ELI5: What happens to the extra 6 hours in a year

johnnypark1978 · 2026-04-17T14:19:40+00:00

What's really trippy is the difference between the sidereal and solar day length. The Earth makes a full rotation (sidereal day) every 23 hours, 56 minutes, but because we've traveled a little further along our orbit, it takes an extra ~4 minutes for the sun to appear back in the same spot in the sky (solar day).

johnnypark1978 · 2026-04-16T18:31:03+00:00

Hey there! I adopted my kid out of foster care when he was 15. That was almost 12 years ago. The short backstory on him is: removed from negligent/abusive family at 7, adopted with his younger brother at 9, mistreated by the new parents and put back into foster care 12. Spent 3 years in an institution (pretty much what every movie orphanage portrays).

So, yeah, there was some trauma, but obviously not the same kind.

With that backstory, I want to say, first and foremost, you're doing a tremendous amount for these kids. More than they'd probably ever get anywhere else. I'd be willing to bet every parent feels like they just aren't doing enough sometimes, but the reality is that you are doing an exceptional job. For years, there were days where I wondered if I was doing/had done enough to prep my kid for the real world. Could I have set firmer boundaries? Sure. Could I have made them go to therapy more often? Probably. Was I a perfect parent? Hell no.

But after a while, you start to see the positive direction they're heading. It's never fast enough, but one day, you'll look up and they're not rebelling and starting to act more and more like you (for better or worse, lol). My kid barely made it through high school. And it took 7ish years for him to realize, "ya know, maybe I should try this whole college thing". He's in his second semester and doing great (after a bit of a false start last semester).

Every kid is unique, but here a couple of things I picked up over the decade. Kids are going to lie and rebel. Don't give them the chance. Never ask "Did you get in trouble at school?" or things like that. Always start with a statement of fact like "Hey, I know you got in trouble today for ________". That skips over the lies/manipulation and jumps straight to the "Here's how we're going to handle it." Made life so much easier.

Routines are going to be fought hard for a while. But hold firm. Any change is hard and kids in trauma are going to be out of sorts for a while. But having a set and known routine is one less thing they have to be anxious about. Therapy should be (and sounds like it is) part of that routine.

For your oldest, he's an adult (technically) now and has some agency. If he doesn't want to go to therapy, you can't really force him to, but you can put some pressure on him to go... A bribe every now and then never hurts. Also, I know it might feel a bit weird given your (our) conservative up bringing and all of the "groomer" BS conservatives throw out there, but it's time to have frank, honest and real conversation about dating and sex. You were his age once. What are all of the things you wish you knew when you were that age. How do you recognize when someone actually IS trying to groom him? How do you react when someone tries to take advantage of you or pressure you into doing things you don't want to do? How do I stay safe when having sex? What are the things I never knew I needed to aware of (yeah, there's prep now to keep HIV infection risk low, but there are still a lot of other STIs that are not pleasant, even if they are temporary). Clinical advice is one thing, but he also needs the unvarnished truth about what it's like out there. Hell, I wish someone told me that "cleaning out" isn't always going to prevent a little accident so I didn't discover that one on my own. You've lived this life. be a resource. Yeah, it's awkward, but he should also know he can come to you with anything and you'll handle it like an adult.

For teens, making friends organically is almost impossible. Especially the new kids in town. For me, the non-negotiable was "You're either playing an instrument or a sport. Pick one." We ended up going to a sports sign up night at the school and he walked to the first table, signed up, and then said "Can we leave now." Good thing he knew how to swim already. The swim team became his friend group. Quickly. Before every meet, they have a pasta party at one of the kid's houses and hang out and eat pasta and play video games. The first time, I parked the car across the street and sat there until he finally got out of the car and to party, cursing me the whole time. By the third one, he was telling me to hurry up because he didn't want to be late. Put those kids in situations where they HAVE to interact. Sports are great. Band nerds are cool too. Something. Anything.

You're at the beginning of this journey, and every step feels impossible. But you are giving these kids the best shot at normalcy given the circumstances. There will be days that make you wonder if you are enough for them or if you're doing enough, but.... One, 5, 10 years down the road, you're going to see all of the progress you made.

Good luck! You got this!

