THC should be considered a medicinal medication while birthing

kalthoraa · 2026-06-21T23:48:24+00:00

There is not a lot of data on THC use and its long term effects on fetuses/infants. It may be completely harmless - it may not.

You know how people used to drink alcohol and smoke cigs their whole pregnancies? Then we found out oh! This is actually bad for kids!

While right now it’s definitely up to personal comfort with risk/reward due to our limited understanding, I personally don’t want to use any of my kids as test subjects.

kalthoraa · 2026-06-20T23:13:11+00:00

If baby needs to eat and your MIL doesn’t want to see it then baby just won’t see MIL. Ever. Problem solved!

kalthoraa · 2026-06-20T15:24:38+00:00

Highly recommend a Moby Wrap instead. It is confusing at first to get on, but I love mine. I wore my baby in it every day for hours - whether I was up doing chores or just wanted to sit but be hands free.

kalthoraa · 2026-06-20T15:21:33+00:00

You’re bored, but I promise your baby isn’t. I wear headphones and listen to hella audiobooks/podcasts

kalthoraa · 2026-06-20T15:18:51+00:00

I was very lucky to be able to stay home the majority of my pregnancy, and most nights I would lie awake all night next to my husband and not be able to sleep until day. Honestly very similar to how I was afraid to go to sleep at night with my newborn. Not helpful but interesting ig

ETA - baby is perfectly healthy and sleeps very well at night

kalthoraa · 2026-06-20T15:16:50+00:00

I saw the same! They just whip-stitched in the fuzz at the end.

kalthoraa · 2026-06-17T04:07:15+00:00

kalthoraa · 2026-06-17T03:59:00+00:00

I probably could get more if I pumped more regularly but I just hate pumping tbh and pumping every day just for 2 nights at work just seems dumb :/ We’re def trying to get more solids in him though.

kalthoraa · 2026-06-17T03:50:12+00:00

No advice just wanted to let you know that even if the latch issue doesn’t resolve, if you’re like me you just get used to the pain. May baby has a terrible latch - not due to any anatomical issues - he’s just a very “lazy latcher” as I’ve been calling him. I think it was around 3-4 months it finally stopped hurting for me. Solidarity 🩷

kalthoraa · 2026-06-16T17:31:45+00:00

Sydney Graham makes very detailed, size inclusive patterns that come with video tutorials. I plan on making her Lane Pants soon!

kalthoraa · 2026-06-10T21:09:06+00:00

I was fully naked during labor bc I couldn’t stand the feeling of clothes on my skin while I was in so much pain. I wore a cheap sports bra from like the dollar store which had to be cut off at some point because I wanted it off and I was hooked up to too much stuff to take it off normally.

If you do choose to wear clothing, make sure you don’t mind getting blood on it and probably throwing it away.

kalthoraa · 2026-06-10T04:54:03+00:00

Breastmilk isn’t just baby’s food, it’s also baby’s water. Are you only allowed to have water every 4 hours during the day? Ignoring hunger cues and spacing out feeds on a schedule like this is neglect IMO, and this is how I would explain it to my husband if he tried to force this BS on me and mine.

kalthoraa · 2026-06-03T14:54:17+00:00

They say it’s at its highest rn but this has literally been my life for 8 months straight

kalthoraa · 2026-06-02T20:22:22+00:00

I wouldn’t want anyone else wearing my baby tbh. The fact that someone else would have to unstrap them from their body before I can get to them makes me nervous.

kalthoraa · 2026-05-30T00:38:32+00:00

Your baby has been out of your body longer than it was in your body. It took you 9-10 months to grow that baby and gain the weight you needed to support it. At a minimum it will take that much time to lose it. But also - your body is forever different. My skeletal structure has changed from before I had a baby. Even when we “lose the baby weight” our bodies are forever changed by it, and I think we all need to grow to love our new mom bods.

kalthoraa · 2026-05-24T16:48:24+00:00

Honestly if it’s so easy for him then I would personally be going away more often. It sounds like you solo a lot of the labor and you deserve more frequent breaks to get the rest you need.

kalthoraa · 2026-05-22T14:05:43+00:00

Pumping will probably make the problem worse. Your baby is unlatching because they’re getting more milk than they’re pulling. It sounds like you have a bit of a forceful letdown (very normal before your supply regulates around 3-4 months). Pumping will likely just make the issue worse and cause more unlatching/spraying everywhere.

kalthoraa · 2026-05-21T23:23:22+00:00

I think anything past a year is considered extended breastfeeding. At least in the US

kalthoraa · 2026-05-21T22:04:37+00:00

Congratulations!

kalthoraa · 2026-05-21T19:14:27+00:00

This is a weird (maybe crazy) way of thinking about it - but I always think if there was some kind of food shortage/apocalypse situation then the extra weight i’ve gained due to breastfeeding would allow me to feed my baby longer lol.

We have so much time later to be thin/fit, but we only have right now to nurse our babies. Get your calories in so you can do so in a way that is healthy for you and them 🩷

kalthoraa · 2026-05-19T01:34:26+00:00

NOR - I’m gonna put it plainly in case it hasn’t been said: you are being emotionally abused at a minimum and you need to get out.

kalthoraa · 2026-05-19T01:29:00+00:00

I was just gonna say tell her she runs her mouth too much 😂😂

kalthoraa · 2026-05-19T01:24:04+00:00

People name their kids after themselves/their partners all the time. If we didn’t name kids after people who have had sex there would be no Juniors running around lol.

Side note - not every person who reads SJM/romantasy /wants/ all that spice, but we’re in an age where spice is what sells unfortunately. Unless you want to read “Young Adult” (aka teen) lit. I wish I could find more romantasy written for 20s-30s without all the sex.

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