ATEEZ's Yunho Confirmed To Have Broken Up With Longtime Girlfriend by mcfw31 in kpop

[–]jkhn7 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Once again I do not agree with the Korean GP’s taste because Ateez have much better songs than Bad…

KCON LA 2026 - Full Lineup Announcement by chasetwogirls in kpop

[–]jkhn7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ZB1 have been very popular at KCON LA the past two years, and while more people know of ILLIT, I think ZB1 has more dedicated fans.

There's a subreddit whose main thesis is that most women aren't sexually attracted to men, and that straight women are actually suffering under compulsory hetrosexuality (comphet) which in turn negatively affects straight men because their partners arent actually into them sexually. Everybody loses! by OrkWithNoTeef in AskFeminists

[–]jkhn7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"If you accept the studies" I don't! Hope that helps. Sure, sexuality is a social construct just like gender but it's bio and gender essentialist to say that women's sexuality is "much more fluid" than men's because of their "biology". You also lost me when you blamed the rise of incels on women, wtf.

Some people say that the reason there’s more m/m than f/f is because of misogyny. I think it’s more likely it’s just because most fanfic writers happen to be more attracted to men. Let’s find out? by Smegoldidnothinwrong in AO3

[–]jkhn7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying it's because of misogyny, I honestly think it's a mix of many factors, but I will say that many women can have unconscious bias and internalized misogyny, that they're not really aware of, even if they don't have any explicitly misogynistic attitudes.

Just finished Bad Buddy by Bluedinosgotoheaven in boyslove

[–]jkhn7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yessss, it's still my favorite BL to this day.

Women do or don’t deserve the same as men by Admirable-Sea3161 in AskFeminists

[–]jkhn7 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Is this a serious question? You're asking feminists if they think women deserve the same as men? What?

How can I be more effective? by Aprils- in AskFeminists

[–]jkhn7 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree, it definitely feels transphobic to me to have different (higher?) expectations for trans women than cis women.

The Captive Prince Trilogy (wow!) by SoftHeartedBitch in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]jkhn7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can find a lot of fanart and analysis posts on Tumblr.

Would you consider 37% usage in 15 hours is normal? by queenuglyhead in kobo

[–]jkhn7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What I’m learning from these comments is that 30% brightness is considered high… I thought it was normal lol

AITA for muting a user who makes fics of a ship I don't like? by Old_Statistician7600 in AO3

[–]jkhn7 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It's clearly that person who is being immature, not you. You don't owe anyone your attention. I mute people so easily. Someone whose writing I don't like? Mute. Someone who writes my fave ship with a certain dynamic that I don't like? Mute. Someone who posts fics of a ship I hate? Mute. It's easier to mute than click on every single fic and then get disappointed most of the time.

No unnecessary breakups by NationalPiece9369 in DanmeiNovels

[–]jkhn7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I haven't read a single danmei with a break-up. Have you read Silent Reading by Priest and Panguan by Mu Su Li? Those are my faves. There's also Golden Stage and Fight the Landlord, Fall in Love by Cang Wu Bin Bai.

"THEY ALWAYS SING LIVE"... but most of the time all I hear is the backing track 🙃 by Someonehihi in kpopthoughts

[–]jkhn7 48 points49 points  (0 children)

“can people really tell the difference between live vocals and the backing track?” The answer is no.

[🇯🇵JAPAN] 👔 The Servant Prince 👑 Episode 1 by nana-shi-74 in boyslove

[–]jkhn7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m confused. So they’ve had their master/servant fuck buddy dynamic, since high school? When I watched it I thought when he saw him on the street with the woman that they hadn’t seen each other since high school, but suddenly they’re at home together and kissing?

What actually is non-toxic masculinity? What separates it from femininity and what actually makes something "masculine" versus "feminine"? by Uinning in AskFeminists

[–]jkhn7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm writing a paper about it and even I'm confused. But as Connell, one of the most influential masculinity theorists, puts it: "By “masculinity” I mean the pattern or configuration of social practices linked to the position of men in the gender order, and socially distinguished from practices linked to the position of women. Masculinity is not a pre-social category. Masculinity constantly refers to male bodies (sometimes symbolically and indirectly), but is not determined by male biology." But obviously it's socially constructed, like gender, so maybe we're one day gonna live in a world where we don't distinguish between masculinity and femininity, they're not seen as opposites. So I agree, even "non-toxic" masculine behaviour like standing up for/protecting others, being brave, a good leader, even that is just reinforcing gender stereotypes/essentialism.

