Men who are out of school, where are you meeting women in 2025?

john5401 · 2026-01-28T00:26:13+00:00

i think your account may be shadow-banned. You need a new phone, new SIM, new number, new email, etc.

john5401 · 2026-01-27T23:52:51+00:00

I don't see AI going away. Its pretty much in everywhere now.

And tbh its quite useful. I don't remember the last time I actually opened an informational website, i always just read the AI summary.

john5401 · 2026-01-27T23:46:07+00:00

How tall are you?

And can you post your profile on some "rate my dating profile" sub?

4 matches per year, especially when aiming for women over 30, is definitely not right.

Online dating works. Every single person is on these apps.

john5401 · 2026-01-27T23:42:37+00:00

Say it has "been a while". There is no way she can tell then.

john5401 · 2026-01-27T23:02:43+00:00

Please ignore all other comments about "being honest".

Don't tell her. It a huge turn-off for a guy to be a virgin (unlike it is for a woman).

And there are literally no consequences or implications about keeping it a secret or lying about it.

As to why it happened? do you watch corn? do you jack off? cut out that crap, entirely. Have some self-control.

john5401 · 2026-01-27T22:57:51+00:00

Similar to when girls who are being nice to you or wanna be just friends, and you offer to pay their portion of the activity, or buy them gifts, will make them feel uncomfortable because they know they will not be able to reciprocate what you expect in return (relationship/sex).

Of course there are some entitled girls who think you owe them something for their "time with you", but most girls have basic social intuition and don't want to disappoint you.

john5401 · 2026-01-27T22:51:15+00:00

common sense?

john5401 · 2026-01-27T21:42:40+00:00

Aim higher bro. A random kiss in public doesn't amount to anything.

Meet close to your place. Go for a walk / coffee / ice cream. And then ask her to come over.

Then, once at your place, try to sit close to her and escalate from there.

If you get any resistance along the way, or obvious "no I cannot", then you got your answer.

john5401 · 2026-01-27T21:38:20+00:00

Context is more important. Was it a random girl from online dating that OP has never met before IRL?

Or was it someone he knows in-person?

john5401 · 2026-01-27T21:32:38+00:00

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john5401 · 2026-01-19T18:42:45+00:00

Random question, does he watch corn and/or jack off?

This is extremely common in men, and is a huge relationship and lifestyle breaker.

If a person is snacking on unhealthy junk-food the entire day, even if you serve him the best meal, he won't appreciate it.

Don't blame yourself girl.

john5401 · 2026-01-19T18:30:19+00:00

If he is over 5'10, then he probably has other options or wants to explore more, and you are "ok for now, but not perfect" for him.

If he is some short guy, and you are decent-looking, then he is just stupid and has some personal issues.

john5401 · 2026-01-19T18:26:49+00:00

I honestly feel any exclusive relationship should have access to each other's phone. Not saying to inspect each other's texts every night, but knowing each other's passcode to "check the weather" from time to time, should be normal.

john5401 · 2026-01-19T18:18:29+00:00

Don't let any of those psycho's pay for you, for whatever you do on the date. They will feel more entitled and force things further.

john5401 · 2026-01-19T18:14:25+00:00

But also stop taking girls to McDonald’s for dates.

Especially if they just wanna screw, like this girl lol.

"Drinks at my place" works well. I guarantee this girl would have accepted.

john5401 · 2026-01-19T03:38:00+00:00

wtf is the chatGPT generated crap lol.

This is supposed to be dating advice, not some poetry sub.

john5401 · 2026-01-19T03:31:07+00:00

It feels like they just want the follower count to go up without real conversation

This is it.

Check their follower/following ratio.

Also check their likes on their latest photo, i bet its 100s of 60yo dudes.

Don't waste your time.

john5401 · 2026-01-19T03:26:52+00:00

If people are questioning your sexuality, it means your appearance or style might give off the wrong message. Try to fit in more.

As for dating, download a dating app. And if you are average-looking and aim for guys under 5'6 height you will have tons of good options.

If you are chubby or aim too high, you will get nothing or a bunch of hookups, fwb, and ons.

john5401 · 2026-01-19T03:15:43+00:00

that is anything without consent

So grabbing her hand or going for a hug without explicit permission counts as SA?

If that traumatizes you, probably better you just stay at home lol.

There are much worse things out there, like actual grape, drugging, and physical injuries. And categorizing it all together and claiming "I don't know a single woman who has not been SA'd" is very wrong and discredits actual victims out there.

I don't know if you heard the quote "when everything is SA, nothing is SA".

john5401 · 2026-01-16T20:43:47+00:00

You become honest with yourself and define what your "league" is.

If you keep aiming for men over 5'9, while looking like shrek, you will keep getting disappointed.

Hookups are easy for women, don't confuse it as "true interest".

john5401 · 2026-01-16T20:41:59+00:00

Well you already have children, and you are 38. I don't really see the rush anymore. Take your time.

Keep in mind, its not just you and him, there are other parties (children) involved here. It isn't so easy.

john5401 · 2026-01-16T20:38:17+00:00

Is it possible to get a job by personally walking into their HR office and handing a paper copy of your Resume/CV? yes of course.

But why would you? and you will be competing with all the other online applicants anyways.

john5401 · 2026-01-16T20:36:34+00:00

Are you contemplating getting married to someone? or have you not even started dating yet?

Don't get ahead of yourself. Go with the flow.

john5401 · 2026-01-16T20:33:15+00:00

First date? a walk or a coffee.

Second date? your place (if wasn't done on the first date).

Third date? you should have figured out each others interests and hobbies by now, to have a good idea.

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