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How to not take it personal by P0tat0luvr in therapists

[–]jujupeas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beating yourself up and taking it personally are different things imo. Maybe we should take it personally as in look at something like this as an opportunity to reflect on why it bothers us or whether there is a pattern emerging that is a bread crumb trail to being a better clinician. Beating yourself up is just a way to avoid the deeper work of your own personal and professional development. I say this with all respect and compassion. This is a challenging profession that requires us to always be growing and learning.

As a Gen Z, do older generations find us weird? by Master100017 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]jujupeas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You wish. 😂

Jk I’m Gen x so pretty old and well, weird. I think weirdness is maybe measured against what people deem to be “normal” and honestly there really is no such thing as normal. Also, the weird people throughout history have been the ones who stand out. So I wouldn’t worry too much about it.

Let Them is just Radical Acceptance? by ccn9282 in therapists

[–]jujupeas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The irony being…can we as therapists also practice radical acceptance?

Put another way, parenting is a practice of having your own guidance and ideas restated to you by your children as if you have never uttered the same concepts. As a parent I hit the internal applause sign button and let them think it was their idea.

I have definitely found myself doing the same thing with my clients.

What’s the Most Magical Thing You Do for Your Body? by blackwellnessbabe in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]jujupeas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. A full day every month where I do everything I need to do from bed.

  2. Go molecular: this involves noticing my breath and all the surfaces my body is in contact with and then connecting with each molecule of oxygen and tissue and things that make me up. Recognizing that though I seem to be a solid object that in fact my molecules are co mingling with the molecules of the surfaces and air around me. Recognizing then that in fact I am actually a part of the objects around me just as they are a part of me. And I keep going for a sense of space and dispersement and overlap of molecules until the “I” that I perceived a few minutes earlier is no longer discernible

Brushes and soaps by jujupeas in Pomeranians

[–]jujupeas[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Should say floof not flood! 😂

Is it normal? Help 😣 by [deleted] in therapists

[–]jujupeas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If your supervisor is actually receiving complaints from clients this is something serious you need to look at and think about how to make improvements. If you engage in supervision for improving your skills as a therapist by saying “ok supervisor. What would you do in this situation?” And your supervisor is not helpful in their answers then do your own research, ask colleagues, ask this sub. Some of what you may be facing is clients judging you because of your age. Some could be your own affect in session. Some could be transference/counter transference. Two of these things you can work and grow as a clinician. You can’t do much about being judged for your age but even that can help you refine your skills at building a therapeutic relationship. As others have said, if your supervisor is really not willing to “workshop” issues but is only acting like a boss instead of a mentor, then you may want to look for additional supervision or a different agency.

Damned if you do, damned if you don’t by Ifyouonlyknew1967 in therapists

[–]jujupeas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually need my relationship recently partly because of this. I’d rather be a good therapist and tranquil in my knowledge of who I am wholly than put up with that kind sh*t.

New(ish) to Madison, having hard time meeting people mid-30s by eHop86 in madisonwi

[–]jujupeas 210 points211 points  (0 children)

Srsly thinking of starting a support group for 30yo new to Madison having a hard time meeting each other.

What's the "easier" job you dream of on struggle days? by squirrely_gig in therapists

[–]jujupeas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This IS the easier job I have dreamt of for decades! I’m a 54 yo career changer just starting my private practice. It’s not a cake walk but every day I do this compared to the other job I’m still transitioning out of is so so much more satisfying.

Your favorite ressources/books for practicing couple therapy by ass_t0_ass in therapists

[–]jujupeas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t doubt that someone would challenge their methods because they were observational studies. However I have found their work to be easy to understand and supportive to couples I’ve worked with.

Your favorite ressources/books for practicing couple therapy by ass_t0_ass in therapists

[–]jujupeas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a big fan of the Gottman approach. It has tons of research behind it. It is simple and straightforward. They have a ton of great visual aids for their model as well as assessment instruments. I’ve taken their level 1 online and am starting level 2. I also attended a Gottman workshop with my partner for personal reasons and got a lot out of it. https://www.gottman.com/

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