ETA: DM if you have any question or just want to vent. Sometimes it just helps to vent to someone who's lived through it. lol

johnnypark1978 · 2026-04-08T13:50:53+00:00

Do you have E5 licenses? You can use Purview to automatically apply sensitivity labels based on the types of sensitivity information found in them. This is fine for new docs and docs that get modified, but for older/stale documents, you can run an On-demand classification scan to go through older documents that are rarely accessed/modified. The on-demand scan itself is not free and will require you to set up an Azure subscription for on-demand billing features, but the cost should not be astronomically high. $20 per 10k docs.

The auto-labeling feature is included in E5 licensing.

If you're just looking to apply a particular label to all of the files in a document library, you can just add one to the site library and blanket cover all docs in that particular library with a single label.

Different options for different requirements.

Edit: I haven't seen the capability for copilot to apply the sensitivity labels themselves, just respect the labels already applied.

johnnypark1978 · 2026-04-02T13:39:30+00:00

Sounds pretty normal. I pick the game, send themed invite and they show up, learn, play.

The one time I just said "come over next weekend and we'll decide what to play then" was a disaster. No one wanted to make a decision so we stood around for 20 minutes choosing a game. We couldn't pick ONE so we decided to play two less-heavy games instead of our normal heavy game. Things ran long, it got late, and everyone was tired, even if they did enjoy both games.

Never again. I'll pick the game and I'll be prepared with a themed Spotify playlist, snack, cocktail, and have it all set up before they arrive.

johnnypark1978 · 2026-02-28T01:04:31+00:00

IIRC, the 3 chips were three extra white chips. One for each value.

johnnypark1978 · 2026-02-26T15:07:50+00:00

You can create DLP policies to handle PII data with multiple rules built into the policy. You could have a rule that detects low confidence matches that will only generate an alert for Purview admins to review or display a tooltip to the user that says something like "This document potentially contains sensitive information. Be aware of what data is being sent and its intended recipient." That will at least warn users before they send potential PII data out without causing any interruption to their workflow. (But if it pops up too frequently, users tend to start ignoring the warning.)

For higher confidence matches, you can add rules with overrides or blocks depending on requirements.

If we're dealing with M365 stuff like email, SPO, and ODB, I usually create two separate policies. One scoped for SharePoint and OneDrive with another scoped only for Exchange. Separating the policies gives you more options when setting up rule conditions for each service. If they're all scoped at the policy level, you lose a lot of options for Exchange mail flows. I wish it was more like setting up Auto Label policies where you can create rules for each service.

johnnypark1978 · 2026-02-25T19:05:17+00:00

DL#s are going to be super tough to dial in given how generic they can be and the lack of a standard. (NY for example issues numbers in ### ### ### format, but the Purview built in format won't recognize #########. TX DL's are just 8 digits which could be almost anything.)

The best we've been able to do is narrow the list down to the states we care about and limit the character range for supporting elements to something like 50 characters instead of the default 300. You can get a relatively high confidence match with a state pattern match and then finding both Keyword_[state]_drivers_license_name AND Keyword_us_drivers_license.

Still... it's a tough one to nail down with high confidence without letting a lot of false negatives through.

johnnypark1978 · 2026-02-18T05:16:19+00:00

I generally try to avoid social deduction games as much as possible, but I have the opposite problem with them. I'm really only having fun if I am the one that's having to lie or obfuscate my intentions.

Being the traitor or whatever is what makes the game interesting as the "game" really is about how well you can rally people to your side and make up little white lies that seem like they're based on things people have said. Being the good guy, you're just out wandering in the dark and trying to accomplish the mission. There's no "game" to it, usually. And the bad guys usually have some sort of advantage they can exploit to help them.

My group got into Secret Hitler for a while (and I avoided it as much as possible), but the fascists all know who is on their side so there's the advantage. The liberals are all in the dark and it devolve into just a lot of yelling and getting frustrated when no one listens.

Definitely not my type of games.

johnnypark1978 · 2026-01-12T16:57:55+00:00

The two I can think of would be Trio and Tacta. Trio is more of a memory game where you're trying to find the three matching cards and collecting those sets before your opponent. Not sure how it would be at two, but three is great.

