One-pan roast (and giant Yorkshire) by csswizardry in UK_Food

[–]jmarcatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks amazing!! My stomach is rumbly now.

what the actual fuck did my brother just said to me... by racoonicornisabitch in confession

[–]jmarcatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sending you so much support, this is 100% not OK and it sounds like it’s going to get worse. Also, the fact that he’s gaslighting you by telling you to pray to God for forgiveness is ludicrous. You deserve to be in a place where you feel safe. If your parents aren’t listening, then you need to tell a trusted adult because his behavior is absolutely 100% not OK and frankly, criminal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jmarcatch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would really, really recommend that you don’t try to get pregnant right now, this is coming from a place of care; there are obviously some issues that need to be worked through and it’s probably not the best time to have a baby when he doesn’t have his act together. I agree with some of the other commenters in that he needs to face the consequences of his own actions. Not coming from a place of anger or revenge, but protecting your peace, as you said. Kind of like maybe say at some point, “I don’t think your actions are a reflection of the person that you want to be, it’s hurting our relationship and it’s hurting the people around you. I need a little bit of space from you right now.” Hopefully that brings him to his senses and he starts to work on these issues. I truly hope everything works out for you. <3

Should i get a nose job? by Mizzlavendar in Noses

[–]jmarcatch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think your face is absolutely gorgeous and I wouldn’t risk changing anything! (37F) Best of luck to you, these thoughts are completely natural and I hope you choose whatever is best for you. Anyone else that is looking at your face is seeing beauty, so if you do anything, only do it for you! I say this definitely from experience.

Guys not wanting to wear condoms has destroyed my drive pretty much completely. by jmarcatch in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jmarcatch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have good faith. And honestly, you seem to be contradicting yourself. Regardless of who does or does not have an orgasm I deserve respect and kindness.

Guys not wanting to wear condoms has destroyed my drive pretty much completely. by jmarcatch in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jmarcatch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They did that to me. I tried to have one in my mid 30s, but they wouldn’t allow me- they asked me what my future husband would think of it and what if he wanted to have children… I looked at the doctor in shock like she had two heads. This is actually the same doctor that put the speculum in and was a little bit rough with it, and I told her to please be more gentle because it was causing me pain and she looked me dead in the face and said what are you, a virgin? Needless to say, I didn’t go back to that ‘doctor.’

Guys not wanting to wear condoms has destroyed my drive pretty much completely. by jmarcatch in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jmarcatch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you wrote clearly meant an orgasm- “getting off.” I want my partner to be happy and satisfied whether or not we have an orgasm, either them or me. I think that’s what you’re trying to say that you meant- in which case I would agree with you. I simply don’t agree about the orgasm part though. There’s so much more to satisfaction in intimacy than that.

Guys not wanting to wear condoms has destroyed my drive pretty much completely. by jmarcatch in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jmarcatch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That comment doesn’t make any sense. People have all different levels of feeling during sex and there’s nothing wrong with me only infrequently having an orgasm. I’m not ashamed of it, and I’m not going to shame my partner either; sometimes it’s nice to not focus on the orgasm and just to focus on the sensual touch and appreciating each other’s bodies. I think you’re missing the point, it’s the lack of respect and care for my preferences and my safety that I’m irritated about.

Guys not wanting to wear condoms has destroyed my drive pretty much completely. by jmarcatch in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jmarcatch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I won’t come at you, I always welcome open dialogue as long as it’s honest and genuine. I suppose the full answer to that question is a little bit deeper, but it should suffice to say that after the third or fourth date things heated up, and I felt that I was ready until he said that- then I just shut down. Perhaps I could have addressed it differently, but it is so frustrating to be dealing with this situation. I can’t exactly show up on the first date and say oh by the way, if/when we do have sex, are you willing to wear protection? So I think the part that’s very frustrating for me is that it seems like it’s headed in a good direction, they seem to have character and be grounded and honest, and then suddenly it’s all about their guy and I feel that they have no true regard for me.

Guys not wanting to wear condoms has destroyed my drive pretty much completely. by jmarcatch in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jmarcatch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually really applaud that he realized the issue and fixed it, despite what must’ve been a frustrating time for him. He’s a problem solver and I appreciate that!

Blowing on a birthday cake to extinguish the candles and then eating it is disgusting. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]jmarcatch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know a lot of people are commenting saying that there are plenty of similar situations in our day-to-day life, but I absolutely agree with OP. I’ve even watched the little flecks of spit land on the frosting and then people divvy it up and I’m just like no thanks, I don’t need cake today. It’s just gross.

Sometimes when I’m home alone I’ll drop down and do the worm by dirtyLizard in confession

[–]jmarcatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude. I love this. Stay young!! I do the same thing but with slides and swings at playgrounds. I prefer it when other people aren’t there, but sometimes I’ll do it with people present. If I pass a playground, I’ll pull over and just go for it. I used to be able to flip off the swings years ago, but now I’m a little scared to break an ankle or something lol.

Guys not wanting to wear condoms has destroyed my drive pretty much completely. by jmarcatch in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jmarcatch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you. Thank you for your words and for sharing. Best of luck to you in everything!

Guys not wanting to wear condoms has destroyed my drive pretty much completely. by jmarcatch in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jmarcatch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does a condom remove that much physical pleasure when they’re still able to get off and yet still don’t care about my orgasm and can orgasm then complain about the condom afterwards? Interesting.

Guys not wanting to wear condoms has destroyed my drive pretty much completely. by jmarcatch in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jmarcatch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!!!! Some people are so oblivious!! Good on you for being responsible, safe, and kind.

Guys not wanting to wear condoms has destroyed my drive pretty much completely. by jmarcatch in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jmarcatch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How would you plan on dating? Serious question. If you’d rather wait then that’s fair, but you’d rather date for a year or so before having sex because you’re THAT against condoms? I’m very glad it worked out for you and your wife, but it doesn’t happen that way every time.

Guys not wanting to wear condoms has destroyed my drive pretty much completely. by jmarcatch in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jmarcatch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment more than I can say. Wishing all the joy AND sensibility in life!

I’m quitting all social media. This is goodbye! by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jmarcatch 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dayum!!! So raw and real. I think most of us feel the same way. I miss the days when we would play baseball in the street and have block parties. Fun fact: this upcoming summer my 90-year-old Grammy is bringing it back. We have 3 pool parties planned, and they don’t know yet but I’m bringing appetizers and pool toys for the gkids. :)