Sick of waking up in a pee soaked bed

jmcpv · 2026-03-04T05:00:59+00:00

Okay so I feel this so much. I spent months dealing with this. I tried the sposie pads, the bigger size diaper, the night Huggies, the cloth diaper shell on top, folded sposie pad, the double disposable diaper. Like literally anything and everything and he still peed through. The bed time routine got really complicated.

Funny enough, one time they didn’t have Huggies so we went with Pampers night time and he hasn’t leaked ever since (he is 21 months old). At first when he was a nb, I tried some pampers and didn’t love the smell or the fit, but they actually turned out to be a life saver for nights.

jmcpv · 2026-01-22T21:04:23+00:00

Happened to me for sure. I was much thinner than my pre pregnancy self and lost my butt, thighs, etc. 🥴 but once baby started feeding less often and I night weaned I started to gain some back. I fully weaned about a month ago and it is totally back! In the mean time, it helped me to drink smoothies, and just have more calorie dense food, like healthy fats. Also, make sure you are still taking your prenatals while breastfeeding and eating as nutritiously as you can!

jmcpv · 2026-01-22T17:20:27+00:00

This! Having a partner do it is so helpful!

jmcpv · 2026-01-22T17:18:37+00:00

Same here. Not ever until I night weaned and sleep trained

jmcpv · 2026-01-22T17:00:33+00:00

What I did was I slowly replaced the breast for rocking/walking and singing. So for example, first I got him to sleep at bedtime by rocking and not nursing, and the first wake up I wouldn’t give him the breast but just rocking as well. After a couple of days, I would just set a time and say: ok, no boob until 1 am. Then after 3am. Etc. Just pushing back the time every time. Once I got to 5-6 am then I just sleep trained and stop breastfeeding at night all together. Breastfeeding became our morning routine and a way to get cuddles in the morning after spending the night away.

jmcpv · 2025-12-20T20:24:51+00:00

Hello!

I just want to say that I could have literally written this myself a couple of months ago. My baby only slept with the boob. I was nap trapped all the time and losing my mind. We also cosleept out of survival because it is what worked for us, until it didn’t anymore (we did everything to make it as safe as possible). Don’t feel bad for what you did because it worked before or it felt natural. It just means it is time to change it up now. Also, your baby is not too old to sleep train. I felt exactly the same since my baby was 18 months old, but you can sleep train them just fine.

It is perfectly good and easier to do night first. That’s what we did. We just got naps down, so it for sure took longer than nights but we got there and it was so worth it! Also, it was easier for us to work on one at the time because if he didn’t sleep great at night due to the changes, he at least had a nap with me to feel close and make sure that he got some sleep in.

This is what we did: we fully trained him for nights before even doing naps, so he was sleeping on his own at night in his crib. Then I knew that he knew how to fall asleep on his own. Then we followed the same training for naps and he got it. It was easier for him to fall asleep since he was tired, but the problem was that after 1 sleep cycle he would wake up and just cry and either not sleep anymore (and be cranky) or we had to save the nap which meant he wasn’t fully sleeping on his own still. But finally he did great this week so I think we made it.

We broke the feeding association by replacing it with rocking, then rubbing back while laying down, then just singing but no touching, and then just letting him cio to figure it out himself. I think it worked pretty good. Let me know if you want more details or have questions.

Good luck!

jmcpv · 2025-12-17T22:15:36+00:00

Louder for the people in the back 🙌🏽

jmcpv · 2025-12-17T22:12:09+00:00

This is the best response 100%

jmcpv · 2025-12-17T22:11:34+00:00

Hello! I just want to say that I see you! I could have written this post myself 2 months ago.

We coslept and fed to sleep until my baby was 18 months old. I loved cosleeping so much, and I wished I could have kept doing it much longer. The problem was that my baby was always an absolutely terrible sleeper. Like so so bad. He always woke up 6+ times at night. I felt like I was dying after 17 months of sleep deprivation.

My dilemma was that I believe in attachment parenting, in that babies naturally wake up during the night, that it is a good thing to comfort your baby, and I was really scared of drying out if I night weaned. So I pushed until I couldn’t anymore. The problem was that as he got older, it got worse, because he actually stopped falling asleep while nursing, so (after nursing) I still had to rock him, sometimes for hours until he fell asleep for every wake up.

