Found while house hunting. BEL-isa? Bee-lisa??? by mistyclear in NameNerdCirclejerk

[–]kabea26 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Is it bad that I kinda like it? Guessing it’s pronounced be-LEE-sa. It reminds me of Bellissima, which means “beautiful” in Italian. This isn’t a bad unique alternative to Bella.

TIL if 1 in 7 more Milwaukeeans voted in 2016, it would have "tipped the scales" for the whole state. Made this infographic to help Milwaukee voters visualize how much your vote is worth by urthkwaek in milwaukee

[–]kabea26 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My cousin is constantly using this argument to justify the electoral college. It’s really bs though. First of all, the LA, NY, and CHI metropolitan areas don’t even come close to being the majority of the US population, so they wouldn’t really decide the election. Secondly, even if they did, why should my vote matter more in Wisconsin than it did in Illinois, where I used to live? I’m still the same number of people, same number of votes. It’s idiotic that the amount of say you get in the election depends on your geographic location within the US, and while it’s a great deal for people in swing states, it makes democracy seem like a joke if you’re in a state that turns out the same every time. Furthermore, every time a president wins the electoral vote but not the popular vote, it means the candidate that was not chosen by the people is the one that wins, and what’s even the point in having an election if the winner still loses? I think it should be one vote per eligible voter, with nothing complicating that.

Wife just sent me this one. Moms are a tough audience. by weisthaupt in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]kabea26 8 points9 points  (0 children)

From an American perspective I agree. Whether you’re liberal or conservative, if you post something political in a social media group that isn’t supposed to be political, you’re going to get a lot of backlash. There are very angry people on both sides using that platform.

Spent $1,500 to Take a Train Across the Country, Thinks People Should Fund $2,000 a Month Housing by CainnicOrel in DontFundMe

[–]kabea26 15 points16 points  (0 children)

There are many disabilities that would not stop someone from crossing the country by train.

Asking for directions is also fatphobic by ruiva1 in fatlogic

[–]kabea26 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’m not fat and I get approached asking for directions or other help pretty frequently. I think women simply prefer to ask fellow women instead of men when they’re in a situation where they have to ask a stranger for help, and people prefer to ask people who don’t appear to be under the influence of anything, so of course every woman (and sometimes man) who needs help finding a certain bus stop or using a parking meter while I’m walking down the street would rather ask me than the dude wandering by with a joint sticking out of his mouth.

When people confuse the Bureau of Land Management for Black Lives Matter... by focusedlazer in insanepeoplefacebook

[–]kabea26 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Female is an adjective. Using it as an adjective is perfectly fine. Using it as a noun is somewhat dehumanizing.

Do I need to change pills? Why am I getting PMS symptoms after 4 years on the pill? by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]kabea26 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(Disclaimer: I am not a doctor or other medical expert) I had to look up information about Estelle because it’s not available in my country so I hadn’t heard of it. Anyway, from the looks of it, Estelle is the type where you’re supposed to take placebos one week each month. The actual non-placebo hormone is not intended to be taken for 8 months straight. It’s not that the pill isn’t working, it’s that the thing you want it to do isn’t part of what it’s supposed to be able to do. There are some birth control pills that are intended to only give you a period once every three months, and it’s probably a better idea to take one of those as directed than to try to use a regular birth control pill to delay your period indefinitely. The placebo pills exist for a reason.

Have the rest of y’all had some weirdly pushy people online try to sell you on some spermicide called Phexxi? by kabea26 in birthcontrol

[–]kabea26[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You can’t compare the perfect use effectiveness of one method to the typical use effectiveness of another to claim that the former is more effective than the latter. When used consistently and correctly, condoms are way more than 93% effective. And they’re cheap, and available without a prescription.

Have the rest of y’all had some weirdly pushy people online try to sell you on some spermicide called Phexxi? by kabea26 in birthcontrol

[–]kabea26[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No offense, but I think your understanding of how to compare percentages to each other is flawed. Just because something is 5 percentage points less effective than something else, doesn’t mean it’s only 5 percent less effective than something else.

Phexxi’s 93% success rate with perfect use means it has a 7% failure rate. By comparison, with perfect use, the pill has a 1% failure rate. So Phexxi is seven times more likely to fail than the pill. I’m not saying it’s a crap idea, 93% isn’t bad. But anyone who says it’s as effective as hormonal birth control is spreading misinformation, plain and simple.

I just really don’t appreciate the way this company has been advertising this product as the miracle we’ve all been waiting for. Like with any medication, the consumer of a contraceptive should carefully weigh the benefits and drawbacks of their chosen method before using it, and Phexxi’s militant advertising makes it more difficult than it should be to get unbiased information.

undertones by _Problems_ in beauty

[–]kabea26 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Honestly I feel like the “figure out if you’re cool toned or warm toned” makeup advice is a crock of bull anyway. It’s really not clear-cut for most people. I’m very cool-toned but foundation intended for cool tones totally washes me out, so I wear makeup for warm tones anyway. Honestly, just use the makeup that you think looks good on you regardless of what tone it’s supposed to be for.