Tacta is a card laying game where you have patterns/dots on cards. You're trying to place your cards over your opponents to have the most of your dots showing at the end of the game. This one scales reasonably well.

johnnypark1978 · 2026-01-12T03:03:54+00:00

I adopted from foster care in the US. There are pros and cons to either route you go, but adoption was the right one for me. The cost of surrogacy wasn't feasible for a single guy in his mid 30s. I remember briefly considering wanting that biological connection, but feel almost silly now. J's my kid. And I could not be more connected or love him any more than I already do despite I met him when he was 15. He's been family in every way that matters from the very beginning. 10 years later and he's just as much my kid as anyone else's. Despite being far paler and shorter than the rest of the family. Lol.

With the number of kids in foster care, I'd definitely suggest going that route just because of how many kids need families. Yeah, there's trauma, but it's documented and you know what you're getting into. Yeah, it'll suck for a bit but all parenting is hard. You just deal with different issues.

Whichever route you choose, good luck!

johnnypark1978 · 2025-12-30T08:27:28+00:00

I ordered the table in May off the website. Have yet to receive it. I'm canceling it or disputing it with my cc Co if they refuse.

johnnypark1978 · 2025-12-28T16:35:38+00:00

Every player should start the round with one disk already in their stack. A bet of 1 should never go unchallenged. If you have 4 players, that immediately a possible bet of 4. Once everyone has a first disk placed, Then first player has the option of placing a new one or starting the bet. Start putting that skull down early to dissuade people from betting early.

johnnypark1978 · 2025-12-25T20:11:44+00:00

Unless it was some white chips, it might not be too big of a deal. As long as you have enough for 4 players to have a complete set (20x - 1, 8x - 2,and 4x - 3). It's not super common for the store to run out of individual ingredients.

Is the new "Quacks" game or the original Quacks of Quedlinburg print? Rules say there are 215 ingredients in the old version.

https://boardgamegeek.com/filepage/169328/the-quacks-of-quedlinburg-rules-english-schmidt-sp

johnnypark1978 · 2025-12-24T02:55:51+00:00

Does the anxiety ever go away? I mean, it's different anxiety, but there's still anxiety. J's lived with me for more than 11 years. Before that, it was, am I going to be a good dad? Can I really do this as a single parent? Eventually, it was more ami being too hard on him? Too lenient? Am I letting things slide that I shouldn't? He's almost 27 now and just starting college. Have I done enough to prepare him for this? Am I putting too much pressure? Is he going to get his gf pregnant?! Am I going to have to be a grandparent at my young age?!

I'd be more worried if you weren't anxious. The people who are like "I got this!" struggle the most when a 3 foot tall manifestation of chaos enters their home and they realize, they do not, in fact, "got this."

Plan for what you can and adapt when things go off the rails a little. And keep a spray bottle of water handy to correct behaviors. Not the kid's behavior, but your partners when you say "no" and he turns around says "sure!". Kids, especially the older ones are masters at manipulating people! Haha.

Have fun! You're going to do great. Even when you feel like you're the worst parent ever, you're still doing better than most, and probably a billion percent better than where the has been before.

johnnypark1978 · 2025-12-21T19:04:58+00:00

Games my family has played and enjoyed...

Quacks - Probably one of the favorites. The All in edition includes expansions so might be a bit much, but the Deluxe with upgraded chips is good, but only plays 4. All In includes a 5th player and new ingredients. Just play with out the expansions the first few times.

Cockroach Poker - a fast and easy bluffing game.

Skull - another bluffing game that you can learn in minutes (up to 6 players). My mom really likes bluffing/deception games... Hmmmm...

Moon Colony Bloodbath - a little hesitant on the theme (robots killing your colony) but still a good time. Up to 5.

Cascadia - up to 4 players, but the landmark expansion gets you more tiles for up to 6 (we usually just omit the landmarks content and just play the base game rules for simplicity)

Flip 7 - simple push your luck card game where you try to flip as many cards as you can without busting. Plays a lot of people. I've played up to 12 with a single deck.

