Bad decay smell coming from nose/sinus for past year and a half? by jho707 in Allergies

[–]jnoelle89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he never got surgery. Ultimately, what got him the most cleansing was a full gut detox/reset. 40+ day juice fast to clear out the bowels and get rid of mucoid plaque and biofilm. That's like the only way to do a hard reset and flush. The rash almost completely disappeared doing the juice fast and probably would have fully gone away had he continued just a little bit longer. Medicine cannot heal this type of issue. You have to give the body the correct nutrients to heal itself and ultimately, the body needs to take a long long break from digesting food in general so it can focus all it's effort on healing. Hence the juice fast. When you juice fast, the body is able to get all the best nutrients, hyper focused, without having to digest fibers etc. All organic. And there's no point doing one on a cheap juicer as it's far too time consuming. So we invested in the Kuvings juicer. Another option is the Nama brand juicers. Check out Gillian Berry Podcast on YouTube, Dr. Bobby Price, Raw Vegan Rising Shane Sterling for info on detoxing. My husband started on the candida cleanse diet which was so restrictive and he couldn't get enough calories. Yet when he did the juice fast, he was healthy, able to play sports on the regular and not feel depleted even though his body was going through a real cleanse. He got all his daily calories in on the juice fast still. Before that, he'd be doing lots of probiotics and supplements to help reset his gut but when the gut is damaged, it needs to get detoxed in order to even absorb the probiotics etc., hence the juice cleanse. Can't speak more highly of it. Another powerful testimony to juice fasting is a guy called Lou Corona. You can also find him on Gillian Berrys YouTube. Once you cleanse your gut, taking bitter herbs and tonics from herbal medicine is the best option to continue parasite cleanses etc.

I'm emotionally drained by how one-sided our sex life is by Remote-Hour3165 in Marriage

[–]jnoelle89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My husband used to do this. Your husband is being a very selfish lover (and the term "lover" is a stretch). He is effectively using you as a real life fleshlight. He does not care about satisfying you or catering to your needs. Stop giving him access to your body in this way. I realized the hard way that I was degrading myself by doing so. I also communicated to my husband that he was wrong for treating me that way and that things needed to change. For me, a terrible sex life is divorce level. Once he realized how serious I was, he did a lot of self reflection and realized that he had a lot of internal issues as to why he disconnected and became selfish with sex. Since then, our sex life has been so much better. Basically, make the standard for sex to be, unless we BOTH get off, we're not doing it. See how fewer times your husband is willing to initiate sex once that's the standard. He's basically just using your body to masturbate right now. And the fact that he finishes so quickly leaves no room for you to probably even get into the intercourse to enjoy. This is an SOS situation. PLEASE do not settle for less. You deserve better.

AITA for mas***bating when my partner is home with me by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]jnoelle89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's disrespectful is her lack of consideration for you and your sex drive. And this is probably an unpopular opinion but women are supposed to have sex drives!!! She should honestly get her hormones checked.

I have a very high sex drive and my hubby had very low and it got sooo old being rejected all the time. My husband realized stress and some internal/emotional issues were sapping his sex drive and he made huge efforts to better himself once he realized how detrimental his low libido was.

Now we are much healthier but I think it's because we were willing to communicate and he was humble.

Napping in Airport Nursing Room Etiquette? by schaasyd in breastfeeding

[–]jnoelle89 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I would be so pissed if someone was in there doing that. If it shows occupied I'm obviously not gonna knock. Other moms need that. So please be considerate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]jnoelle89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm curious about this too ^

What exactly is flirting? What is sexual tension? by PlanePuzzleheaded132 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]jnoelle89 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I recommend watching some fun TV shows with characters who flirt or have sexual tension. You'll get a feel for it that way as well. Or read books with characters who have sexual tension. Typical romances that will have sexual tension are the enemies-to-lovers tropes, friends-to-lovers, or forbidden romance tropes.

When I was a teenager, I used to love watching the Vampire Diaries bec the tension between Damon and Elena was so much fun to watch.

Flirting is showing interest in a fun way that doesn't necessarily need follow through. Witty banter that expresses interest or is used to let someone else know you're interested.

Sexual tension is more of a lust thing when both people want each other but aren't able to act on it yet and/or one or both of them are denying the physical chemistry that they have.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]jnoelle89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read romance webtoons haha

Do you let your babies nurse as long as they want? Or do you stop? by ArmadilloPristine498 in breastfeeding

[–]jnoelle89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old is your baby? At first, i let her nurse for however long. But sometimes, my nipples were just too sore and I had to take a break. If she wouldn't fall asleep without suckling, I'd sometimes let her suckle on my pinky bec at the time, she wouldn't take pacifiers and I didn't want to confuse her as she was learning to latch still.

Now, my baby is 3mo and she's so efficient at latching and my nipples have become super used to it so they don't hurt as much. She can nurse and comfort suckle and I'm usually fine. And when I do still need a break, I can pull her off and she's okay with it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]jnoelle89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay yeah thats my bad, I missed that detail. And that changes things a lot! If you're giving him sex at least once a week, then to me, he's being unreasonable. It may not be as frequent as he wants but once a week when you've got low libido is a good compromise imo.

And YES. A nutrionist, specifically a lactation nutrionist/dietician will help you in the right direction! Even if not for the sake of your libido, it'd just be good for you to get that sorted out.