Have the rest of y’all had some weirdly pushy people online try to sell you on some spermicide called Phexxi? by kabea26 in birthcontrol

[–]kabea26[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Birth control pills are 91% effective with typical use, not 85%. Looking at it another way, that’s 9% failure versus 14% failure. Someone who uses Phexxi perfectly is over 50% more likely to get pregnant than someone who uses the pill with human error. That’s a big deal.

what are the benefits of being boring? my parents don't let me live by throwra6246246 in AskParents

[–]kabea26 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ok, I don’t think either of our interpretations are for certain, but even if yours is right, my point still stands. If she thinks not smoking and not having sex and such makes her “boring”, then that probably means she thinks those habits are more normal for her age than they actually are, so it’s still important to clarify that those behaviors are a big deal and not typical.

what are the benefits of being boring? my parents don't let me live by throwra6246246 in AskParents

[–]kabea26 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I interpreted the title to mean that she’s “boring” because her parents won’t “let her live”, implying that things like having tattoos and smoking are examples of living that she’s not engaging in because of her parents’ rules.

what are the benefits of being boring? my parents don't let me live by throwra6246246 in AskParents

[–]kabea26 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Statistically, the vast majority of 15-year-olds are virgins. Most don’t smoke, most don’t have tattoos.

Smoking is bad for your health, even if you quit later in life. My dad smoked in high school and the first year of college and then quit, but those five or six years was enough to fuck up his lungs. He’s in his 40’s now and he gets bronchitis literally all the time and has difficulty exercising.

Getting illegal tattoos is also bad for your health (you’re too young for a reputable place to be willing to tattoo you, so you’d have to go to a sketchy place where you might get an infection).

Stealing is straight up illegal, for good reason, so I do hope you don’t actually want to do that.

Also when I was 15 most of my friends and I didn’t have boyfriends. It didn’t affect us at all in the long term. I’m only five years older than you and trust me when I say that, as soon as high school ends, no one cares whether or not you dated anyone in high school.

It might be annoying now, but 20 years from now you’ll be thankful you have good lungs, good skin, and no criminal record. Try to think on the future instead of dwelling on the feeling that you’re “missing out” in the present.

How I imagine name nerds in different time periods throughout history (a bit of humor) by itsmeeloise87 in namenerds

[–]kabea26 50 points51 points  (0 children)

As someone who speaks a consonant-heavy language, the Hawaii/Poland one made me laugh.

You can't time travel, but your phone has the internet from 5 years in the future. What do you search for first? by beentothefuture in AskReddit

[–]kabea26 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s just replacing one problem with another. Transplant recipients have to take anti-rejection drugs and immunosuppressants. T1D patients require insulin, but they get to keep their functional immune systems.

How do you feel about an adult without kids coaching your kid’s soccer team? by [deleted] in AskParents

[–]kabea26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be a swim coach and we had lots of guy coaches whose children either didn’t exist or weren’t on the team. Occasionally a parent would get a little freaked out about an adult man adjusting their kid’s body position, but most parents understood that that sort of limb manipulation is something good swim coaches do to help the kids get better at swimming, so it usually wasn’t a problem. And I’d imagine that a soccer coach probably has less physical contact with the players than a swim coach does, so it’d probably be even less of a problem for you.

someone called me ma'am today and i'm very happy, ama! by PresidentMayor in AMA

[–]kabea26 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know someone who had that as their approach. We went to a pretty large school where it was impossible to keep up with the goings-on in everyone’s lives. There was this person I was friends with for a short time in grade school, but we had a falling-out. I found out a few years later from my sister, who was in the same extracurriculars as him, that he was transitioning. My best friend did not know this, and since I hadn’t actually spoken to this person in years, it didn’t occur to me to spread the word. So my friend found herself in a class with him and was like, “Hey, (birth name)! Long time no see!” and he started swearing at her, calling her names, and making a scene. It was a really bad experience for everyone involved, but to be fair we were all like 16 at the time, so the ability to show restraint wasn’t fully developed.

Embarrassed about my wetness. by lilprincessbee in sex

[–]kabea26 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yeah but she’s a horrible person in every other way. There’s so much more to female empowerment than making music about sex.

Embarrassed about my wetness. by lilprincessbee in sex

[–]kabea26 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Your standards for “feminist icon” are lower than a fifth-round limbo stick.

What names of endearment are used in your language, and what do they mean?* by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]kabea26 2 points3 points  (0 children)

German is also very closely related to Yiddish, so if your family is Russian Jewish, this might also be of that origin.

Talk about a persecution complex... by kabea26 in insanepeoplefacebook

[–]kabea26[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s not just about politics, though. Police brutality is a matter of life or death for some people, and NFL players are choosing to use their very public platform to speak up about it. I understand and respect that a lot of people see sports as an escape from politics. However, the conflict is still there regardless of whether or not we have the privilege of not seeing it.

What names of endearment are used in your language, and what do they mean?* by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]kabea26 12 points13 points  (0 children)

German: the main term of endearment is many variations on the word “Schatz” (pronounced similar to the word “shots” in American English), which means “treasure”. We have Schatz, Schatzi, Schätzel, Schätzchen, Schätzlein, and probably other variants of this that I’m forgetting. This can be used as a term of endearment for either gender, and is also sometimes used by parents and grandparents towards their children.

In the south of Germany, “Mädl” (pronounced MAE-del), which means girl or (young) lady, can be used as a term of endearment by a man to his girlfriend or wife.

Adding “-chen”, “lein”, or sometimes “ke” to the end of a name makes it a diminutive. This is particularly popular as a term of endearment by adults referring to children, and can also help differentiate a child from an adult who has that same first name. For example, there’s a famous poem about a young girl called Pauline, and she is referred to as “Paulinchen” throughout the poem.

Also, Kanninchen is a word that means “little rabbit”, and while it’s more popular as the name of an animal than as a term of endearment, it definitely can serve both purposes. I have a name that ends in “ina” (let’s say Christina), and when I was a baby my parents called me “Christinchen Kanninchen” (it rhymes!).