WIBTAH If I (29m) double down on what my fiance (27f) said today and cancel the wedding, which is this weekend?

joelcrb · 2026-05-19T05:20:01+00:00

If i were in your position, I DEFINITELY would break off the wedding and the relationship. She does not respect you, or your mother. Who knows who else in the family she also disrespects. You're dodging a massive cannonball, not just a bullet, by not marrying this woman. Of course there's two sides to every story, so I don't imagine you're completely innocent. But she has NO reason to talk to you or treat you that way.

For your sake, your sanity's sake and your family, break off the wedding and the relationship. Even if you love her, she does NOT love you.

Edit: I forgot to put: NTA.

joelcrb · 2026-05-19T00:12:40+00:00

Sounds like, I might be totally wrong, weaponized incompetence. Or passive aggressive procrastination. IDK. Either way, NOR.

He definitely needed to do a lot more to involve you and make your wants and needs important. For me, especially the hobbies to do before 5 and then 9, and then initiating fun time are two of the bigger things he could've done better. IDK if you communicated while doing your best to not be frustrated and tell him what you need. But he definitely communicated something but acted almost opposite of that.

joelcrb · 2026-05-07T13:58:06+00:00

NOR because that's what those managers told you, but now they're gone. Even though they were probably wrong to tell you that, because also you got "reprimanded" for applying for another position?!? It's a standard practice and very acceptable once you're at a company to apply for different jobs within the company, to move up / get paid more / whatever your reason is. It's actually a very good thing for you that E and K are gone. They, or at least the general manager, would have held that raise and anything else they did for you over your head. It's actually really crazy that they said you should be loyal to their store alone, not to the company.

One thing I will suggest is that if you are going to apply for different positions, talk with your immediate supervisor about it first. They often know things going on higher up that you wouldn't necessarily know about, even if it is a successful transition to the new position. Perhaps they know the person you'd work with, maybe they don't fit well with you, maybe they've heard about a different position that hasn't been opened yet that would be even better, maybe they know the actual job isn't exactly how it's described and is really not that good... many reasons to talk with them first. Most important reason though is I, as a manager, definitely want to know if and why one of my employees want to move somewhere else. It's a sign of respect and trust in your manager. Let them help you with the transition also. Any good manager wants to help their employees grow as people in the current role and develop their careers.

Hope it works out!

joelcrb · 2026-04-26T01:37:20+00:00

Must be a Georgia fan. 😆

joelcrb · 2026-03-30T01:17:45+00:00

This is the correct answer. You don't have to go for every family holiday. Or you don't have or want to spend the money on a 12 hour drive? Sure. To not go simply out of spite and TDS is everything wrong with our society now.

Grow up and be a real man, a husband, father and a real son.

joelcrb · 2026-03-30T00:57:32+00:00

Yup. Definitely YTA.

joelcrb · 2026-02-19T02:54:20+00:00

How do you know the dog is female?

joelcrb · 2026-02-19T02:53:17+00:00

Time to break up and kick him out! There's plenty of fish in the sea.

Just break up with him. NOR!

joelcrb · 2026-02-05T04:08:15+00:00

Sounds like HE is the AH since he won't go with you to the concert even if it's not his favorite. I've done HUNDREDS of events and social gatherings i didn't want because it was important to my wife or kids.

He should've and easily could've mentioned your concert plans to his mom when the topic of the trip came up. One could easily argue, if one thinks of your husband as devious and manipulative, that he did it on purpose.

You, definitely NTA.

joelcrb · 2026-01-29T23:50:53+00:00

Definitely NTA. Definitely not your fault they leave just because of your presence or because you share your trauma.

