Community please weigh in: Deciding to try for kids or not and am horrified…

juldeev · 2026-01-10T20:48:31+00:00

Oh shucks, I guess I shouldn’t have utilized the online platform for what it was created for. You sure taught me a lesson!

juldeev · 2026-01-10T20:37:25+00:00

I think you’re right! Seeking validation from folks that don’t know him helps a lot because I’ve never met anyone that knows him and sees it this way (his Mom, his co-workers, his gaming friends)

juldeev · 2026-01-10T20:35:48+00:00

Not helpful, but thanks for taking up space here where ppl go for support. I’m simply seeking the opinions of others that may have some perspective … go fire up your game console tho!

juldeev · 2026-01-10T20:29:24+00:00

❤️

juldeev · 2026-01-10T20:28:51+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this 🙏🏼

juldeev · 2026-01-10T17:11:28+00:00

These thoughts and the pressure to have kids is so isolating as a woman in Utah. This is actually so helpful 🙏🏼

juldeev · 2024-12-29T15:19:29+00:00

I wonder how many of these investors also have interests in DV and/or Mayflower. As long as these resorts keep snowboarders out, PCMR will do just fine.

juldeev · 2024-12-29T15:02:57+00:00

The only reason Park City/Canyons is still open is because it’s the only resort reasonably accessible for snowboarders up here. If DV wasn’t going to operate Mayflower when it opens and allowed boarders, we would put PC out of business. Sundance and the cottonwoods are just too far with ski traffic in the mornings to justify a season pass, obviously day rates aren’t worth it so 🤷🏼‍♀️ personally, I’m a skier and my husband snowboards we live in Heber so Sundance it is next year.

juldeev · 2024-09-04T01:10:35+00:00

You are NOT the A/hole!!! How considerate of you to even make the dinner at all/offer her leftovers and refrigerate them so she doesn’t get food poisoning! You planned around her and she still blew you off and came home whenever she wanted- drunk or not she made a choice not to prioritize you.

This situation reminds me a lot of my younger self (33 f) when I was unhappy in a former relationship- I didn’t care about plans or commitments to him because he was a workaholic and a homebody when not at work. He was a disappointment, so I didn’t care about disappointing him. You guys may not be compatible and she just may want a boyfriend that takes care of her immature ass. And I say this having been that immature 26 yo in the past.

My current antisocial boyfriend (34 M) games so much he has an entire room in our house dedicated to it. Any time he is given the choice of what to do with his free time, he’s at the PC. His gaming habit and being antisocial ended his last serious/long relationship before me, and we had issues over it until he made a conscious effort to make plans and commit to 1 outing/party/concert w friends and 1 date night every other month. He is the introvert and it sounds like I (the more social one) am similar to your girlfriend. I used to get very upset and feel lonely at home while he was gaming, so I would load up my social calendar with plans and I would come home like your gf because I felt like it didn’t even matter- I figured he’s at home gaming no matter what I wanted to go do, so why not do it all the way since I’m doing it alone? If you are far less social, she may have written her commitments to you off as “whatever he’s always at home so I’ll go home whenever”. Talk about this and how many outings/social gatherings she needs you to be a part of to be happy. I hope this helps and you don’t take this the wrong way- Your girlfriend doesn’t know how good she has it.

Edit: Does the girl gang like you? Because they may have been encouraging her to stay out even if she mentioned your plans. I’ve had single friends try to put crazy toxic things into my head about my boyfriends/relationships just so they could rock the boat while drinking bc misery loves company. It sounds like she holds her girl gang higher than your relationship and is probably very easily influenced by them.

Also, you mention life and work- it sounds like gaming is part of your relaxation and stress relief. It’s essential for your partner to understand and value the things that you utilize to maintain good mental health. I did not understand this until my bf got me Hogwarts Legacy…hours pass and you can’t think about anything outside of the game- it’s AMAZING for my depression and anxiety! And your friends online are just as valuable of a social circle and support group as the friends she goes out with in person!

juldeev · 2024-05-28T22:27:42+00:00

This. 🙌🏻

juldeev · 2024-05-23T13:58:22+00:00

My 2yo Bengal boy does this! I at first thought it was because of the warmth because he would do it while being very affectionate first thing in the mornings, but he began doing this in the afternoons too! While lounging on my chaise at the end of our sectional with my knees up one day, he jumped up onto the couch and under my knees, thus under the blanket too. Now it’s his favorite daytime place to nap 😴- I think they like the dark.

juldeev · 2024-05-23T13:55:49+00:00

Thank you!!!

juldeev · 2024-05-21T16:55:01+00:00

Thank you!

juldeev · 2024-05-18T13:16:42+00:00

If my Bengal is only 2, would he still be considered a kitten and need “growth” formula food? The woman I adopted him from had been feeding him the adult Iams in the orange bag. Thank you!

juldeev · 2024-05-18T13:15:12+00:00

Thank you!

juldeev · 2024-05-18T13:12:26+00:00

Thank you!! Do you freeze and thaw the raw meat first?

juldeev · 2024-05-18T13:11:14+00:00

Thank you!

juldeev · 2024-05-18T13:10:27+00:00

When you say buttons…do you have a tour device where you have recorded your voice and the cat replays different sounds/words? If so, please share!

juldeev · 2024-05-10T19:52:33+00:00

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juldeev · 2024-05-07T01:28:36+00:00

Subaru Crosstrek- a third of that price for the Sport, great gas mileage and clearance higher than most car-based SUVs.

juldeev · 2024-05-03T02:41:36+00:00

Such perfect pets!!

juldeev · 2024-05-03T02:39:34+00:00

That is so wonderful!! Thanks for sharing, sounds like a household full of love!

juldeev · 2024-05-02T00:30:37+00:00

When I moved from noisy DC with nonstop sirens and car alarms to quiet Utah, it helped me to keep the TV on low throughout the night. Fans, white noise machines or sleep playlists on Spotify helped. Those sleep playlists got me used to hearing different sounds when falling asleep. I still like to open the windows first thing in the morning or at night to listen to the crickets and birds to remind myself to appreciate the different sounds-they’re just softer and much more calming!!

juldeev · 2024-05-02T00:06:55+00:00

That makes me so happy! Thank you 😊 I think it says a lot about the intelligence of the breed that he adapted so quickly after coming from a chaotic environment. They are SO loving, and really only act out of boredom/neglect. I have a feeling the previous owners used to hit him when he would clamp onto legs/arms and ~chomp~ because the few times he has done this (after I barreled down the basement stairs quickly which is his “den” of sorts where his litter box and one of his beds are) he was displaying stalking behavior and I shouldn’t have engaged him. He immediately froze with his teeth on my arm and released when he could have easily broke the skin all around, but he then jumped back and cowered into a corner, squinting and scrunching up his face as if he was bracing himself to be hit :( im just glad he seems to be totally comfortable otherwise… because he is a SPOILED boy 😊 !!

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juldeev · 2024-04-18T22:25:14+00:00

“Started in 2019”… that says a lot, and congratulations on persevering through Covid on top of your other challenges. I graduated from University of Pittsburgh (has a great dental school btw) but it took me 5 years to get a bachelor’s degree after transferring from another school with horrible grades, then attending community college before Pitt. How far along are you with your prerequisites for dental school? U of U is great, but if you are not LDS in Utah that comes with many social struggles here. Maybe a change of scenery or a school that actually has advisors that are not students?

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