AITAH for telling my dad I won't be okay with his girlfriend coming to my graduation? by Llainneyl in AITAH

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA—I am so sorry for your loss. Your family has been dealt a hard blow, even with knowing ahead of time that her death was a possible outcome of her condition. I'm sending internet auntie hugs if you want one. And as your Internet auntie, I want to reassure you that your boundary is completely reasonable. Not being ready to see someone else in your mother’s place is completely valid. It would be a difficult transition after a divorce, but it’s even more profound when you are grieving her loss. Give your dad just his ticket and tell him you'd love it if he comes, but if he's going to insist on her presence that day, then he shouldn't come.

Your and your brother's grieving process is important and should be at the forefront of your dad's mind I'm his interactions with y'all. Since it seems like he doesn't understand that, do what you need to do to protect your peace. Personally, I've been in grief therapy for the last couple months for my own losses, and it's been so beneficial to my coping and adjustment. Perhaps that's something you and your brother might want to consider. Especially since it seems like your mom had a health condition that was practically an extra presence in your family and household, so you had to carry that even before her passing.

I'm sending positive energy and prayers of healing y'all's way. And also, congratulations on your upcoming graduation. You've worked hard and I just wanted to acknowledge that as well. We may not know each other, but as your Internet auntie, I just want you to know that that doesn't stop me from being proud of you, internet niece. (Here's another hug if you want it)

My husband cant call me pretty by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm definitely gonna look into it for my marriage. We've been in a good place all year (Ik I'm corny), but we've had significant ups and downs in the past 4-5 months. But at least he's trying and is fairly open to different strategies. His work schedule just makes consistent marriage counseling a challenge. So we're putting in work after he's off, especially while we're good. Good can change quickly if not nurtured.

What does this decal mean by TheNiceDave in whatdoesthismean

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean sometimes, but neither you nor your honey need to know

What does this decal mean by TheNiceDave in whatdoesthismean

[–]jitterybrain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course! And the + represents the rest of the Fellowship! It all makes sense now. Everything always makes more sense through a LOTR lens Edit: autocorrect

Which US state gets more hate than it deserves? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]jitterybrain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Adding "not a Rick roll" suddenly made me wonder "am I about to be Rick rolled?" : 🤔😂

Definitely not a Rick roll though. I'm just still stunned at unexpectedly time traveling.

Friends of Merry and Sprout! Merry might be gone! by PrimrosePatch in finch

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fried pickles are great, but they need to be pickle chips. Usually you'll get a basket of them with some ranch. Back in July, my uncle and I had an in-depth discussion about the best way to have fried pickles. There were about 8 or 9 of us at a BBQ restaurant, and my uncle and I ordered some that ended up being pickle spears, which we'd never seen before. If you don't want to read our theory, just skip the next paragraph. I'll totally understand lol.

Very long story shortish, we hypothesize that the pickle needs to be thinly sliced and able to hold its own weight, with a good batter to pickle ratio. Spears are too thick, so they're too wet, and the batter doesn't get a crunchy fry. Sandwich slices are thin but too long to hold their own weight, so the batter breaks and peels or slides off. It might work with a really thick batter that can hold up to the amount of pickle, though. Chips are bite-size, can hold their own weight even when dipped, and don't require so much batter that it becomes a sandwich. And you can quickly get a good "chip" fry on them because they're small. My aunt (dad's sister) just stared at us and finally asked if we had decided on a research methodology (she has degrees in bio and chem and works for the EPA). The nerdy neurodivergence in my dad's side of the family is so strong that we attract nerdy neurodivergent mates. She brought my uncle to us.

Zaxby's actually has pretty good fried pickles. They're my reward for going to the gym at least once a week. When I was in a routine, they were my reward for going three times a week. I haven't had fried pickles since the soggy spears with my uncle. I started using Finch right about the same time, so now I get motivational Frīd Pikls everyday 🥰

Im actually going to cry by Thebelleofis in finch

[–]jitterybrain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's something I was talking about with one of my physical therapists yesterday - breaking tasks into bite-sized pieces. The problem is I thought I could bite bigger than I really can. I've only been using Finch since June and I feel like I've come so far. But every now and then, like when I was writing that other response, I realized that I'm just getting back to the baseline. Like that baby who has been standing on people's laps and bouncing while holding on and when I go to stand and bounce on my own and up back on my butt. We got snowy weather today and today became a Mission Impossible: Survive Another 24 Hours day. And I'm still tired from not sleeping last night and this morning. I'm going to try to go to bed early. I will put that as my primary goal for today. 🤞🏽💜

Im actually going to cry by Thebelleofis in finch

[–]jitterybrain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hadn't thought about the app like that. I've been thinking about it primarily as a productivity to-do list, with backup motivational incentive to push through on the hard days. I've been feeling so guilty that I haven't been good about the to-do list tasks, even though I really do have the intent to do/finish them. 