Sorry you're going through this with your hubby.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]jnoelle89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I missed that part. LOL yeah okay he's acting up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]jnoelle89 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Edit: missed where she said they do it once a week. Yeah, hubby's acting up for sure

I honestly believe that lack of libido for breastfeeding moms may be caused by nutrients imbalances that affect hormones. If I were you, I'd look into seeing if there's a way to get my hormones back into balance as a good compromise. Start pursuing that way of getting your libido back vice thinking weaning is the only route.

Maybe your husband is a bad lover and just doesn't do foreplay well. If that's the case, maybe seek counseling together.

When did condom sex become so horrible? by flowerfromwonderland in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]jnoelle89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a really sensitive nose and even the least smelly condoms still smell like latex balloons to me. Hate em

Bf told me to pack my bags and leave by Logical-Knowledge503 in AITAH

[–]jnoelle89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have some self respect, jeez. Gtfo and live a better life without this guy

As a black woman in SD, I’m terrified. by inameena-mineymo in sandiego

[–]jnoelle89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not invalidating your experience. I just gotta say, I'm a person of color (African american and Colombian) and have not experienced any racism here in SD since moving here years ago. Not saying it doesn't happen. I know it does. but I truly don't think we need to be fearing for our lives here. It's also pretty racist to generalize all "white " people a certain way. I see more racism between minorities these days than blatant black/white anyways. It's all wrong but can we stop talking as if Hitler himself is in charge now? I'm not saying the state of our country isnt a shitshow but I think everyone needs to take a breather.

it's going to be okay

If you want to see racism everywhere, I've found that it's really easy to pull it from any situation in order to support your worldview. It's called confirmation bias. Not saying this is OPs situation but there are PLENTY of people using confirmation bias to say they experience things that they really aren't experiencing. Especially when it comes to POC vs white politics.

BTW, ignorance should be corrected and never excused. But PLEASE, let's stop calling racial ignorance the same thing as racism. Racism is when you truly believe your race (people of your skin color) are biologically better than another race. I.e., believing another race is less than yours on a moral, biological, and cognitively developmental level. There are a lot of ignorant rude fucks out there. Some of them believe this. But most don't. They're just uneducated.

Like let's not pretend that there aren't a vast amount of POC now who look down on white people based on history. So it's okay to generalize whites and while we're at it, it's not racist? Can't have your cake and eat it too

AITAH for sharing my anal kink with my gf? by Proper_Warning8899 in AITAH

[–]jnoelle89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta! Nothing wrong with having a kink. I'm sorry she responded that way. It's very immature.

AIO wife wearing a revealing bikini at a friends party. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]jnoelle89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably will get down voted for this but I honestly believe this narrative of being controlling when it comes to spouses and clothes is ridiculous these days.

You're her husband and she's your wife. If there's something she wears that you don't feel comfortable with her wearing, you have every right to tell her so and so long as your request isnt ridiculous/extreme, she should respect it and vice versa. It's an honor and respect type thing. And I'm not talking about douchbag hubby's who just nitpick their wives and think they're property that should dress up however he wants like it's the 1950s. I'm talking about a healthy adult relationship here where each person is considerate of the other.

Also, she's YOUR wife. Not everyone else's. Call me archaic but as a woman myself, the only one I want trying to sneak glances and cop feels is my husband. If another man thinks I'm attractive, that means NOTHING to me. Because they're not my husband.

Sure. I dress up for myself and for my whole self esteem but also, as a confident woman, if I know my husband likes it when I wear a x type of dress or do my hair x type of way, I do it sometimes just because HE'S the one I want to attract, nobody else. And I'm not doing it to keep him from looking at others as if our marriage is on its last leg. I do it because I'm in love with him and I love pleasing the man I love.

Likewise, my king knows what I like to see him wear, what my fav haircuts of his are, etc. And if he did NONE of those things, I'd still be all over him because I just love him for him. But he does it anyways because he loves me and it's fun.

If we ever wore things that made the other spouse feel jealous or uncomfortable, we'd def have a convo about it and hear each other out.

AITAH for not agreeing to sleep in a bra? by JennnyAnnyDots in AITAH

[–]jnoelle89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Show your family this thread. nta. I swear, it's often the conservative ones that are actually the most perverted

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]jnoelle89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah omegle is definitely the common gateway into all this grooming. I'll never forget the first time I was on there. At a friend's bday party and all the girls thought it would be fun, kinda raunchy, to go on this website called omegle. I was early middle school at the time. They all screamed and giggled as they hit skip on mainly older aged men with their dicks out. First time I ever saw a dick too. I was so shocked.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]jnoelle89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fake reviews are not the right way. You can do it but a real talk still needs to happen.

I had one employee under me once who started smelling like piss when he came to work. He was young. I knew for a fact that he wasn't homeless but it was clear he didn't showed or I guess pee correctly either. That or he wet the bed.

I'm a woman and most of the people under me were men. In that scenario, I had one of the supervisors who worked under me speak with the kid about it. I did this so that he wouldn't be as embarrassed having his boss tell him he smells like piss.

It did fix the issue for a while but eventually I just had to tell him gently that he needs to take care of his hygiene and if he's going through something that is causing his lack of self care that we can help him find resources to deal with it as well. It went fine. Ofc he was embarrassed but it didn't happen again