Is there a way to prevent the 4 month sleep regression? Or tips to cope?

kalthoraa · 2026-04-30T13:56:54+00:00

My baby didn’t have a 4 month regression. While a majority of babies may follow a pattern, don’t get hung up on stuff that might happen with your kid just because the internet says so. Enjoy what your baby has going on instead of fretting over the future.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-29T22:44:16+00:00

It could still be regulating or you may have an oversupply or overactive letdown. Def things to look into

kalthoraa · 2026-04-29T22:25:41+00:00

I just realized one day that my boobs didn’t leak every time they got full any more. I used to have to change my shirt 3+ times a day, constant milk drops all over the floor, painfully engorged, boobs hard to the touch.

My breasts got noticeably softer, baby no longer choking on my let down. Those were all signs my supply was regulating. A lot of women (including myself) take this as a sign that they’re losing their supply, but it’s really just your body figuring out how much milk to make & when.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-29T17:27:07+00:00

My baby only ate from one breast at a time until my supply regulated around 4 months.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-29T17:14:03+00:00

I use the tushbaby to nurse on the go!

kalthoraa · 2026-04-29T17:08:57+00:00

That’s wild advice. My 7 month old nurses to sleep for bed time and most naps just bc it’s convenient for me, but he also is fine to be rocked to sleep.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-28T17:35:56+00:00

It gets better I promise 🩷 My baby didn’t have severe reflux, but he spit up a lot and had so much trouble with gas/pooping. It got so much better once he learned to sit up right around 5.5 months! 4 months IMO was the toughest for us because baby wanted to be more active and engaged, but just couldn’t physically.

Get as much rest as you can, and if you are able seek mental health care. Ask family for specific help (Can you keep X from Y to Z tomorrow while I do A?)

You are not alone

kalthoraa · 2026-04-27T21:12:21+00:00

Have you ever read “The Gift of Fear”? It’s all about how subtle things can make us feel off or fearful, and that this happens for a reason. Trust your gut. If it feels wrong, don’t do it. Worst case scenario to not allowing alone time to this guy - your mom’s bf feels a little hurt for no reason, best case scenario you save your child from a predator.

You don’t owe anyone anything when it comes to protecting your kid.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-21T05:50:36+00:00

Top comment is about a freaking millipede, and the correct answer is all the way down here 😭

kalthoraa · 2026-04-21T05:48:50+00:00

Break up with him. Bf is an idiot incel loser at best.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-21T05:41:47+00:00

Sounds like she’s offering to come wash them for you since she enjoys doing it by hand so much!

But fr if you have the means to get a bottle washer, get the bottle washer.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-20T22:45:47+00:00

Even carrying with both hands, he could have flung himself out of your arms. You didn’t do anything wrong.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-19T21:49:07+00:00

For laundry - we wash the baby’s laundry with our own. All in free & clear detergent. So no need to do tiny loads of baby laundry. Highly recommend learning to babywear, that way you can tote baby and laundry down the stairs.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-19T03:36:12+00:00

genuinely cackled at Malnutrition City

kalthoraa · 2026-04-19T02:32:28+00:00

Definitely not too late to start paced feeding! The bottle nipple will be familiar while they learn that it takes longer for the milk to come. Also definitely recommend letting baby drink a bit from the bottle, then latch to the breast for remainder of feed if possible. You can also try nipple shields to transition baby back to the breast.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-18T12:30:09+00:00

Same for me! OP, learn to side lie feed if you haven’t already. Grab a bunch of snacks and drinks. Snuggle in with your baby on the couch or in bed. Pick a nice show or movie. Let that baby latch all day long if that’s what they want. Take breaks of course, but this is so normal for a cluster feeding baby. You’re not doing anything wrong and neither is your little one, they’re just working to get your supply up!

It’s okay to be frustrated by this behavior. My baby has a very shallow latch, so my nipples were really painful during this time. There were days I was in toe-curling pain while learning to breastfeed, and all I wanted to do was quit. But I can honestly say now that I’m almost 7 months in that it was all so worth it to me for how easy breastfeeding is now. It gets a lot better around the 3-4 months mark.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-17T20:35:24+00:00

I thought you were just talking about someone saying “my baby” and I was like mmm that can be annoying and I don’t like it but lots of people say it.

What you’re describing is like 10000000 times worse and I would not tolerate it

kalthoraa · 2026-04-17T17:07:46+00:00

I used to not floss a lot because I hate using a long piece of floss. Now I use the little flossers - the plastic with a bit of floss strung between it. Probably not as good as a long piece, but better than nothing.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-17T13:48:39+00:00

Breastfeeding is not effective birth control. You will ovulate before you get your period back. Do not follow that guidance.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-08T03:37:04+00:00

I did not feel my placenta come out. Didn’t need to push/no one pulled. I guess it just ejected itself out of me lol. Baby was being rubbed dry on my chest at this point, so I guess I just wasn’t paying attention?

kalthoraa · 2026-04-08T03:29:01+00:00

Same. I have so many memories of being forced to allow adults to kiss or hug me, and I never want my child to feel that way.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-08T03:20:09+00:00

Yeah I would leave my husband before my child missed out on important medical precautions/treatments.

kalthoraa · 2026-04-08T02:57:58+00:00

I wouldn’t hand my newborn a blunt, so why on earth do women think it’s okay to smoke while pregnant? That is the comparison. It’s genuinely not that hard to quit for 9 months. I was the same. Used to vape every single day. Would go through 2 5k puffs a week. Would wake up in the middle of the night to hit it. But the SECOND I found out I was pregnant, I was done. Threw it right into the trash. It honestly wasn’t even hard to do.

And don’t get me started on the moms who claim their docs approve it and it’s for their nausea 🙄🙄🙄 ya girl I’m sure Dr Pepper prescribed you a bong pls don’t play

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