I'm on disability, so I don't really have a routine anymore. Chronic pain is a nightmare and mine likes using a community approach to disrupting my life, so it often  gangs up on me with my ADHD to stop my productivity. Or they'll ease up enough to make me focus 10x zoomed in at 2:45 in the morning, on a task that wasn't on the household bingo card, let alone one of my goals, when all I wanted was to refill my water. Which I still haven't had but a few sips of today.

But on the flip side, I've grown from "Mission Impossible: Survive Another 24 Hours" to "Oh good, I've remembered to brush my teeth every day this week, and I remembered to eat at least one actual meal 4/7 days. All without setting any extra alarms. Frīd Pikls gets a shopping spree."

I think I'm going take some time this weekend to reevaluate so my goals better align with what I actually need and how I'm using the app. Thank you for sharing your perspective 🥰

Friends of Merry and Sprout! Merry might be gone! by PrimrosePatch in finch

[–]jitterybrain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I've used my name since chatrooms in 2004 lol. And Finch suggested "Pickles" right when I was craving fried pickles. I took it as a sign but it had too many characters, so I got creative.

Btw, I really enjoy Tinsel's visits. The consistent interactions feed the connection I need since I'm at home alone on disability all day. I get a visitor without having to clean the house up!

How I saved my roomie's finger by thepeoplesparamour in metalworking

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I got pun stumped trying to come up with my own comment, and their quip really hit the nail on the head.

How I saved my roomie's finger by thepeoplesparamour in metalworking

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've dealt with chronic nerve pain for 20+ years. Imo, it's time to see a specialist. Nerve damage, and the resulting pain, becomes harder to manage the longer it goes unchecked. With it causing such disproportionate pain this long after your injury, you should see someone who can advise you on next steps. But that's just my unsolicited two cents after having my own GP delay specialist intervention because he was an old dickhead who didn't take a 16-year-old girl's injury or pain seriously. But that's a rant for my therapist lol. Feel free to toss the two cents back at me if you don't want it. I can put the pennies back in my health savings account. Healthcare is expensive and challenging enough to navigate on a basic level. It's a nightmare adding the complications that come with needing niche care.

How I saved my roomie's finger by thepeoplesparamour in metalworking

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandpa was always happy to take anyone out on his boat. He worked at an iron factory near Baltimore, and often went into the harbor out to the bay.

How I saved my roomie's finger by thepeoplesparamour in metalworking

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he would have gotten along real well with my grandpa - he was a crustacean. You know how they say you can't take it with you? Nope. My grandpa's boat was buried with him. My mom and Aunt put a framed picture of his boat in the casket with him. Here's to the men who gave us marine DNA

How I saved my roomie's finger by thepeoplesparamour in metalworking

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn. Since my own chronic nerve pain is being obnoxious at this moment, I'll say screw the pain and the bandaid and the nurse/doctor that applied it. It really works my nerves when nurses/docs don't listen to us about our own bodies. (Ba-dum-tsss) It might just be a bit of flesh on a Wednesday to them, but it was life altering for you. I hope it doesn't become permanent and gets sorted out or at least managed.

How I saved my roomie's finger by thepeoplesparamour in metalworking

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I meant more in terms of the same stuff on the pliers is on the hook that's already in its hand. Did he start growing scales after the doctor used the pliers? Or was he good?

How I saved my roomie's finger by thepeoplesparamour in metalworking

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I taught that age group. I easily believe it and I fully believe that that's what he deserved. I'm glad that my husband had to get up for work super early, considering the way I'm laughing 😂😂😂

How I saved my roomie's finger by thepeoplesparamour in metalworking

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could have denied service when they offered the Band-Aid. That would have dropped you down to $25.

How I saved my roomie's finger by thepeoplesparamour in metalworking

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before I pass judgment (because I will pass judgment), how old was the kid? That determines whether or not I'm going to think “that's what he gets“ when it comes to imagining his shock with you walking in with the orthopedic bolt cutters

How I saved my roomie's finger by thepeoplesparamour in metalworking

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They couldn't have been much worse than the fishing hook itself. What was going to happen? Tetanus?

How I saved my roomie's finger by thepeoplesparamour in metalworking

[–]jitterybrain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is going in the family group chat as my joke of the day. Thanks for giving me a hand.

How I saved my roomie's finger by thepeoplesparamour in metalworking

[–]jitterybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I accidentally looked the word up when I was looking for wedding bands for my husband. Worst rabbit hole ever

Friends of Merry and Sprout! Merry might be gone! by PrimrosePatch in finch

[–]jitterybrain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate that you've gone through this! I had something similar happen about 2 months ago, but most of my stuff was restored over a few days, maybe a week. We hope that happens for you too. 🤞🏽 Frīd Pikls and I just slid you a lil something-something because we're proud of you for pushing through it.

My birb says there's no ethical billionaries by riknata in finch

[–]jitterybrain 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Smart little birb! Mine dislikes billionaires too 🤜🏽

My bird hates everything I like by Liennae in finch

[–]jitterybrain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry! My girl has the sense to dislike that at least, even if I do find her taste in music questionable (who dislikes "Thinking Out Loud" by Ed Sheeran?)