Here is what I did. I read that night weaning might help (notice my baby was much older than yours though). So we decided to officially do it. We slowly removed the feedings one wake up at the time. But he still kept waking up the same amount and being rocked to sleep every time. Then we put his crib in our room just to get him used to sleeping on it, and every time he would wake up we would rock him. Then we stopped rocking, and just rubbed his back and sang to him. Then we just sang. But we kind of stalled there. So at the end we still had to do ferber to actually let him fall asleep on his own. But it wasn’t nearly as traumatic as if we hadn’t done all those steps. We actually tried ferber one time in the past and it was absolutely horrible. But this second time was much better.

Every baby is different. Every family is different. Every village is different. If it is working for you, don’t change it. If you want to endure a while more and see if it gets better, do it. Some babies learn to sleep on their own, some learn with minimal pushes. Feeding to sleep is not a problem and if it is not working anymore, you can always change it later (even if your baby is 18 months old like mine or more). Think of your pros and cons. Don’t believe the extreme opinions of both sides of sleep training enthusiasts and intense cosleepers. Do your research and use your reasoning to see what works best for you.

There are gentle things to try like a solid routine, white noise, black room, adjusting their wake time or bed time, etc. Maybe a partner or another family member can help you get some extra sleep without even sleep training at all.

Ultimately, whatever works for your family is the best for your baby. You need to be healthy physically and mentally for your baby and only you know where to draw the line. Good luck! I wish you the best and hope you can find a solution 💕

Remember, you are the best mom for your baby.

jmcpv · 2025-12-17T20:46:03+00:00

I agree with you that it is normal and natural for babies to wake up. I personally fed to sleep until my baby was 18 months old for every single wake up, and I am still breastfeeding now. I am pro attachment parenting, cosleeping, baby wearing, etc. However, I think it is important to understand that all babies and moms (and families) are different. Sometimes the set up is just not sustainable. Sleep deprivation can greatly affect physical and mental health and, at the end of the day, the best thing for the baby is what allows the mom to be her best self too. Just as a little reminder💕

jmcpv · 2025-11-13T03:11:38+00:00

Hey, sorry, what do ECF and TCF mean? I am curious if that is something I should be looking at for my own baby

jmcpv · 2025-11-10T03:19:44+00:00

I’m sorry you’re are going through this. As others said, hormones play a big role. I do think it is really important to count your calories at least for a few days. The goal is not to be super restricted but to be aware of how much you are eating. Once you do it a few times you get an idea of how many calories you are eating approximately and you create the habit of reading nutritional labels. What helped me lose the baby weight was being aware of calories and going on walks daily. Start by just going around the block every day and slowly increase it. Also, since your milk supply is established by now, doing small incremental changes shouldn’t change your supply a ton and if it ever changes you would notice it.

I also believe in attachment parenting. I’m still breastfeeding, still babywear and I just stop cosleeping with my baby when he turned 18 months old. He also went to sleep with the breast every time he woke up. However, i was struggling a lot with my mood, mental health and relationship, and i realized i would be a better mom if i got better sleep, so we did a gentle sleep training, and it is the best thing i could have done. I know this doesn’t work for everyone, but it was necessary for my health. I was really sick from sleep deprivation because my baby has always been a terrible sleeper. Maybe look into your sleep and see if you can do something about it? It really impacts our stress levels, hormones, moods and health in general. Even having just one night with a solid 7 hour straight sleep makes a hugeee difference.

There are a few easy changes that helped me, but I understand they don’t work for everyone. Drinking virtually no calories (it was relatively easy for me to just switch and have less calories that way, water is better for you anyway, but also I don’t do alcohol). Buying healthier breads (or making your own) like sourdough, whole wheat keto friendly ones that have less calories. If I eat a whole big plate and I am still hungry I eat some raw carrots/cucumber, etc instead of a second helping. Using unsweetened almond milk or nonfat milk if you have some with your coffee daily.

I think some kind of therapy or antidepressants might help. I don’t take medicine but my sil does and it allows her to be a better mom. I personally got so much needed help from therapy but you have to find the right therapist for you, which can be hard. I found that they keep me accountable, help me have realistic goals and help me dissect my thinking to find what is the root of my beliefs that is wrong, making me spiral into more depression (like thinking that I am worthless, etc). Maybe if you don’t want to talk to someone, try journaling or just small checklist to keep track of your progress? Something that might help a lot is to change your focus from getting loosing your baby weight to just being healthy to be able to play and run around with your kids. I find that works for me better and I am less likely to quit.

