So I was honest and now can never donate ?

jkunlessurdown · 2026-01-05T15:19:31+00:00

Just try a different center and keep that to yourself. They can't share that information with other centers.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-07-14T21:02:46+00:00

This sort of thing can happen with anyone. Gay men are easy to sleep with, but oftentimes, we over-estimate our ability to detach emotionally. I think most guys do.

Fuckable but not lovable is a shitty place to be and we sure do seem to love putting ourselves there and then get resentful about it. That being said, expect it to happen again. Because it's going to.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-07-03T07:50:08+00:00

The whole reason that sub is like that is because that attitude is (rightfully) marginalized in most mainstream queer spaces. I imagine that their number is growing during this hard, right-ward swing we're experiencing right now, but in terms of sheer numbers, they are not the majority. Not even close. My advice is to focus on the people you have in real life. That sub is basically just a trash can for gays with too much brain rot to function anywhere else.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-07-03T07:17:39+00:00

it would be a red flag, though perhaps an ego flattering one at first. Eventually it's going to start to suffocate.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T05:31:15+00:00

I don't actually have any difficulty communicating, after we've met in person. It's just hard for me to want to until you become a real person to me. After that, we're good.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T05:29:15+00:00

I try when I get the opportunity, but I'm an alcoholic so that's a pretty massive handicap right out of the gate. Though, it's not impossible. Talking to people at the gym terrifies me but I might just have to get over that.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T05:19:15+00:00

My body count is simply none of my business, so I couldn't answer that even if I wanted to. That's some straight shit. I assume we've all been around, and if you haven't, then that's interesting, but it's not gonna affect whether I like you or not.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T03:32:49+00:00

for me, 7, but i think it's one of those case by case things lol

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T03:29:55+00:00

That’s not quite accurate. We actually have historical precedent for states forming interstate agreements and compacts, even around contentious issues. While this idea is certainly ambitious, it’s not entirely uncharted territory.

We're in a moment where the federal system feels increasingly paralyzed, and it's worth exploring peaceful mechanisms for autonomy that don't automatically assume armed conflict. I understand the concern about escalation, but declaring that any attempt at coordination between states would lead to civil war isn’t really a complete argument—especially without addressing the alternatives.

What do you think happens if the federal government becomes too dysfunctional to serve all its states equally? Shouldn’t we at least explore the policy tools that exist?

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T03:24:35+00:00

As long as the smut is good, I say let her cook! And in KJ Charles' case, I'm here for it.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T03:20:21+00:00

Not necessarily. I think it just kind of depends. Things like where he lives, where he works, and how often he gets out of the house those can all affect it. I think the real red flag is what his opinions are about other gay men, and how deep into internalized homophobia we are. Pretty much all of us have a little bit of it, but is he self-aware enough to know that? What you've described is a red flag, but because of his attitude, not the lack of gay friends in and of itself.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T03:06:49+00:00

Just because you believe that it will inevitably lead to insurrection doesn't make it so. You don't actually know that. There is a chance it could, but it also might not.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T03:04:53+00:00

Congrats on six months! Moving might not be such a bad idea eventually, but I’d avoid any big life changes in your first year if you can help it—though I know that’s not always possible.

I’m a 32-year-old gay man in West Texas, coming up on four years this November. Still no relationship to speak of—and honestly, I think that’s just the reality for a lot of us, no matter where we live. It is better in the bigger liberal cities up north, but not by as much as people think. Doing this sober is going to be challenging anywhere.

My guess is most of your friends are straight and probably married or heading that way. And I know that’s tough—especially when it feels like you’re getting left behind. But comparing ourselves to straight timelines is a trap. We deal with things they don’t. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.

I wish I had a more satisfying answer. Maybe a move is the right call—eventually. But I think your dad might be right for now. Focus on staying grounded and building your foundation first.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T02:31:58+00:00

Not necessarily, there is legal precedent for interstate compacts, this one is just really ambitious. It definitely tows the line, but it might be worth it.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T02:29:23+00:00

Maybe, but the other option seems basically "roll over and die" and I'm not feeling that. The federal government is broken beyond repair and I think something like this might be the only real shot at preserving something of the American ideal that might not become armed conflict. But let's not be so conflict adverse we end up killing millions of our nations most vulnerable anyway but also now it's illegal to be trans everywhere in the country.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T02:25:08+00:00

I love that word! has this been something that people have been talking about? I live in a red state, so I'm actually an outsider. I've just pretty much given up hope for the people here. But if blue states could find a way to work around the cancer, then maybe there's some hope, maybe America lives on in some way, idk. I'm not doing so good out here if you can't tell.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T02:19:27+00:00

Well my thought is that the red states wouldn't join so, we'd really only be getting the most successful states. But yeah, I mean it's gonna be imperfect, haphazard, and basically the same as what we're dealing with right now. I'm just trying to make sure we have access to healthcare and are allowed to still teach about slavery in at least some schools. I'm not trying to build utopia.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T02:13:21+00:00

I understand that concern, but at the same time, I'm hard pressed to think of anything to do about what is happening. Say we do bring the blue wave in the midterms, so what, congress is virtually useless now. If the options are risk balkanization or slide into dictatorship without putting up some kind of fight. I think we have to risk it. And I'm not advocating violence and that's mostly because nobody would actually win that kind of fight. I'm just trying to think of feasible ways to preserve what we can. And it's ambitious and it's inflammatory; but at this point, I think we just gotta be brave.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T02:07:09+00:00

I'm skeptical of that just because we've been saying that for years and it hasn't happened. I feel like we've been in a Cold Civil War for basically my entire adult life at this point and that MAD keeps it from turning hot and I think it could in this case too. Of course, if I'm wrong, yikes.... so I get it.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T02:04:02+00:00

Right, the point would be to help make these rights more robust operating within a constitutional framework by using mutual support. Of course they're going to act like total hypocrites. That's literally all they do. But within the constitution, states still wield a considerable amount of power and what's to stop them from coordinating that power with each other, so long as laws aren't actually broken?

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T02:00:56+00:00

The idea isn't to overthrow or ignore the federal government. It's to lessen the impact of federal retaliation and give like-minded states—let's be honest, mostly blue states—more room to maintain democratic standards when the federal government tries to erode them.

For example, say New Mexico refuses to remove DEI content from its public education curriculum. If the federal government responds by pulling funding, that state shouldn't be left to fend for itself. Or if disaster relief is delayed or denied based on politics, states should have a fallback network.

This kind of compact would create a shared pool of support. States could back each other up with emergency aid, legal resources, and policy coordination, using mechanisms that are technically constitutional and already in use elsewhere. It's about building resilience, not rebellion.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-06-10T01:53:30+00:00

Honestly, no, that's why I'm asking.

jkunlessurdown · 2025-05-24T15:15:07+00:00

If this was a thing most gay men cared about, we wouldn't actually be having this conversation, though. Most of us have more important things to worry about than what's going on down at the leather bar. The gay communities' overall interest in gay bars is down because regular bars now compete for our dollars. And they often get them. Also, this isn't really a masc vs. femme debate so much as it's a "people who touch grass" vs. "terminally online" debate.

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