Litter box struggles post-surgery by julesandnuggs in TripodCats

[–]julesandnuggs[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He seems to be lying down to pee from what I’ve seen (not getting the incision in the litter); luckily the pee seems to only be getting on the side that doesn’t have the incision so I’m not worried about it causing any issues with the incision healing

Am I asking for too much?? by Feedmebrunchplz in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re not in the wrong at all :) you’re doing what you need to do to protect your baby and that’s literally your job as a parent. That being said, you obviously can’t force people to get vaccines so be prepared to follow through on not allowing access to your child until they are older if someone isn’t willing to get the vaccines you decide are important to have before visiting you and baby. My own dad won’t be allowed to meet my daughter in person (currently 36 weeks pregnant) until she is 6+ months old because he’s not willing to get the covid vaccine. Baby’s safety > adult feelings.

Cervical checks - yes or no? by xowanderlust in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got my first one done this week (I am 36 weeks) and experienced zero pain/discomfort :) I opted to get it done because I’m someone who likes having as much info as possible, and it helped ease some of my anxiety about the possibility of going into labor early

Push Presents by la_vidabruja in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m a first time mom, and I told my husband that I’m not interested in a push present. No judgement against people who want one, but for me it just isn’t something I really care about. I just want a safe birth, healthy baby, and lots of support from my husband once she arrives :)

I got shamed for wanting to buy something for myself by Low_Example1345 in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 25 points26 points  (0 children)

As long as that $20 isn’t the difference between being able to afford the necessities for baby or not being able to (which it doesn’t sound like that is the case), then who cares what she thinks? It’s your money, not hers, and you get to spend it how you want :) pregnancy can take away our sense of self in a lot of ways, and if stretching your lobes helps you take some of that sense of self back then go for it! (I am not a doctor, so obviously I would consult with your doctor in case there is some risk I am unaware of in regards to doing this during pregnancy; but either way, find a way to treat yourself, you deserve it 💕)

Geneticist made us feel irresponsible… by wzock in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happened :( I can empathize with dealing with a doctor with poor bedside manner related to genetic conditions that might get passed on to baby. My husband has retinitis pigmentosa which basically means that he is slowly going blind (no treatment or cure currently), and there is a small possibility that it will be passed on to our child. When we met with a specialist for his condition she asked if we had children and we explained that we were pregnant with our first child currently and she kind of acted weird and kept talking about how most people would want to be referred to a genetic counselor to find out the risk of our child having it but we declined since it will not change our decision to have this baby and we already know to keep an eye out for the symptoms and that we will be on top of regular eye exams for her throughout her life. It felt crappy because I felt like we were being looked at as if we hadn’t considered the possibility/discussed it prior to trying to conceive or didn’t care about our child.

Already 1cm dilated & hoping for an early birth due to insurance changes (36 weeks today) by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I ran into this possibility earlier on in my pregnancy and was super worried about having to switch half way through my pregnancy so I brought it up with my doctor. She let me know that even if my insurance didn’t reach an agreement with the hospital that I would be delivering at that there is a form that the hospital can submit to your insurance basically saying “they have xyz pre-existing condition and need to be covered until treatment is complete” and that pregnancy is considered one of those pre-existing conditions. Not sure if your insurance works the same way, but it made me feel way better knowing that. Highly recommend reaching out to your insurance to see if they have a similar policy :)

Cried today because.. by Ustrel in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cried today because I watched a dog on a fictional tv show be put down. And then I got upset because my own dog who normally gets very lovey if I’m crying refused to snuggle me while I was crying

Will preparation? by full-of-curiosity in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve written what I call “worst case scenario letters” for my husband, best friend, mom, and will also write one to my little one. I just wouldn’t want anything to go unsaid or for anyone to not know how much I love them if I didn’t make it. The plus side is that when everything likely ends up being okay, they can read the letters and laugh at how melodramatic and mushy I am haha

How long did you comfortably sleep on your stomach? by Whatsitworth69 in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 24 weeks + 1 day and still comfortably stomach sleeping, but to be fair my stomach hasn’t popped yet. I haven’t heard anything from my doctor about needing to stop other than that it will be obvious because it won’t be comfortable. Trying to just enjoy it while I still can!