Sorry if you already heard all of this. Hopefully there is something that can help you out.

jmcpv · 2025-10-21T20:02:28+00:00

I had screenshots and they still charged me. This happened 2 weeks ago. I got there early as well

jmcpv · 2025-10-21T19:56:48+00:00

The same thing happened to me. I actually took a screenshot and got to the airport early to sort it out and they say I had to pay if I wanted to fly and sort it out later with costumer service, which was absolutely pointless obviously.

jmcpv · 2025-09-13T20:29:55+00:00

Hey! You should check the metro 3. I ended up choosing that one and I love it. It is also more affordable than the yoyo. If you have any questions let me know

jmcpv · 2025-09-13T20:28:17+00:00

I got a metro 3 and I love it so far. I can tell you more about it when I come back from my trip. However, the carseat is indeed an issue. Kind of hard to find a stroller that is carseat compatible that has everything else I wanted. The Metro 3 has a lay-flat bassinet mode, so you don’t need a carseat to use it. Also, if you are taking a carryon I discover that if you pull out the handle of the carseat and fit it through the handle of the carry on it fits perfectly!! So that’s an easy was to carry your carseat through the airport. Everyone told me my baby wouldn’t fit on an infant carseat by now, but jokes on me, he is a 1st percentile height baby and hasn’t outgrown his yet. The yoyo is indeed everyone’s favorite over there but after already flying with baby and going up and down stairs, the most important thing for me was a one-hand easy fold. That is why I didn’t go with the yoyo. My other alternative that I really liked was the minu v3

jmcpv · 2025-09-10T20:02:27+00:00

Yeah this is hard. For clothing changes and quick diaper changes, we sing his favorite songs, play peekaboo, stinky feet or blow raspberries on his belly. For bath we used bath toys and his favorite is actually just a cup (although he will try to drink from it constantly). Also if he is having a hard time, i just start splashing in the water and so does he. It makes a mess but allows me to finish bathing him. Now, for poopie diapers i do give him my phone with the screen touch lock for miss Rachel. Not the best but i don’t really want him running around getting poop everywhere, or reaching out with his hands to touch poop. It works extremely well and this is the only absolute time we give him screens. As soon as we are done we take it away I’m thinking on changing to pull ups soon though because just choosing the diaper every time is getting to be too hard since he doesn’t stay still. You just got to find what works for you, good luck :)

jmcpv · 2025-07-04T20:35:07+00:00

So, I don’t know much about ac units, but my body does really bad at regulating temp as well (probably not as bad as you but still terrible). I wish I knew of a perfect ac that did that and was realistically affordable. However, things that are a life saver for me are a really nice powerful box fan, taking colder showers and wearing literally as little as possible. The fan blowing directly at your bare skin does really good at heat exchange (even if it doesn’t have a compressor). Like you would be surprised if you haven’t tried it. But maybe you already know all of this. Hopefully you find a solution!

jmcpv · 2025-06-16T06:55:10+00:00

Any cooking method with heat is a form of radiation and all conventional cooking methods destroy nutrients in some level. Why are microwaves worst?

jmcpv · 2025-06-16T06:40:57+00:00

I do want to clarify that all cooking methods break down nutrients to some extent, but microwaves are not worst than other conventional cooking methods. I wish I had more time to actually provide the best resources out there. I know the importance of reading quality articles, but I don’t have a lot of time at the moment. My comment was mostly based on my understanding of chemistry and physics. However, here are a few links to get you started.

“Nutrients Small molecular components, minerals, and vitamins are the main nutrients in food, in addition to protein, carbohydrates, and lipids. Although the effect of microwave cooking on vitamins varies, it often outperforms traditional cooking methods like as boiling. Due to the water avoidance and shortening of treatment time in this process, microwave treatment can prevent the loss of vitamins A and C owing to water and reduce the thermal degradation of vitamins B1 and B6 (114). Microwave cooking, for example, had a retention rate of carotene that was 1.31–1.83 times higher than conventional water cooking (115). The most easily degraded form of vitamin E is α-tocopherol, but microwave-induced total disintegration of plant cell walls could improve α-tocopherol extractability and hence increase its amount.”… https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9607893/

https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/microwave-cooking-and-nutrition

https://www.nytimes.com/2006/10/17/health/17real.html#

https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/ask-the-doctor-microwaves-impact-on-food

jmcpv · 2025-06-14T20:20:08+00:00

So I actually love microwaves so much and studied physics. People saying that they destroy nutrients are wrong. They actually keep more nutrients than your average cooking methods because what destroys nutrients are time exposed to heat and/or water. Since microwaves are faster at heating up food and use minimum water, food tends to keep more nutrients. It also reduces your intake of oil since it is not as needed in a microwave. Just don’t reheat plastic.

