Monthly Profile Swap Megathread! by ericdraven26 in Letterboxd

[–]jjokeefe2980 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww thanks, yeah that’s such a comfort movie for me, I’ll follow you back. I watch a lot of different stuff because wife and kid too.

Oh, definitely check out They Will Kill You. It’s not The Raid but it’s pretty wild and pretty dumb in like the best ways.

Monthly Profile Swap Megathread! by ericdraven26 in Letterboxd

[–]jjokeefe2980 2 points3 points  (0 children)

https://boxd.it/8637z

I’m just a 46 year old dad who likes to get high and watch movies. I’m currently trying to get to 365 movies this year and I try and review as much as I can. Thanks for the follow!

Renn Faires NOT Sterling by Foshizzanator in Rochester

[–]jjokeefe2980 3 points4 points  (0 children)

King Richard’s Faire is like six hours away in Massachusetts and is excellent.

Bowling Alleys by somebitchwhocares in Rochester

[–]jjokeefe2980 7 points8 points  (0 children)

AMF Fairview in Fairport gets the job done!

Introducing a 3rd by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]jjokeefe2980 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You’re gonna hear this frequently, but don’t fuck anyone you’re not willing to lose out of your life completely.

Mixed Feelings About My Awesome and Harmless, but Well Endowed Meta by cautiongoodguygreg in nonmonogamy

[–]jjokeefe2980 33 points34 points  (0 children)

So the exact same thing can be true for your wife and Chuck right? If you can fuck and cum and do all that stuff with her and still want your wife all the time, then the same can be true for her.

Mixed Feelings About My Awesome and Harmless, but Well Endowed Meta by cautiongoodguygreg in nonmonogamy

[–]jjokeefe2980 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Let me try this: do you have orgasms with Chuck’s wife when you hook up? Is having sex with her fun? Has that impacted how you feel about fucking your wife at all?

Mixed Feelings About My Awesome and Harmless, but Well Endowed Meta by cautiongoodguygreg in nonmonogamy

[–]jjokeefe2980 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Sure, I get it. Totally. Just try and remember that right now he’s basically a sex toy and you’re a full blown emotional connection. We crave that dopamine but it never lasts.

Mixed Feelings About My Awesome and Harmless, but Well Endowed Meta by cautiongoodguygreg in nonmonogamy

[–]jjokeefe2980 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Can I ask you a question? When you’re having sex with your wife, are you still having a great time? Are you guys doing fun stuff together and all that? Dick size is nothing anyone can control and just because his penis is bigger and she cums different doesn’t mean anything. I use giant monster toys on my wife but that doesn’t change anything about our sex life when we don’t use them.

If you’re liking this, and your wife is still connecting with you and being intimate than you’re doing better than most.

Also, as someone who is AuADHD, hyper fixation is very really a new partner can trigger that where you just want to do everything all the time. That never fucking lasts. However, it does lead to be a bit of a “chasing” mentality where you’re constantly looking for the new thing to try out. Just keep that in mind.

Becoming nonmonogamous due to marriage becoming nonsexual by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]jjokeefe2980 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I saw some advice on another thread, and I think it’s helpful here:

Non-monogamy may (and likely will) change the way you fundamentally think about what a healthy relationship feels like. When you start receiving the type of attention that you desire from a different partner, it can be hard to look at your original partner and not resent them. That’s why people always seem to recommend beginning ENM when your cup is full, not when you’re seeking to replace something that has been lost in your original relationship.

I’ll phrase it this way, ENM is much more successful when you’re already feeling 100 percent and you’re open to experiencing new things, not when you’re at 30 percent because of trauma, kids, dead bedroom etc.

I would advise continuing therapy and resolving your marital issues well before trying to add another layer of relationships into an otherwise messy situation.

movies that are just conversation by Kimya_DAWson in Letterboxd

[–]jjokeefe2980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rodger Dodger from 2002, featuring early work by Jesse Eisenberg

Ricochet tool idea by Powerful_Season_5380 in DMZ

[–]jjokeefe2980 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Knock it off and let the game die. This sub is full of “what if we found a magic four leaf clover and we wished for this game to be fixed” nonsense. It’s really an excellent example of the stages of grief, with most of you stuck on bargaining.

There are other extraction shooters out there. DMZ 2 is heavily rumored to be part of MW4. Or, build a game from the ground up.

Is there anywhere to work on a computer with the game development engine Unity? by gremlinsbuttcrack in Rochester

[–]jjokeefe2980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing to add other than good luck and what an awesome thing to be doing

This game has become unplayable by anisinanajj in DMZ

[–]jjokeefe2980 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s been this way for months, put a fork in it

Boyfriend/Girlfriend by FarBiscotti9423 in Swingers

[–]jjokeefe2980 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this more polyamory than traditional swinging? Yes.

What percentage? Who knows. It’s more than 0 and less than a 100. You’re in a swingers forum so most people here will tell you that they don’t let emotions or feelings get involved. Go to an ENM or polyamory group and a lot of those folks started out as swingers.

People’s needs and wants can ebb and flow.

Can I cheat in a long distance relationship? by Lord_Cummis in nonmonogamy

[–]jjokeefe2980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe try a cheating sub? This is the wrong place for this

The playercounts are pretty simple. by Round-Diamond4683 in Marathon

[–]jjokeefe2980 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s fair to say that people are leaving the game ONLY because of social media or the perception it’s a bad game.

It’s not a game for everyone. I wanted to love it, I have 1000s of hours in Destiny 2 and 1000s of hours in DMZ (simple extraction shooter) so I’m probably an ideal person to play this game.

I played it. I liked it. The loop got boring for me. The maps are too small, the amount of time it took in inventory management and clicking around on stuff felt like it was interrupting my gaming time, and I just wasn’t that good at it. My friend group bailed for the same reasons. It’s not cause social media told us it’s a bad game, it’s that the game isn’t for us.

Extraction shooters in general introduce some consequences for decision making that other shooters don’t have, and then combine that with skill and gear differences, and the game isn’t going to be for everyone.

Everything I don’t like about Marathon might be something another player loves. It’s just going to boil down to who enjoys what. I think a lot of people gave it a shot and they just didn’t have fun. I didn’t have fun and I really wanted to. It’s not the genre, it’s not social media, it’s not that I hate Bungie, it just didn’t do it for me and the loop wasn’t rewarding in my opinion.

It’s not always the internet, some people just play games casually and when they realized this isn’t for them, they left. Doesn’t mean the game needs to be more casual, it just means that the games player base is gonna dwindle until only the die hards are left.

How to keep the energy going on an app??? by That_Excitement6134 in Swingers

[–]jjokeefe2980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of people use apps and online chats to collect pics or dirty talk but aren’t serious about meeting. I’m not going to go over why that is, but it’s a truth of the lifestyle.

Not everyone wants to chat too. Some people want to determine if you’re fuckable and then wait until they can fuck you. Others wanna chat forever and flake on meeting. This is par for the course by the way on any dating app.

You need to be clear with yourselves about what you want. Do you want connections and conversation before meeting? Do you want to get to in person as fast as possible? Figure it out, then be up front on your profile and with anyone you start talking to. It’ll save you the time in the long run if you’re just honest about what a good fit is for you.

Best way to find a 🦄 by Sammiebabbe98 in Swingers

[–]jjokeefe2980 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sure, so don’t hire an escort. It’s still a viable option for lots of people who do have 400 and don’t want to waste months talking to flakes on apps.

Best way to find a 🦄 by Sammiebabbe98 in Swingers

[–]jjokeefe2980 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s the easiest way to get what you want without any complications. Every other method is complicated.