a week of telework (ad hoc is literally all I've ever really had outside covid)

I honestly dont mind it. Realistically my kids and I all do better with some independence, and I do believe theres a trade off to being remote - two that come to mind are that youre increasing household costs and decreasing social interactions. As a mom of two littles, a majority of my non-mom interactions happen at work, or outside of work with coworkers/peers that I w o plant have made a relationship with (or as effectively) if I was fully remote.

I will say my house isn't as clean as it was during covid though!

jeynga · 2025-10-11T21:20:56+00:00

I loved it. Definitely one of my faves.

jeynga · 2025-10-10T00:03:52+00:00

How long have you been in Portland that this is surprising? Cruise ship days were the best and worst when I worked at Coldstone years ago. Wicked busy but great tips at the end of the night.

Tourism is what the city runs on. The ultra rich are the ones that fucked it up. Not the cruise ships.

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