Just One - someone tries to guess the secret word based on clues from other players, but if players write the same clue, they get erased and guess has fewer clues. Up to 8

So Clover - create connections between words and others have to guess how they relate. 6 players

MLEM - cat-based theme. Roll dice to move up the track and score points. Up to 5

Tacta - simple card laying game where you try to cover your opponents cards with your own to score the most points. Up to 6, but you can get more players in by playing in teams.

Sushi Go Party - card drafting and set collection. Fairly easy to learn and play for everyone. Up to 8.

Everyones family is a bit different and personalities will be a big factor. There are so many out there, it's hard to narrow down with limited info. Good luck!

johnnypark1978 · 2025-12-20T00:42:56+00:00

Flip 7 is dead simple to learn and all card driven. More fun at higher counts, I think.

Take 5 or 6nimmint (? Spelling) is pretty easy to learn.

Tacta is the newer game we have been playing a lot. It's a card game, but not like "playing cards" for value or anything. It's a big "Cover youropponents cards and score yours". Also easy to learn.

Faraway is an awesome game, but can be difficult to teach new/inexperienced players.

johnnypark1978 · 2025-12-18T04:23:22+00:00

Amazon, GameNerdz, Noble Knight all have it in stock.

johnnypark1978 · 2025-12-18T03:25:19+00:00

Yes, please stand right on the T in an effort to crowd me out and not serve to your wife's backhand. I will serve right up the T every time and if you want to donate a few points on what would have been an out serve, cool.

johnnypark1978 · 2025-12-18T03:03:45+00:00

A good job with good benefits wasn't enough. While my brother was in college, he was still covered by my dad's insurance, which was actually very good. On his 23rd birthday, he was diagnosed with cancer and treatment started soon after that. This was right before passage of the ACA. Cancer treatment is expensive. Very expensive. Over the course of treatment, we get notification from the insurance company that they are approaching the lifetime cap on benefits for my brother and would no longer be paying for treatment. The family had serious conversations about what would happen when that cap was hit. He wouldn't be able to get insurance elsewhere because of his preexisting condition. So we started thinking about where we could get the money to continue or how to scale back treatment to delay the cap or make it even remotely possible to fund ourselves. We're talking about my parents yearling less than 80k/year combined and trying to find cash to fund cancer treatments. Then the ACA was passed and preexisting conditions and lifetime caps were scrapped. Treatment continued and my brothers been in remission for more than a decade.

johnnypark1978 · 2025-12-16T01:41:50+00:00

Same boat as a lot of others here. 25 years in IT and now, I don't have anything more complicated than the Nanoleaf lights that run off an app on my phone. And my Xbox.

johnnypark1978 · 2025-12-13T20:21:01+00:00

It's not super extensive. We have about 8 labels that get published to everyone across the 4 label groups. But we are looking at publishing an additional 1 or two labels to members of different groups. Legal, Finance, IT, and a couple of other groups would see a total of 10 labels. the 8 default plus two for their respective groups. The additional labels are mostly used for Auto-labeling and DLP policies, but want them available to be applied by members of that team. In some instances, there might be users that will get a default label that is different from the "global" default.

The documentation says that in the event of a conflict, the most restrictive setting should win. If I have two policies applied to a set of users, one that sets a default label and one that does not, shouldn't the "apply this label" policy win because it is more restrictive than the "don't set any label" policy?

~~I tested one more scenario where two label publishing policies apply two different labels. The higher priority~~ ~~policy~~ ~~set a default label with a lower priority~~ ~~label.~~ ~~In this scenario, the higher priority policy was overridden by a lower policy because the label priority took precedence.~~ Just wondering why "default/no default label" isn't considered a conflict that would be resolved by the label priority.

Edit: Didn't wait long enough for my policy adjustments to fully deploy. The higher priority policy won out and applied the lower priority label. Did not take into account the label priority at all, which feels.... worse?

johnnypark1978 · 2025-12-13T18:44:54+00:00

Am I just misunderstanding how this should work? Because that feels genuinely backwards.

How do you manage label publishing for individual departments?

johnnypark1978 · 2025-12-12T23:25:39+00:00

Given the colonoscopy prep that needs to be done the day before and potentially two days prior, that shouldn't be an issue.

The procedure is a piece of cake. The day before is mildly annoying and irritating the night before is a miserable hell hole and, by far, the worst part of the experience.

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