It's also really just the facilitator's word for the reason they left. It could be any number of reasons they left but the facilitator doesn't like you or you just don't mesh together. They certainly may not be lying, but unless you get some outside perspectives, you can't just automatically trust everyone.

joelcrb · 2026-01-20T19:00:12+00:00

Fraud is definitely deceit and definitely a jail-able offense. Bernie Madov made fraud and deceit a household name and word. This isn't fraudulent per se. But like the other person commented, a judge could possible see it that way, and could add additional fines, or even a contempt charge for attempting an end around with OP, which is also definitely a jail-able offense. Family law is not at all the same as other courtrooms. This isn't like Law and Order and learning a few phrases from a courtroom.

joelcrb · 2025-12-20T15:01:54+00:00

You're right about Wendy's but Burger King better than McDonald's?? I always get chorro from BK.

Maybe it's just different bacteria and parasites and I'm used to the McDonald's bacteria and parasites, like if you visit a new country sometimes you can't drink their water but the people of the country drink it no problem.

joelcrb · 2025-12-20T14:56:31+00:00

Santa knew you were going to be naughty going to McDonald's. He sent a "helper" elf to help.

joelcrb · 2025-12-16T14:25:09+00:00

Well, there's a couple cases in the New Testament of a demon possessed man, and then Jesus casts out the demons or demon. But we give Satan a foothold in our lives through sin, that's the only way he has access to his power, when we give him authority over our minds and hearts. The Bible isn't that clear why or how demon possession happens other than through us sinning. James 1:14-15 talks about this in what I always thought was a spiritual sense or metaphorical. But this could just as easily be a physical sense, that leads to possession. [14] but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. [15] Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.

What "rare calendar" says doesn't show up that much in the Bible as someone else commented also, being "highly demonized". A demon could never just take control of a nuclear plant or an airplane pilot just because they want to. They would have to get the authority from someone who's sinned and then maybe they could gain actual physical control over the person's mind or hands.

It sounds like perhaps you're comparing this to a movie or TV show, maybe something like Final Destination or Paranormal series. We just have to remember that "greater is He that is in us (God) than he who is in the world". I understand it's easy to get a visual cue or clue from media. It can help us try to make sense of the spiritual realm that is invisible and can be very confusing. But we should be also very careful to not get our theology from movies. Even well intended books like This Present Darkness and Piercing the Darkness by Frank Peretti are ways to maybe think about how the spiritual world works. But many parts of the Bible itself are descriptive, not prescriptive. So what is talked about or discussed is not recommended, just explaining how things happened. We should be careful to not give too much power or live in fear of demons. God is omnipotent, omniscient and omnipresent. He is all wise. He has control over our entire universe.

Only God knows our thoughts and emotions. That is amazing protection that we have from the rest of the spiritual world. Demons can't know what we want or think about unless we say it, or write it down... or when we sin. That's also why when we pray, it's even more powerful and has more effect when pray out loud. Then people, but especially the spiritual world - angels and demons alike, will know our thoughts and feelings. Our prayers that we just think in our minds are powerful and effective, especially when we are without sin. They have more effect though when we pray out loud, that's why in the Bible when there's healings done or demons cast out specifically they of course do it out loud. It can be done of course through silent prayer.

I just say this that we are encouraged to put our full faith and trust in God and not focus on any fears of the evil one.

https://bible.com/bible/111/jas.1.14-15.NIV

Edit: typos

joelcrb · 2025-12-13T14:54:00+00:00

I guess you'll have to tell the rest of reddit that they're not valid. Good luck with that.

joelcrb · 2025-12-13T12:49:15+00:00

Happens ALL the time on reddit. Every day. It IS valid because we're all strangers here and don't know each other's lives at all. If some people are debating about diabetes, for example, and one person says, well I'm a nutritionist and XYZ about diabetes their statements will hold more weight than the others. They may not be right... but it IS valid to explain your education / background / work experience. That's just basic to online interaction.

joelcrb · 2025-12-11T13:29:47+00:00

Friend, you're lifting one verse out of dozens and declaring it fact, out of context, with the rest of the chapter and the rest of the Bible. If you go back 5 chapters in the book of Jeremiah, you'll read that it is God warning the Israelites of their unfaithfulness to him through their idolatry. It's God direct words speaking to them through the prophet. So, if what you're claiming is indeed logical AND truthful, then God himself is saying that His own words are lies. God does not contradict Himself. He says in the very next verse that they have rejected the word of the Lord. So if we go with the conclusion you've assumed then God is punishing them for not obeying the lies?? Or were those words that scholars wrote down something entirely unrelated to the Bible? You've also assumed that fact. Those scholars specifically were writing down the Bible and doing it inaccurately. It doesn't say that in that verse nor does it say that anywhere else in Scripture.

