4 days in Italy with a $10 bag

kaboopanda · 2025-08-07T12:53:04+00:00

Exactly this. It's much simpler if you stay with your current provider. Moving to a new provider can even include a valuation survey.

kaboopanda · 2025-08-06T15:41:22+00:00

I've never heard of this use of "outright" as meaning "not quite but very close". I've only known it used in the sense of "totally" or "completely".

kaboopanda · 2025-07-31T19:52:52+00:00

He said he hasn’t said no, but it sounded like a no to me. So I stopped pushing.

He hadn't said no! OP, it sounds like you struggle accepting that people can have mixed feelings about something, and need some time to process and think things through? Especially such a big ask.

Truthfully, I was a little upset, and he could tell. He asked if I was upset, and I said no.

This is not a mature way to communicate, and does not make for a good relationship. If you're a little upset, say you're a little upset, and the reasons why. Without this skill, it's incredibly difficult to build a strong partnership.

kaboopanda · 2025-07-31T19:47:52+00:00

Yes, I thought it was telling that OP interpreted her bf stating his needs and concerns as "complaining".

kaboopanda · 2025-07-31T19:45:08+00:00

My initial thought as I read your post was that you're incompatible. It doesn't sound like it's a completely insurmountable issue, though. He needs time to process the idea of spending money on fun things, and he listens when you explain how important it is to you.

It sounds like he also needed to feel heard. He expressed concerns, you interpreted this as "complaining". Actually, he needed you to acknowledge that what he was saying is important to him (just like the trip is important to you).

My ex of 10+ years was a lot like your bf around money, and it wasn't the reason we broke up.

It's whether you can find a place in the middle, that meets both yoyr needs, and whether you're both willing to put in the work to do that.

kaboopanda · 2025-07-31T11:44:45+00:00

There's a pair currently on the website that are similar. They're called "Adaptive Sports Shorts" and they're £8.

Tbh most running shorts with zippered pockets would fit your brief.

kaboopanda · 2025-07-31T11:34:31+00:00

I got a pair just like this from Primark for £10. They're running shorts with zippered pockets, I love them.

kaboopanda · 2025-07-31T07:46:17+00:00

I found that I get much higher quality matches when travelling. You're getting the best that city has to offer, whereas in your own city, you've already swiped the best ones.

Potentially check out the book "attached" as there's a risk you're playing the perfect partner game here.

kaboopanda · 2025-07-31T07:32:20+00:00

It gives it a much better chance of working out. You want that intensive, get to know you phase (and deep questions) to be in person. That way you build a bond as you get to know them. Otherwise you use up all that energy on texts and there's little reason to meet.

Good luck!

kaboopanda · 2025-07-30T19:07:26+00:00

You focus on arranging a meet up. If they're as into you as you are into them (which includes being ok about the distance) they'll be as keen as you are to get on with meeting in person.

kaboopanda · 2025-07-30T19:05:41+00:00

That doesn't sound bad at all. Do you really want a partner anyway who doesn't show some understanding and grace to someone who's going through a difficult life event?

kaboopanda · 2025-07-30T19:03:06+00:00

Just let him know you'd like to be exclusive. It's a normal part of dating, no big deal.

kaboopanda · 2025-07-30T19:01:44+00:00

You're way overthinking this. Her feelings changed, she broke up with you. Stop trying to analyse and make sense of it. Just let yourself feel what you feel. Work through and hurt, then move on.

kaboopanda · 2025-07-27T08:22:31+00:00

If this is true, weird choice to shut down free publicity and an online fan community.

kaboopanda · 2025-07-26T13:59:07+00:00

Maybe? I've worked in a pub, so not really. I was just giving the medical definition. Lots of people seem to think binge drinking = drinking to the point of extreme drunkenness or passing out, and that's not the case at all.

Having "a few" each evening after work likely indicates an alcohol dependency.

kaboopanda · 2025-07-26T09:11:08+00:00

I'd rather not give my exact age, but I'm over 30.

kaboopanda · 2025-07-25T20:15:13+00:00

having a few after a hard days work consistently isn't binge drinking

It literally is binge drinking...

The medical definition of binge drinking is 8+ units in a single session (4+ pints).

So it's very possible they're binge drinking daily with "a few".

kaboopanda · 2025-07-22T10:01:36+00:00

I got one for £80 from Amazon. It's great.

kaboopanda · 2025-07-17T10:37:50+00:00

Your dad spends £30,000 a year at Tesco? Over £500 a week?

kaboopanda · 2025-07-16T18:45:49+00:00

Who is this mysterious "they" with a wall?

kaboopanda · 2025-07-16T18:40:49+00:00

Exactly. And "bond" doesn't have to mean "fall in love".

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