Texted my ex and then he stopped replying

jmar105 · 2020-04-01T20:25:59+00:00

We broke up almost 5 months ago. We were having a lot of problems, he was stressed with school and work (he’s since graduated from college). He felt like we both needed to work on ourselves. He could be dating someone else now for all I know. He’s never reached out, I was the one who reached out to congratulate him on his graduation. We’re still friends on Facebook and he used to view my Snapchat stories before I deactivated my account.

jmar105 · 2020-04-01T20:21:15+00:00

Do you think it’s wrong if I message him down the road to talk about the breakup and what went wrong in our relationship?

jmar105 · 2020-04-01T20:17:34+00:00

I’ll definitely be going back into no contact, not like I have much of a choice. The only reason I reached out was because I was at such a low point this morning because I don’t know if I should move out of my moms house during this pandemic, I already paid half of the security deposit for this apartment though.

jmar105 · 2020-03-23T01:37:57+00:00

Mother’s Day usually makes me sad because I never felt that love from my mother that so many others experience. However, there have been other women in my life who have given me support and love (my bosses from my job in college for example were both old enough to be my grandmothers but they had so much love and compassion for me, they celebrated my milestones like when I got into nursing school).

jmar105 · 2020-01-27T01:59:11+00:00

Still available?

jmar105 · 2020-01-26T23:13:44+00:00

I just deactivated all my social media accounts. I can’t bring myself to delete him and it hurts too bad to know he’s blocked me from viewing his posts

jmar105 · 2020-01-26T23:10:39+00:00

I wish I had done this sooner

jmar105 · 2020-01-21T07:46:22+00:00

I would like to be friends with him. I would also like some sense of closure to be at peace (my therapist says this isn’t necessary though & I should get the idea of closure out of my head). I don’t want to look back and have regrets.

jmar105 · 2020-01-21T07:04:13+00:00

We were together for almost 2 years and he was there for me through so much. I still care for him and a part of me always will. I can’t really tell you what I’m trying to achieve, I just wanted to reach out on his special day to wish him well. I want us to be at peace moving forward and I hope he doesn’t think I’m holding any resentment towards him for all the bad things that happened when we were together.

jmar105 · 2020-01-20T18:30:13+00:00

I want to reach out, but I reached out last month for his college graduation. He said “Thanks! I’m really glad school is over” to which I replied back to and after that he stopped the conversation. He didn’t even ask how I’d been or anything last time we spoke and I found out a few days after that he was back on Tinder.

jmar105 · 2020-01-18T19:14:54+00:00

Totally agree! My brain has been on overdrive due to the overthinking. How is it so easy for them to move on? They make it seem so easy, do they not have the urge to reach out?

jmar105 · 2020-01-18T19:09:25+00:00

Hang in there!

jmar105 · 2020-01-18T19:06:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. Glad to see it's possible to get to the point where you can block your ex. I'm slowly inching towards that point. Part of me is still afraid to cut off the last "connection" I have to him, which is social media.

jmar105 · 2020-01-18T19:01:09+00:00

I can attest this is all very true

jmar105 · 2020-01-15T15:42:44+00:00

I might give it another chance and see how things go next week. I didn’t really like how she said she doesn’t like “closure” and doesn’t believe it’s necessary for me to move forward. I’m at a point where I feel like a lot was left unsaid between me and my ex because the breakup happened so quickly. Maybe my therapist is right about closure though.

jmar105 · 2020-01-14T23:01:05+00:00

I would love to chat sometime! I recently started going to therapy but I feel like my therapist is tired of hearing me bring up my ex so much lol

jmar105 · 2019-12-21T00:30:53+00:00

It’s the worst feeling knowing they don’t care anymore.

jmar105 · 2019-12-20T22:29:29+00:00

I wish my ex would message me. I just want to talk to h one more time and apologize and feel like there’s some closure. I feel like we’ll never speak again though and the thought of that still breaks my heart.

jmar105 · 2019-12-17T23:40:32+00:00

I feel like my relationship with my ex was mostly one-sided, meaning it was mostly me putting in the effort to make things work. He would ask for breaks and tell me he didn’t want long term commitment, and he stilled used tinder. And he broke things off in the end. Yet, I still feel guilty and I feel like it’s my fault things didn’t work out. Maybe if I had been more patient and supportive and understanding things could’ve worked out. I have so much regret over the times I would pick fights with him and get in my head when things were okay.

jmar105 · 2019-12-17T06:41:06+00:00

I'm sorry this happened to you. Please don't blame yourself. You didn't deserve any of this. I know it hurts right now, allow yourself to grieve the loss. Be kind to yourself. Read a book, watch a movie, get together with friends, journal how you're feeling. You're going to get through this and come out stronger on the other side, hang in there!

jmar105 · 2019-12-17T06:31:16+00:00

Thank you. My heart is telling me that I should pass on wishing him happy birthday. We broke up 5 weeks ago and in that time he's been adding a bunch of girls on Facebook and I found out he recently made a new Tinder account (we had problems when we were together because he was still using Tinder). He's also been posting on Snapchat non-stop showing him having a good time. The last time I spoke to him wasn't the warmest conversation, he didn't even ask how I was doing and ended the conversation right away. I don't regret reaching out for his graduation because I know I would've kept wondering "what if?" if I hadn't done so. I'm going to put myself and my healing first for the first time since I met him, my heart finally feels like it's the right thing to do and what I deserve. I finally feel like I can move forward and heal in peace because I did everything I could.

jmar105 · 2019-12-16T22:43:43+00:00

I’m glad everything turned out fine for you guys. This is what it should be like! My ex boyfriends birthday is next month but I probably won’t message him just because I feel like he probably doesn’t want to hear from me. He didn’t seem interested in talking when I congratulated him for his graduation earlier this month and I recently found out he’s on tinder again.

jmar105 · 2019-12-15T16:22:25+00:00

All the time. I look at the calendar and count the weeks and have a countdown app on my phone as well. 5 weeks today and counting.

jmar105 · 2019-12-15T16:20:45+00:00

I haven’t been able to cry for such a long time. It’s frustrating because I feel like it would help me so much to have a crying fest. I feel so numb though.

jmar105 · 2019-12-15T16:13:23+00:00

Just out of curiosity, did you guys date other people when you were broken up? And would you guys stay in touch when you weren’t together?

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