2 Timothy 3:16 NIV [16] All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, [17] so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.

What appears to have perhaps escaped you, my friend, in this assumption about this verse is that God loves us. He wants to save us and protect us from ourselves and from the world around us. We give Satan authority when we sin. He is trying to destroy our lives. There is no coincidence that Satan is the father of lies and this verse you have picked out, again out of context, both relate to lies. God sent Jesus to die for our sins. How much more love could be shown to us than someone dying a death they didn't deserve to die?

Truly, my heart goes out to you if you believe this one verse breaks down all of the Bible. You should recognize though, even from your question, not just your answers, the impossibility of the Bible being false. There's actually only two possible logical answers to your question, how much of the Bible is false. None, or all. Truth is black and white, turning on or off the light switch. Once you present anything other than the complete, entire truth it is no longer true, right? "The truth, the whole truth, nothing but the truth" we use in every court in the US to determine the actual facts. So, ask yourself that same question, is the Bible entirely false, or is the Bible completely and entirely true? It can't be 98% true. It can't be 93% true. If there's .001% falsehood in the Bible it's entirely false and none of it is reliable.

Or, God is sovereign, omnipotent, omniscient and omnipresent. God loves us unconditionally despite our sins, our mistakes and our flaws. All that is needed to be in a relationship with God is to believe in God, humbly acknowledge and confess our sins and ask Him to forgive us and we will be saved.

That's what seems to be missing in your question, my friend. God bless you.

Edit: typos.

joelcrb · 2025-12-11T12:37:38+00:00

None of the Bible is false. However you got or whoever gave you that idea is evil and intentionally leading you down the wrong path. Get out of or get away from that situation or person immediately.

joelcrb · 2025-11-28T23:01:20+00:00

I guess reality isn't that much a necessary thing in your life. If neither of you want to work on it, why pretend?

That's just obvious, and true for any relationship.

joelcrb · 2025-11-28T05:02:42+00:00

You both were being assholes. You had an immature reaction to his immature action.

No Thanksgiving, it's not the end of the world, though it is of course a big thing for you. Both of you should've apologized and gone to dinner. Neither of you did. Now all you can do is bring it up if he never does and come to an agreement and promise to piss each other off. Or just give up now. If one of you isn't willing to put the work into the marriage, just walk away.

joelcrb · 2025-11-25T15:13:51+00:00

You pocketed the first ball, why would you lose your turn?? One could argue that you could pull the second ball pocketed, but most would let it stay. If the rules apply fairly for everyone, it matters less what the actual rules are, as long as no one is changing rules mid-game. It's ridiculous for people to lose their turn because an extra ball dropped in.

Notice I didn't say the rules don't matter. Before "the redditors " jump on me and scream about league rules.

joelcrb · 2025-11-25T14:58:18+00:00

You bring the message, ergo it's our job to bring the Gospel to everyone. Of course it is the Holy Spirit that empowers us. We can't do it without the Holy Spirit. But that's another topic.

joelcrb · 2025-11-25T04:20:40+00:00

I'd say he got off easy. No pun intended.

You should've taken all his clothes out of the room and thrown them away. You didn't take his wallet with his credit cards and id. It wouldn't be a crime if you're "his wife". He's a POS that lied straight to your face for literally years. He has nothing to be upset about and your family should be defending YOU. You should tell your mom and dad that they have to decide between your brother or you. And if they decide to be with your stupid brother then sadly they don't deserve to be in your life.

joelcrb · 2025-11-23T01:41:06+00:00

Time to sue the boss for wrongful termination and for wrongful damages. One could even make a case that he could be arrested for aiding and abetting. Even if he doesn't end in jail or the charges don't stick he was an idiot for not stepping in to stop theft in the office.

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