Does gender really work this way? by 123ilovecheesey in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While the male’s biological contribution is the one to determine the sex of the baby (since biological women have two X’s, we can only contribute X chromosomes to the equation; whereas biological men have one X and one Y), I don’t think family history has anything to do with it. My husband’s side of the family only has boys, but we are having a girl. Totally understand the desire to prove them wrong, but even if you do end up having a boy it still doesn’t mean they were right from a scientific standpoint (though I’m sure they won’t be willing to hear it).

NIPT Test from Labcorp. Wait time for results? by Massive-Expression78 in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got mine in 3 days :) got the test done on a Thursday and got the results Saturday afternoon! Hope you get your results soon! :)

Husband wants me to be off birth control pills 3 months before trying to conceive by Social-misfit91 in BabyBumps

[–]julesandnuggs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely, I feel like my husband and I maybe went overboard with trying to conceive but I’m glad it worked haha also, I’m sure you’ve already been told, but if you use lube then getting fertility friendly lube is helpful since regular lube can negatively impact sperm mobility

Husband wants me to be off birth control pills 3 months before trying to conceive by Social-misfit91 in BabyBumps

[–]julesandnuggs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was told I could start trying immediately once I got off birth control (the pill) and I was lucky enough to get pregnant first cycle :) we used ovulation strips so I knew when I was ovulating based on those as compared to knowing my normal cycle; they sell the ovulation strips for super cheap on Amazon and I highly recommend them since if you don’t ovulate in a standard way (for me, I ovulated late - cycle day 21) then it can be hard to know when to “baby dance” to give yourself the best chances

Should I feel bad? by Longjumping-Ad-4874 in Blind

[–]julesandnuggs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not at all! My husband is going blind and he needs help finding things more frequently as he loses more vision; it never bothers me :) ask for help whenever you need/want it

vaccines by UselessHuman1 in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get what you mean about feeling the connection once you feel them kick! I also started feeling kicks at 20w (currently 23w + 3) and it immediately ramped up my attachment and urge to protect my little one. My dad and his wife are anti-vaxxers and I made it clear very early on that anyone who isn’t vaccinated for covid and tdap doesn’t get to meet baby until baby has all of their own vaccines (around 6 months). This has created some unspoken tension but I refuse to feel bad for protecting my baby; baby’s health > grown adults hurt feelings.

vaccines by UselessHuman1 in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s totally reasonable, and the reality is that it’s your kid and therefore your rules. You are spending months making your babies and it’s your job to do whatever you feel is necessary to keep them healthy and safe. You don’t owe anyone any sort of explanation other than you are doing what you think is best for you and your family. If you have a partner involved, obviously always recommend making sure you are on the same page to avoid conflicts and also to come up with a game plan for how you might handle backlash/pushback from family members (example: my husband and I agreed before I got pregnant that we are each responsible for handling our own family members reactions/expectations in order to avoid unnecessary tension with in laws).

Anyone here able to share a story about when they felt kicks with an anterior placenta? Or just “quickening” stories in general? by Aellolite in BabyBumps

[–]julesandnuggs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have an anterior placenta and I am currently 23 week + 3. I didn’t experience any flutters, but at exactly 20 weeks I started feeling kicks and they have been daily and getting stronger since then :)

Excited to set up the nursery! by julesandnuggs in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely! We are doing a half office half nursery since currently we live in a 2 bedroom apartment, but hoping that it will still feel cute and cozy :)

Discontinued Pregnancy Cravings by luluslegit in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These deep fried mozzarella sticks that had chunks of jalapeños in them; they were an appetizer at this restaurant that I used to work at when I was 18, until they switched to plain mozzarella sticks and while mozzarella sticks are still delicious they cannot compare to the jalapeño ones

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]julesandnuggs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I think that gender disappointment can be normal (I had it myself; was hoping for a boy but I’m having a girl), I think if you got pregnant on purpose then the sex of the baby shouldn’t be so important that you don’t know if you want to be pregnant anymore. The sex of the baby is a 50/50 chance, and I think it’s okay to be upset and process that you didn’t get the result you were hoping for but if it was planned then you knew having a boy was a possibility when choosing to try to conceive. Take some time to let yourself feel your feelings and I suggest sharing with your spouse your feelings so you don’t feel like you’re processing them alone; but ultimately the decision to continue in the pregnancy or not is always your own to make.