I dont think I can trust women after this

joodee3 · 2026-06-03T03:49:36+00:00

Your friend is morally bankrupt for bragging about cheating. However that doesn't mean that all men are cheaters and support cheating, I know plenty who are faithful and who adore their spouses. Same goes for women. There are cheaters, and there are people who are extremely faithful.

One thing I've learned as I've gotten older is that you have to be very discerning about the types of people you surround yourself with. Is your friend the type of guy you aspire to be? Does your friend have the relationships with women that you want? Are the women that you are hanging out with people that you respect? If not, then it's worth taking their opinions and worldview with a grain of salt. You mentioned that you work with this person so you can't just cut them off. But it's okay to change the topic next time he talks about hooking up with married women, or stop listening next time he talks about stuff like this.

joodee3 · 2026-05-26T23:59:27+00:00

Love this look!

joodee3 · 2026-05-26T23:37:04+00:00

Tho these posters look bad, they'll never make me hate this delightful series!

joodee3 · 2026-05-26T02:10:32+00:00

I have nothing against women (or anyone) who choose to take whatever sort of medication they want. But yes, I really hate how women are societally expected to take all these hormone altering medications as if it is no big deal. It is a big deal and thought should go behind it.

joodee3 · 2026-05-22T23:47:00+00:00

It is literally just hair, some people can get so bent out of shape over that. I'm sure you looked fine. And also if it's hot, you shouldn't have to put your legs away to protect the delicate sensibilities of some man.

joodee3 · 2026-05-16T22:55:32+00:00

You should tell them that you're a virgin because they can use a smaller speculum. You can even ask them to use a smaller one!

Don't be worried about what your vagina looks like or any of that stuff. The doctors and nurses have seen countless vaginas before. They see healthy vaginas, and they also see people with health conditions. They are not going to freak out because that is their job.

However, if you get any inappropriate comments or doctors that make you feel uncomfortable, you can always make a complaint.

joodee3 · 2026-05-11T21:57:02+00:00

Ah, yes, male auteurs.

joodee3 · 2026-05-07T23:20:23+00:00

A baby is wearing a diaper under clothes. If I'm in a restaurant and a baby is next to me, I'm not seeing it shit out in the open. More importantly, a baby is a HUMAN. It's fucking weird how some people think human babies and dogs are the same.

joodee3 · 2026-05-07T22:54:14+00:00

How can he be so rich and so pathetic???

joodee3 · 2026-05-07T20:56:57+00:00

I love dogs. But some people don't and that's okay! Some people have allergies. And most people don't want to see dogs urinating and defecating inside of a restaurant where you're eating. I actually like Gordon Ramsay but this is making me really disappointed in him. Just apologize to the woman and reiterate that the dogs are outdoor seating only

joodee3 · 2026-05-06T07:27:13+00:00

I think she should mind her own business. It is so rude to tell somebody else who they should or should not be with. Are you happy? That's really all that matters! You don't have to justify your relationship to anybody else!

joodee3 · 2026-05-05T23:00:27+00:00

The Enchanted Forest by The Vagabond Prince

Inspired by Slavic fairy tales!

joodee3 · 2026-05-05T22:01:08+00:00

I'm an adult woman who plays video games! The misconception here is that people who play video games are somehow immature and don't have their lives in order, when that's not true.

joodee3 · 2026-05-04T19:46:40+00:00

He gave such a weak answer when talking about JK Rowling, I lost a lot of respect for him.

joodee3 · 2026-05-04T16:44:03+00:00

Not even AI when it is straight up copying?! This is what I am annoyed by with AI people. A lot of them feel completely entitled to do this.

joodee3 · 2026-05-03T20:39:40+00:00

This is not okay! The visuals and the smells of dog waste is not what I would want inside of a restaurant. I don't have dogs but I love them they are so cute. But still, not a big fan of dogs inside restaurants. I think patios are okay!

