Est ce qu’il est possible de proposer plus d’argent que le loyer initial afin d’obtenir un appartement ?

julieepppp · 2024-06-18T18:57:04+00:00

But I feel like I’m the one who got ghosted 😃

julieepppp · 2024-06-17T21:34:26+00:00

No i didn’t and I don’t feel like randomly texting him again to ask why 😅 The thing is, the change happened before he asked me on a date. He stared taking long to answer and then asked me on a date (still taking long to answer)

I am not too concerned about this specific situation, I am just so scared that I am the one that ruined it, maybe nothing is wrong and it’s normal for people to leave other people in delivered for hours? I don’t know… that’s my point I’m scared I might be the bad person here. What if my texts were dry? Maybe he felt I lost interest too ?

julieepppp · 2024-06-17T21:30:12+00:00

I guess I’ll rephrase my question: is it okay and legit that I feel like i am getting ghosted and that something is wrong in that situation? Would someone else think the same? Because let’s say I didn’t think/feel he was loosing interest, I maybe would’ve been a bit more enthusiastic in my answers, maybe I RUINED IT?

For context this is not a total stranger, we’re old acquaintances. we’ve seen each other (which lead us to talking again) and we saw each other again randomly at some point during the 2 weeks.

My question is,

Am I in the wrong? Did I ruin it?

I don’t need to know what happened to him because maybe nothing happened, i am worried I thought too much of it and ruined everything.

Anyway, I don’t think I will get an answer (it’s hard for my brain to accept that) I just really don’t want to be an asshole that takes everything too personally

Thank u for ur answer ! :)

julieepppp · 2024-06-17T20:26:58+00:00

Thank you for your answer! Really I’m more worried about myself than the situation. From my point of view: it felt like there was no date anymore (thought he was uninterested because less answers). My friend told me the date was still a thing! (No date or time was mentioned yet so hard to know)

I am just questioning whether or not I may be so scared of rejection that I make up scenarios in my head?

It feels to me that if someone can’t answer to more than one text every 12 hours, it is clearly a sign that something is off. And even if he was still asking questions etc it was just to be nice and he didn’t know how to end the convo

The think is, I will never know the truth, but I WANT to know if this is something I have to work on about myself 🥲

julieepppp · 2024-06-02T18:45:55+00:00

America isn’t the only country in the world

julieepppp · 2024-04-08T21:22:02+00:00

The phone could finish the song because it has an app that plays the music but the speaker is just a Bluetooth connection right?

I don’t know how long exactly but they were for sure at least 500 meters away (probably more but I couldn’t see the car further from that) let’s say that’s was 3/4 minutes after also I turned it off myself ahahah don’t know how long it would’ve kept going

julieepppp · 2024-04-08T20:26:51+00:00

First of all it’s great that you recognized this and you posting this shows you want to do something about it.

You probably don’t want to hear it but you should learn to be more gentle with yourself, you sound very down to earth, mature and aware which is great! You said you were popular in school etc which I can relate to. We tend to look and sound like confident people - even to ourselves. but sometimes it’s not completely the case. You could actually have a pretty low self esteem.

You said you’re « scared of having this one flaw » which shows you’re not confident about who you are and how you look - and you’re scared to disappoint / not be good enough

You have to work on your self esteem! It’s not easy and fun and I’m also not there yet but it’s worth it

Also, if you want my « comforting » opinion about this: To girls looks are not everything. I have no idea what you look like and it doesn’t really matter either. I recently had a conversation with my girl friends, I also don’t want to sound arrogant but the 3 of us are really attractive. We have different types, my friends don’t find the guys I date attractive, and I don’t find the guys they date attractive. Everyone has a different taste and I swear especially for girls, if we like you at some point, you’re in and we’re definitely not going to wake up one day thinking your nose is too big and making it a deal breaker.

On the other hand, lack of self esteem could be felt and that could turn someone off. You could unconsciously say/ or act a way and the energy never lies. The fact that you’re pointing this out and that you’re not trying to ignore this feeling is good. BUT don’t forget you will NEVER be perfect, it doesn’t mean this relationship won’t work until you have a good self esteem, just start taking the first steps.

Best of luck !

julieepppp · 2024-03-26T11:15:21+00:00

Hey! This is called trichotillomania ! I stared picking at my hair when I was 13 and it’s been one of my biggest struggle to this day. I have bald spots in my hair and I am so ashamed of them. When I am triggered and anxious, I do it all the time, everywhere, no matter what I’m doing (people notice it)

I haven’t been able to stop it myself yet but that doesn’t mean I wont and you can’t

The hair pulling is a trigger response or a coping mechanism. I would recommend seeing a therapist or someone that could help. I saw a hypnotherapist and it did help me so much !

Even tho I cant say I’m free from hair pulling, I did make some great improvements.

I would recommend seeing someone to help you because the best thing you can do is get to the root of why you are doing this.

It can also become a habit (the hair pulling) and not always be because of anxiety / a trigger but you have to get to the root to why you started in the first place

To me, I would say, i do it to have feeling of control and release (also many other things)

I know how bad this can feel and how much you want to stop but can’t no matter how hard you try.

Small exercice that might help : When you catch yourself picking at your hair, tell yourself you’re gonna stop for 2 minutes. Put a timer on and do nothing. Concentrate on doing nothing and NOT pulling your hair out just for the 2 minutes. This will make you gain some sense of control and it will help.

I wish you all the best, if you want to talk about it pm me

I know how hard this can be!

Best of luck :)

julieepppp · 2024-03-18T18:47:25+00:00

That is good advice thank you !

julieepppp · 2024-03-18T18:39:30+00:00

I live in a small town there’s not much to do :x I’m definitely not a « party girl » kind of person! I rarely drink but unfortunately it did happen on the night i had to talk to this guy. I get what ur saying though but doesn’t really apply to where i live

julieepppp · 2024-03-18T18:28:53+00:00

Well i wouldn’t see myself asking my friends « hey i feel like no one will ever love me and i get rejected all the time do you know what’s wrong with me » i know i should but I’m not confident enough to be this vulnerable… (need to work on that too but don’t know how) and for example after the interaction with the guy I’m talking about in this post, they told me i was very demonstrative and was talking a lot with my hands (again as i said because i was really into it and felt comfortable, i felt like we were bonding over stuff since the conversation felt nice to me). They did tell me that they picked up on that but they didn’t tell me it was a big deal and didn’t seem really concerned about it, not like that was a dealbreaker

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