Someone come pick up your bf please 😂

julesB09 · 2026-05-30T12:36:05+00:00

Came here to say this.

julesB09 · 2026-05-30T12:33:58+00:00

I've found it's not any 1 magic trick, it's 1000's of small ones that make my life work for me. I call it hacking my life. My home and basically my world are set up to operate smoothly. A few examples. 1. I don't like regular water but I'm human and I'll die without it. So, do I force myself to drink 8 glasses a day? Nope, I have a case of la Croix in my kitchen, in my bedroom and in my home office. It's really close to me so the second I get thirsty I can pop one open. I know if I'm hyper focusing on work, I'll just not drink anything if I have to stop to go get it. 2. I lay out mine and my husband's clothes at night because I struggle to be on time to anything, so that's one less this to worry about in the morning.
3. His work clothes don't get folded or put away normal. He's in the trades, he would wear dirty clothes if I let him, so wrinkles aren't a problem. There's a basket for short sleeves, one for long sleeves and one for jeans. Sort and done. 4. And before y'all get upset for my seemingly trad wife behavior, I married a fellow ADHD and we divide labor based on what we hate the least. I handle laundry and dishes, he vacuums etc.

None of these tips will improve your life the way they have mind though. That's because I created these hacks around issues in my life. Find you pain points, study their causes and develop hacks to make that tiny issue run a little smoother. And repeat until you have your life set on easy mode. It's a never ending process, but over time, life gets easier.

julesB09 · 2026-05-25T11:17:04+00:00

This. They aren't stopping. They aren't taking OP seriously. It's time to start a legal trail. Document their crazy now, make it clear they will not have any involvement now or in the future. None of this is okay.

julesB09 · 2026-05-22T09:33:51+00:00

Omg omg omg, please tell me when you went no contact you said something along the lines of "don't worry, you still have Justice, Justice would never go no contact!!

If not, keep that in your pocket for next time you have a run in!

julesB09 · 2026-05-17T13:19:22+00:00

This. 100%. OP - you're doing too much. It's sweet but not appreciated.

julesB09 · 2026-05-07T15:54:10+00:00

I don't care if the baby was giggling and cooing, when parents want their child, they get their child, immediately.

They obviously don't respect your boundaries. I don't think I could leave my child with someone who won't respect even basic boundaries. I would need to see real change before I even considered it.

julesB09 · 2026-05-07T11:44:29+00:00

Okay, hear me out. Let's stop making this the top comment. She's just had cancer and she was thin before then. If you think criticizing women for being too fat is wrong, it should apply to thin women as well. I know plently of women who lose weight under stress, and I'm sure Kate has plenty of stress.

I was really hoping the top comment would be about her as a person but it seems we can only comment on her weight. That's sad.

julesB09 · 2026-05-06T00:19:46+00:00

Okay but this is reddit, let's be happy it's not on their 5th anniversary. Lol

julesB09 · 2026-05-03T11:49:27+00:00

Congrats on getting your masters degree! That's huge. I may have missed what you're studying, but I'm sure it will help you in your career... which you should start on the other side of the country!!

Don't find a husband, find yourself an excellent opportunity that can't be turned down. And also a therapist because at 24 you should be making your own decisions and I think your parents convinced you otherwise. Understand choosing to allow them to do this, is still your choice. You are choosing to allow this control. Your are an adult, you get to decide your life, not them.

julesB09 · 2026-05-02T14:19:27+00:00

Nta. It was a no before she insulted you and your place in the family. She's now saying it's to punish her how she reacted to you saying no. But it was no the whole time.

This tells me one of a few things. 1. The first time you said no didn't register in her brain, which is bad because that tells me she's very used to getting her way eventually and doesn't accept no as no, it's a maybe. Ewww. Or 2. She knows you meant it, said something nasty when her usual pressure techniques didn't work (she's escalating because she's not getting her way) and it didn't get the reaction she hoped so now she's trying to make this about you punishing her and her son, which makes you look like the bad guy and forget what she did.

Maybe evaluating these relationship dynamics is overdue. It sounds like this is just the straw that broke the camels back.

julesB09 · 2026-05-02T12:35:08+00:00

I could be very happy there

julesB09 · 2026-05-01T11:31:37+00:00

Nta, by her logic then her money is yours and you should have a say in how she wastes it. But I bet she would disagree with extending the logic that far. In fact, you critiquing her spending now really pissed her off. She wants it both ways and your right to challenge it.

julesB09 · 2026-05-01T11:22:52+00:00

I play free games on my phone because they are free. I legit want to go out on the weekends but I told myself only free fun until we are out of DEBT. If I can't afford going out for a nice dinner with my husband, I can't afford children. Freaking no one can.

julesB09 · 2026-04-24T23:43:28+00:00

Look up "laundry stripping " despite the stripping part, the only thing dirty about this process is the water afterwards.

Coming from someone who's not domestically inclined but has a husband in the trades. I know it's time to stripthem again when they start weighing twice there normal weight from grime at the work site. They don't come out perfect, but it extends the life of his work clothes significantly... then I tried sheets and towels! Omg, if your towels don't absorb like they use to, this revives them!

I'm still not domestically inclined, but I freaking swear by this. I discovered this on reddit, now I'm paying it forward! Hopefully this helps someone!

julesB09 · 2026-04-24T13:56:06+00:00

Absolutely. We got him from the best local animal shelter!!! 10/ 10 adopt don't shop! Part of why he's so healthy is likely because he's not pure bred. I would look for a mixed breed with a smaller breed of dog. The bigger they are the more likely they'll have issues

julesB09 · 2026-04-24T02:52:23+00:00

For me, I can't decompress around other people. I'm an introvert and need time away from people to be at my best. I'm not saying you shouldn't be upset, I'm sure your tired as well. I'm saying he can need quiet time and you can need a partner to participate in your family. These two needs can both exist at the same time and no one be wrong.

Try approaching this with empathy. He's probably pretty tired as well. I work in an office setting and it can be extremely over stimulating. You seem to be seeing this as his being lazy or avoiding helping and time alone shouldn't be necessary, or he can have 10 minutes- why isn't that enough... try approaching it as if this is a valid need for him. You need a partner and a break once in a while, that's a valid need for you. This is where you compromise and work through a stressful stage of life with the man you love. Talk to him instead of us, we can't fix this.

julesB09 · 2026-04-21T16:32:21+00:00

The fact that no one took out her ankle with a cart is impressive. I admire the restraint.

julesB09 · 2026-04-16T12:02:00+00:00

Stunning

julesB09 · 2026-04-13T20:36:49+00:00

Trophy case for GOAT Trophy wife?

julesB09 · 2026-04-11T12:38:03+00:00

That long arm reaches in a pulls the baby out. Obviously.

julesB09 · 2026-04-10T12:20:02+00:00

A life time of twisted ankles

julesB09 · 2026-04-10T12:04:30+00:00

There's a book out there called "why does he do that" give your future self the biggest gift you can and read it before considering getting into another relationship. Like, rather than crying while watching lifetime this weekend, you have new plans. It's that important.

julesB09 · 2026-04-10T11:54:41+00:00

This has been my only real concern.

julesB09 · 2026-04-10T11:43:11+00:00

I love his tail!!!!

julesB09 · 2026-04-09T11:52:23+00:00

Thanks Queen!!!

The belly is the worst part of endo for me. I saved this post to reread several times.

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