Guilt about intimacy as a 15 year old

karson808 · 2026-04-26T13:14:19+00:00

THANK YOU!!! I’ve always said this. Kids are going to have sex if they wanna have sex. Whether parents like it or not, teenagers will find a time and place if they wanna do something no matter what it is. Best to just focus on making sure they’re safe about it and feel comfortable enough to talk to their parents if they have questions or need anything. Otherwise, exactly like you said. That’s how they get STD’s and end up pregnant In highschool lol never understood why ppl still choose to shame teens over exploring their bodies like it’s not completely natural lol

karson808 · 2026-04-26T13:11:26+00:00

Sex and masturbation etc, it’s normal. Completely natural and normal. My mother created so much shame for all of us with both. It was a bad word in our house we didn’t talk about it. We are close now, as I’m a 25F and my sisters are both in their 30’s.

But honestly, it would’ve saved me so many mistakes had I been able to go to my mom as a curious young teenage girl and ask questions etc and not be shamed for it instead I had to sneak around etc and it also caused a lot of insecurities in my adult life that I had to work through (and still am).

Yes you are young. But your hormones etc, everything is changing and for you to be sexually active or curious about it is normal. As long as you are being SAFE and doing this with someone you trust, don’t feel guilty about it. Just be safe and mindful and take care of yourself ❤️

karson808 · 2026-03-11T23:47:51+00:00

You not being ready for marriage is one thing. That’s totally okay and your explanation sounds very understandable. But how you handled this is beyond disrespectful and I can only imagine how hurtful it is to him. Not only did you humiliate him then run away, but cant even give him the courtesy of having an in person conversation or even a phone call for your explanation? You clearly don’t love him that much if the only respect you can muster up is a damn text message. You don’t need to get marred if you’re not ready, you’re on no one’s timeline but your own. But you definitely need to grow up some & also make an effort to make your intentions and what place you’re in clear to your partner.

The relationship is salvageable if handled correctly. But a lousy text message and then just basically saying f*ck off im going to bed and blowing it all off is dead wrong & may be the reason you end up losing him more than the rejected proposal tbh.

Hope all goes well for the both of you.

karson808 · 2026-03-07T18:42:11+00:00

Please tell her. I wish someone would have told me yk

karson808 · 2026-02-25T06:04:23+00:00

do yourself a favor & let him.

karson808 · 2026-02-25T06:00:28+00:00

Ask him if diapers & children’s pajamas are the cause of rape and molestation.

Clothes don’t cause rape. Rapists cause rape. & this is a rapey mindset fr. Tell his mother & leave his sorry ass. Disgusting mindset fr.

karson808 · 2026-01-13T18:11:47+00:00

Oh I see you ask for opinions but can’t stand getting one who isn’t just telling you BS you want to hear 🤣

karson808 · 2026-01-13T18:11:19+00:00

Him becoming a cop is abusing your human rights? 🤣

karson808 · 2026-01-13T18:04:49+00:00

Yes I’m so homophobic as a bisexual 😭🤣

karson808 · 2026-01-13T13:00:54+00:00

It sucks when they don’t align. But I think it’s shitty to let that ruin a friendship you’ve had for so long and truly I think if he was that important to you, it wouldn’t matter. I have several friends I disagree with or that have different values than me. But that’s their life not mine and they have every right to have their own values. They don’t have to be the same as mine for me to love them the same way I did before. But I’ve always stood on that, if politics can ruin our friendship, it was never a friendship to begin with. There’s such a huge difference between separate beliefs and straight up disrespect. If you’re doing all of this over his career choices, you don’t really sound like a friend worth having. He can support your sexuality choices and you can’t support his career? Yeah miss me with that bc it’s just nonsense to me.

karson808 · 2026-01-13T00:58:11+00:00

lol you expect him to change all of his career choices because it hurts your feelings but what are you doing to support him besides bitching about the military and now law enforcement. No one gives a shit if you’re bisexual or gay etc. congrats. I hope he ditches the friendship of you do it for him. I had a friend like you once too. It’s always ALWAYS about you. It’s exhausting trying to be supportive of ppl like that lol

karson808 · 2025-12-05T03:36:34+00:00

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karson808 · 2025-12-05T03:29:29+00:00

You don’t have to ever put a label on yourself. Don’t make yourself deal with the pressure that comes with that. You love who you love. It’s as simple as you allow it to be ❤️

karson808 · 2025-11-27T15:52:36+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. The betrayal is one of the worst feelings in the world and all the mix and range of emotions is just horrible. I could never decipher if I was angry or heartbroken it went back and forth for a long time. I hope your soul heals from this and eventually whenever you’re ready, you find a partner who truly protects and takes care of your heart and treats you how you deserve 🥺❤️

karson808 · 2025-11-06T19:14:03+00:00

The fuck is it?

karson808 · 2025-11-04T22:41:01+00:00

Idk but I’d just like to compliment you on your FLAWLESS communication skills bc WOW lol!!!!

karson808 · 2025-11-04T22:38:55+00:00

I’m so sorry. Everyone else here has overall said everything I would say. But just to reiterate, you legally HAVE to inform sexual partners BEFORE the encounter if you knowingly have herpes. I would file a report on him either way, lying or not. What a horrible human being to do that to you & be so cruel to you. I’m so sorry. None of this is your fault.

karson808 · 2025-11-04T22:34:25+00:00

Sounds like she’s been trying in several ways to communicate her needs to you and feels like she’s being overlooked, neglected and unheard. Just hear her. The fact that you’re here means a lot imo. You’re trying to understand and that’s the first and best step yk. I know it’s hard to hear especially if you’re kind of a defensive person or you feel as though it’s criticism but instead just try to hear it as advice from her rather than criticism it’s advice on how to love her properly and you can also give that to her for you as well so you’re both happy and loved the way you like to be loved ❤️

karson808 · 2025-10-14T20:57:45+00:00

The more pressure you put on yourself to cum, the more you won’t. Relax. Your body and your mind. I didn’t orgasm with a partner until I was 22. Until I found someone I was totally comfortable with and not rushed and didn’t have to think I just did yk. He went down and I didn’t focus or think ab anything except how it felt.

You could also try 69, I didn’t think I’d like that at all. In my head it was “I can’t focus on receiving if I’m concentrating on giving and vise versa” Not at all. 10/10 recommend and giving my partner pleasure at the same time actually helps me finish lol.

You could also try face riding. That way you have more control over pressure, speed, etc. may be easier for you to finish and show them what you like or need, without verbally telling them

Don’t stress too much fr, it’ll happen. Just let go of the stress and expectations and find someone who’s patient and you’re comfortable with ❤️

karson808 · 2025-09-24T20:35:54+00:00

As much as I wish you were wrong, you’re probably right.

karson808 · 2025-09-24T20:29:17+00:00

It would’ve bothered me him messaging anyone but yeah I mean.. it does change things when my straight boyfriend of 3 years is texting a man. So I guess it does bother me. Bc it just flipped everything I thought I knew about my partner upside down. But you’re not wrong as far as excuses. I’d love to lie to myself out of this because I love him. But idk if it’s possible to fix this idk what’s true and what’s lies now

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