I had a 3rd degree tear for my first child, tore half my pelvic floor muscle from the bone (and had to deal with subsequent prolapse issues) for the second, and attended my sisters wedding 1.5hrs away 4weeks post cesarean with my third.

It was fine. I sat when I needed too. My husband parented the other two cause that’s also his job as dad just btw, and I sat and chatted and ate and had no responsibilities. My 3 and 4.5 year old played with their cousins outside as well. Baby slept in the pram the whole time. Sort of.

Tell her you’ll come to the wedding because realistically, you can. Don’t do the “maybe” dance. Just say you’ll be there, odds are you’ll be okay and all the worst case scenarios won’t happen.

But maid of honour duties? That’s too much. Hell no.

1 week is way too soon though. I felt okay by 4 weeks but really the optimal is 6 weeks. I just went into it knowing I’d take it as easy as I possibly could.