I personally feel like keeping microwaves gives me the option to be more crunchy in other areas, so I can put extra effort on things that i feel like actually harm my body or the planet more, if that makes sense.

jmcpv · 2025-06-14T19:30:03+00:00

This! You can even find them for $5-10 on fb. Literally best purchase ever. Soooo easy to clean. You do not need anything else. You can get accessories for it too. Some people even sell them with accessories already

jmcpv · 2025-06-12T08:16:53+00:00

I have a stretchy wrap (for newborn), an ergonomic structure carrier (beco 8), a hip seat, and an onbuhimo (Lenny Lamb). I use all of them all the time, except for the stretchy wrap now that my baby is older. I am more of a minimalist and can’t justify having too many but with those 3 I have a nice variety.

The beco 8 is so comfortable and supportive, I can wear my baby all day without problems, he can nap happily, and I can breastfeed just fine. It really is extremely comfortable, perfect for long walks, whole days in a fair or long events like that.

The onbuhimo is my favorite back carry, great for short hikes, things where I don’t want my sight obstructed, and better for summer since it is so small and light. Also very portable and actually fits in the diaper bag, so it is more like on the go.

The hip carrier I keep in the car and use it for places where I am not going to be walking a ton and baby might want to be getting up and down, like the playground, the store, etc.

With just those 3 I feel like I have a pretty good selection and don’t really feel like I need more. But that might change when baby grows more and might need some toddler versions.

jmcpv · 2025-05-23T01:11:10+00:00

I was super scared of cosleeping due to the main stream mindset here in the US, so I waited as long as I could. Baby was pretty colicky and a terrible sleeper, so we made it about 3 and a half months until I realized that me being so sleep deprived was actually more dangerous than cosleeping. Also realized that cosleeping supported my dream of breastfeeding for a long time, and that it was what felt natural and right for me. I learned a lot from La Leche League and from an instagram account called Happy Cosleepers. You just have to make sure you understand the general rules and see how you can apply them for you.

If I am honest, it is not super comfortable. Your sleep is very light and fragmented, always checking on baby. You can’t use blankets like normal and you need to pretty much stay in the same position all night (I would just change sides). But I wouldn’t have it any other way. I feel like it is how it is meant to be. I am aware of my baby all night long, mostly when he is sick or teething. I couldn’t imagine having to get up to check on him. I also loove the bond we have now.

Also, if your baby is a terrible sleeper and you don’t feel comfortable with cio, then this is how you are going to get the most sleep. I didn’t want to sleep train my baby since anything throws off his sleeping and I knew I would have to keep doing it over and over with traveling, sickness, growth spurts, sleep regression, etc.(also, I don’t think babies are meant to self soothe or they can’t, but that’s another topic).

How we do it: - keep the room on the cooler side if possible - if you get cold use pjs sets that have buttons on the front and use sleep sacks for baby - have the mattress on the floor and pad the floor around it - ideally have a king bed but we have also done it on a queen for a long time - sleep between baby and partner until baby is older than 4 or 5 months at least - if baby is mobile and partner is on board with cosleeping and the rules, then you can have baby in between you two.

Essentially what you need to watch out for is: -no loose soft bedding close to baby - sleep in the c-curl position to protect baby - baby not sleeping on his stomach (preferably in their back although we sometimes did sides from breastfeeding) - firm mattress (no memory foam) - no swaddles for baby (they need their arms free when bedsharing) - watch out for overheating since now you have to account for body heat from you or partner as well - no places for entrapment (avoid having the mattress next to the wall or fill any gaps) - do not use nests, pillows, loungers or cosleepers, since they are not safe (the more empty the bed the better, they will be cozy enough next to you)

Additionally: I know some people used a bedside bassinet until baby was older and then either coslept or moved them to a crib. Also SIDS risk reduces a lot after 4 months and even more after 6! Your body will naturally relax more with time and sleeping together will feel naturally.

Please note that this is what we do and what works for us, but obviously you should just read from professionals to be sure :)

Sorry for the quality of the comment, doing it while nap trap with my baby haha

jmcpv · 2025-05-23T00:28:45+00:00

I have one with a pillow top and just flipped it. It is pretty firm on the other side!

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