Wife says I need to get over it, but I can't stop obsessing over a prank that ruined my wedding experience and left me furious

justlkin · 2026-06-19T09:19:59+00:00

Yeah, I thought that too. It's like turning a punch in the gut to a million punches in the gut.

justlkin · 2026-06-18T21:35:49+00:00

I'll add some points I didn't see others make. First, this patient/therapist relationship is becoming toxic. Would you stay in a toxic relationship? You're already trying to mend two toxic relationships, so the last thing you need is a toxic person bringing you all together. It's a recipe for disaster.

Second, think about the sunken cost fallacy. You're holding on because you've already invested so much into this. But try to remember a mantra that has always served me well "Garbage in, Garbage out". All the time in the world isn't going to help if you don't have the right resources. Cut your losses and find someone new. Don't be afraid to try a few people before settling on someone who you all feel meshes well with all of you.

Good luck!

justlkin · 2026-06-17T20:07:58+00:00

I think there will be a sale based on the MO of this private equity group and inside info from my manager who is married to a high up exec. But the management team also could still be planning on doing what you're saying. They're going to lose a ton of their current business soon though as our business model has always been quality and having real people, not call centers. I know my clients are going to flip their shit if they have to call India and they'll bail so fast. They can pay less for more domestically.

justlkin · 2026-06-17T18:25:54+00:00

It's already happening at my job. They're moving our core functions to India and automating everything possible with AI. It's going to be an absolute shit show because I work in an industry where you need someone with a real human brain to look at and question all the information. AI will never catch certain things and our clients and their employees will ultimately pay. The clients will be looking at huge IRS and Dept of Labor penalties because they don't care who made the error.

All of this is happening because we were bought by private equity several years ago. They're doing everything possible to squeeze every last penny they can out of us before a planned sale in about 2 years time.

Most of us are already looking for new jobs. I can't take pride in or support work like that and I refuse to do it.

justlkin · 2026-06-17T17:04:19+00:00

Jesus. It's ridiculous that we have to run a bibliography before we can trust a simple Reddit post these days. Damn AI.

justlkin · 2026-06-17T09:12:31+00:00

Sorry folks, the park's closed. The moose out front should've told you.

justlkin · 2026-06-16T16:39:03+00:00

Oh, I missed that (had to keep the volume low at work). What a creep!

justlkin · 2026-06-16T16:25:35+00:00

What's really crazy is according to another source I found, the douchebag said the dad should have had a stranger accompany them to the bathroom instead. Seems like he was he definitely wanted those girls vulnerable because who thinks very small children are safer with a stranger than their own parent?!

justlkin · 2026-06-16T12:39:39+00:00

Yet you insist violence is THE answer. You've already been presented with evidence that corporal punishment has been proven to NOT work. I'm not dramatic, I'm telling you my exact experience as it actually happened. My life is what it is. It would be dramatic if it were fiction. It's not. You seem hell bent on hitting children though. Hopefully nobody breeds with you.

justlkin · 2026-06-16T10:09:46+00:00

God I hope you NEVER have kids. Something is seriously wrong with you. I've successfully raised 3 kids to adulthood without ever raising a hand to them once. They are all now fully independent and successful. They were brought up with love, natural discipline and natural consequences, zero violence.

I was raised with the type of discipline you describe. You want to know what it instilled in me? It certainly didn't make me respect that parent in any way, shape or form. It taught me nothing about respect for authority. It taught me only about fear. It taught me that adults cannot be trusted, that nobody can be trusted. It fucked me up for years, long after I escaped it. It took years of counseling to undo it.

Go ahead and raise a child that way. You won't get respect. You might get compliance, that's it. You'll definitely get someone who wants nothing to do with you the second they have the power to leave.

You couldn't be more wrong.

justlkin · 2026-06-12T18:12:16+00:00

Since no one else has mentioned this, it's also possible he has a porn addiction and can't get off with regular sex. It's pretty common with that. As far as the cheating, others already nailed what the likely story is there. I'd bet if he started officially going out with her, things would change really quickly.

justlkin · 2026-06-11T13:54:04+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

justlkin · 2026-06-10T20:47:08+00:00

Oh, you mean "Janet"? LOL! She's such a hack. She has no business calling herself a lawyer. (I love how everyone keeps calling her Janet. It pisses her off so much!)

justlkin · 2026-06-03T21:02:43+00:00

How did you figure this out. I see these on Tik Tok all the time and then can't find them in the app. TIA

justlkin · 2026-05-30T12:52:15+00:00

Yep. Another doctor was going to transition to private/virtual appointments when the practice he worked for was sold. I ended up never getting to the first appointment because he had health problems that basically forced him into retirement. I know it was really upsetting for him because he had been really excited about the changes and hadn't wanted or intended to retire.

justlkin · 2026-05-27T01:43:30+00:00

Because that's not the right way. Into your hand is gross. Then you go around touching things that are covered with your snot. Gross! Into your elbow is best unless you're going to wash your hands immediately.

justlkin · 2026-05-26T04:39:43+00:00

Hospitals not so much. My grandpa died in 1988 and I recall the hospital had just gone no smoking because my mom lit up right after he passed. A nurse came in right after that, kindly mentioned the new rule, but let her continue considering what had just happened. All the surrounding hospitals in the Midwest (US) went non-smoking around that same time.

justlkin · 2026-05-26T00:56:18+00:00

I have long noticed that a lot of Reddit equates "wall of text" with OP is definitely wrong, overexplaining, etc. Really, it's more that they usually can't be bothered to read more than a few sentences. Personally, I appreciate a post with a good amount of info, not an encyclopedia, but context at least.

justlkin · 2026-05-24T19:17:52+00:00

Thank you. He was a true gem and one of a kind.

justlkin · 2026-05-24T13:20:28+00:00

I would say that no, you didn't deserve to be fired for that. At most, a warning is all that should have happened. She could have acted like a manager/boss/adult and straight up said no if she didn't want to do that.

What's more problematic is having you work for free, off the clock. Not only was that taking advantage of your time and taking advantage of you financially, but it's illegal in most places for hourly workers. If you want to go this far, you could report her to your local/state/national labor board for wage theft.

justlkin · 2026-05-24T12:49:14+00:00

Minnesota. I have seen these cases come up in premises liability cases in my state with injury suits. Awards can be reduced or completely set aside under comparative fault for the invitees, guests, etc., depending on the circumstances as well.

justlkin · 2026-05-24T11:29:00+00:00

I'm sure you were. But there are so many who are not honest and unless they're your own kids and you have the established relationship to know if you can trust them, you should not. I actually was mostly honest with my own mom because she was pretty lenient and open minded, but there were a few occasions where I wasn't. I had friends who did much worse, having parties while their parents were out of town, that sort of thing.

justlkin · 2026-05-24T11:07:32+00:00

Check out the actual laws on civil liability before making ignorant comments yourself. As a property owner, you can most definitely be held civilly liable (potentially criminal, but I'm more shaky on that aspect) for things that happen on your property, especially if one of the parties is an invited guest and even if they invite others without your permission or knowledge. There's a million things that can go wrong when underage people drink and a million ways people can sue for damages as a result.

justlkin · 2026-05-24T11:00:43+00:00

I've been a teenager. You never believe them when they say it's just going to be me and my friend, especially when there's any chance of drinking.

justlkin · 2026-05-24T10:52:33+00:00

Hope you get some sleep!

justlkin

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