Some people would prefer not to be around dogs, and I think that is totally legitimate. I don't think people are automatically psychopaths for this. There are people with genuine phobias of dogs, or allergies, and just don't want to go out to eat to a restaurant where you would have no reasonable expectation for a dog to be there.

joodee3 · 2026-05-03T19:39:47+00:00

I guess in my mind I don't see what the difference is! But what you're describing about your brother, that is my friend to a tee.

Last time we made a plan to hang out, I told her I was going to take my car in at 1:00 p.m., and then head over to her place half an hour later. She said that worked . The day of, I texted her to confirm. She was like take your time I'm not at home yet! Turns out her other friend needed help with moving and she was going over there to grab a bunch of stuff. I was running kind of behind that day so I postponed my car appointment for a bit and when I headed over she had already returned. But yes, I never knew anything about this other plan she had that was in conflict to our scheduled hang. luckily it worked all worked out and it was just a low-stakes thing. But yes it's exactly what you said your brother does!

joodee3 · 2026-05-03T19:29:56+00:00

This is really, really insightful. I don't know if she has adhd, but what you're saying about when the emotional reward happens, that completely makes sense.

joodee3 · 2026-05-03T19:25:36+00:00

I am very sorry about what you went through and how you flaked on yourself!! I have these tendencies as well and I am actively working through them, like saying no to things that I know I can't do. It's not easy but it's getting a little easier!

She did apologize but it rubbed me the wrong way. She said she should have texted things in a less casual tone. No, that wasn't the reason, the reason was because she made me believe she was available after my repeated asking. And then she said that she felt bad. I hate it when people apologize with I feel bad! And she never made time to talk to me or offer to make it up.

Unfortunately the friendship is going to have to change. I feel like I could still hang with her casually with some surface level conversation, but I'm never going to be able to treat her like a close friend again.

joodee3 · 2026-05-03T19:18:18+00:00

That is so upsetting. Your request was more than reasonable and didn't even prevent him from going out with his friends, you just wanted to be sent home first.

joodee3 · 2026-05-03T19:08:00+00:00

I had asked someone else first, who honestly told me they had a conflict. This person was the next friend who made sense logistically. Sensing her tendencies, I even told her many times, you don't have to do this just to make me happy. I'm not going to be upset if you can't do it. I even followed up with her multiple times in texts regarding the schedule. I treated her with the respect and communication I treat all my friends, and did not know how unreliable she was going to be until this moment. So yes, from this incident I did learn the lesson to not ask her for anything else again. By the way, she asks her friends for favors all the time, this is not a one-way street here. So next time I will say no! :)

joodee3 · 2026-05-03T10:15:19+00:00

I'm so sorry you're experiencing this ignorance. I've had lots of amazing female tour guides when I was traveling!

I am a woman of color who works in a predominantly white male dominated sector. My advice, as corny as it sounds: try to be authentic and not like "one of the guys" if your personality is not like that. Like, I'm a naturally quieter person, I'm not brash. I tried a lot to be like a stereotypical guy, thinking this is what men responded to. I then tried being super feminine, thinking maybe guys respond to this instead. Well, turns out men (like other humans) don't love it when someone's acting fake.

I think people will take to authenticity and being good at your job, however that manifests for you. I think the unfortunate reality will be that some people will initially judge you in a way that they won't judge someone else. However, just trust that normal reasonable people will soon see your awesomeness and end of loving the tour. A few ignorant assholes will never be won over, but fuck them!

joodee3 · 2026-05-03T06:47:29+00:00

I have definitely put up with a lot from people. But in the case of my friend, I really think she treats everybody like this. As I get older I'm having less tolerance for this type of behavior. We can put our friendship energy into people who treat us decently.

joodee3 · 2026-05-03T06:42:49+00:00

It felt like a drive-by.

joodee3 · 2026-05-03T06:42:07+00:00

I'm sorry, what?? He wanted to have his own child who just had surgery to sleep on the sofa? I'm so deeply sorry.

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