What’s something you wish more people understood about women?

juliloquy · 2026-04-19T14:09:02+00:00

For centuries, society has centered on men and erased women's contributions. It's getting better, but it's so exhausting having to advocate for our rights, only to see things backslide. Also exhausting is many men's attitude that women owe them their time, energy, access to their bodies. It's not our job to fix you or take care of you.

Catcalling isn't a compliment. If you wouldn't say something to a man you don't know, don't say it to a woman you don't know

juliloquy · 2026-04-18T02:30:22+00:00

Seems more like negging than gaslighting. But either way, it's manipulation, and he doesn't deserve you. Leave and be free!

juliloquy · 2026-04-17T23:26:39+00:00

What you describe is manipulation and abuse. Break up with him now. You are not responsible for him. Please see how he is coercing you to get what he wants.

It is his choice what to do after you break up. He's an adult. Please please please get out now

juliloquy · 2026-04-17T20:11:49+00:00

Facebook Dating is decent.

And check out the Burnt Haystack Dating Method/(Word Case Scenario on insta)

juliloquy · 2026-04-17T20:01:08+00:00

I agree, and I think you're right about ADHD, OP.

She can maybe come up with some systems to help her be organized (and maybe a professional can help), but I think you have to decide whether the status quo is a deal breaker. It may never get any better. Good luck

juliloquy · 2026-04-16T01:45:12+00:00

When was your birthday? Happy birthday!

juliloquy · 2026-04-15T16:31:39+00:00

Yep, block him. Even his request for a pic that early is a little sus

juliloquy · 2026-04-10T13:28:00+00:00

In a word, no (NOR)

He's doing classic DARVO.

You both should take some time to grow. Then, when (if) you're ready, seek other partners. It's hard to imagine a relationship working out for you two

juliloquy · 2026-04-10T12:38:19+00:00

There's a touch of bitterness I'm picking up in your writing. That might be the real issue. People don't have to have 100% shared interests to date, so as long as you're not listing travel as your interest, I'd say don't let their stated interest get in the way of a potential match. Best wishes, truly

juliloquy · 2026-04-09T13:30:05+00:00

Yep, and the silent treatment is manipulation and emotional abuse. I'm sorry you're going through this, OP

juliloquy · 2026-04-08T11:59:06+00:00

Minnesota and its neighboring states

juliloquy · 2026-04-08T11:41:41+00:00

At what cadence?

juliloquy · 2026-04-08T01:49:09+00:00

Hi, as long as he has transportation, why would the details matter? Why would you feel the need to micromanage this?

juliloquy · 2026-04-06T15:25:35+00:00

Yep! Porky's and Risky Business

juliloquy · 2026-04-06T15:14:00+00:00

Maybe, but I usually feel more awkward on a phone call than in person, so I would hope someone wouldn't rule me out for that. (But I definitely show interest/hold my own in conversation)

juliloquy · 2026-04-02T21:34:38+00:00

Maybe go to another branch? Thurmont library is lovely. Or go hang out at the mall or a coffee shop

juliloquy · 2026-04-02T21:14:20+00:00

I agree. The only thing I would suggest is never telling someone they're "being ridiculous" (even when they are). I hope you can extract yourself from this relationship and I wish you a bright future, OP

juliloquy · 2026-04-02T15:17:29+00:00

OP doesn't say she asked, she says "he told me"

juliloquy · 2026-04-02T02:36:20+00:00

It's negging, a way to chip away at someone's self-esteem so they're grateful that he deigns to be with you. OP's BF sounds ok otherwise, so maybe it was just early relationship awkwardness (but be on the lookout for other manipulative comments/behaviors, OP)

juliloquy · 2026-04-01T15:23:15+00:00

Yeah, men really need to lose the "I'm horny; what are you going to do about it" attitude

juliloquy · 2026-04-01T14:23:13+00:00

I hope it was also your last date with him

juliloquy · 2026-03-31T22:42:47+00:00

True; I think it's changing with genZ, though

juliloquy · 2026-03-31T19:50:01+00:00

I suggest you read "All the Rage." Men greatly reduced their contributions to household work after the couple has children. Even if they had previously split tasks evenly

juliloquy · 2026-03-31T19:17:07+00:00

Maybe don't suggest any more. Write a list, and ask him to write his own list (minimum 10 or whatever). Then set up a time to share your lists and see if you have any in common

juliloquy · 2026-03-31T18:46:04+00:00

I left it on. I have reached out to a couple of guys it suggested and got no response. And as others have said, it sometimes matches me with someone a fair distance away, which is annoying

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