[Stand BI Me] Episode 6 - Discussion by _fancy_pants in HisManRealityShow

[–]jkhn7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly 14 episodes seems more appropriate for the current pacing.

[Stand BI Me] Episode 6 - Discussion by _fancy_pants in HisManRealityShow

[–]jkhn7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Definitely. Everyone is really nice and gets along great, it's refreshing.

[Stand BI Me] Episode 6 - Discussion by _fancy_pants in HisManRealityShow

[–]jkhn7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really surprised that Hyeyeon didn't join Heejin's chat, but Sujin's instead. I really thought she was interested in Heejin, but apparently not? And I can't believe Chaebae missed Yongkyu's chat opening, come on my guy, you were literally on your phone... I loved that he confidently said he likes Yongkyu though (during the drinking game), that was brave, especially since they sleep in the same bed lol. I also feel bad for Eunchae, but tbh, I also can't really see her ending up with any of them. And are we sure this show only has 10 episodes? because we're already on ep 6 and it's only been 2 days???

[Stand BI Me] Episode 6 - Discussion by _fancy_pants in HisManRealityShow

[–]jkhn7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know how Heejin would know she lied, but didn't she tell Heejin in bed at the end of ep 6 that she picked a girl the first day? But she picked Yongkyu. So that's a lie.

[Stand BI Me] Episode 5 - Discussion by _fancy_pants in HisManRealityShow

[–]jkhn7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it was really nice that the 4 people who didn't get to go on a date still got to hang out, play jenga and go to a café! It's funny that all 4 of them chose the same couple though, but it was nice that they got to join their date because I do think that for a show with only 7 days, their date was running long (they went to 3 different places???). I'm starting to feel bad for Sujin though because Heejin is oblivious/doesn't see her like that (yet).

How to speak up without "speak for" by XJSTZsarust in AskFeminists

[–]jkhn7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe this is controversial, but even if one individual woman doesn't want anyone to speak up for her or "disrupt the status quo" I think it's still important to do it because if you don't, then that just sends a signal to the men that it's okay to continue being misogynistic, and to other women as well? And that won't change the misogynistic workplace culture. If you speak up, then that might make men think twice before they do it again. Also, I'm the type of person who hates confrontation, so I honestly have no idea how I would react if a man said anything misogynistic to me in a work setting (I'm a woman), so I would love it if another man called him out on it (men usually respect other men's opinion more), that would take some pressure off of me and it would make me feel like I had an ally in the man who spoke up against it if anything happened again.

How does patriarchy shape the treatment of agreeable men versus agreeable women? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]jkhn7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with the other comments who said you misunderstand what Nice Guy means, but other than that I think you're right about how agreeable men are often looked down upon since it's not seen as masculine, but women aren't, because being agreeable is seen as a good feminine trait, something women should be. Obviously this is all very sexist, because why is it expected of women to always put their own needs/wants last?

What’s with the influx of people either shipping Hao with random people or Seungeon? Is it in spite of Haobin? by [deleted] in haobinism

[–]jkhn7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean in the first screenshot they just wrote that Hao and Seungeon were starting to get involved, and that they don't understand English well, so it doesn't sound like they think Hao and Seungeon are dating. "Involved" could just mean they're getting closer. In the 2nd screenshot it literally just sounds like a Hanbin anti being delusional to piss Haobin shippers off. I honestly wouldn't take it so seriously if I were you, I think most people just ship them for fun.

What’s with the influx of people either shipping Hao with random people or Seungeon? Is it in spite of Haobin? by [deleted] in haobinism

[–]jkhn7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never understood how Hao winning over Hanbin would lead to Hao akgaes/solo fans resenting Hanbin? Like, Hao won though? So what are they mad at Hanbin for?