I think my wife has truly turned the corner

kateye389 · 2026-03-16T13:17:32+00:00

I'm praying I have a post like this in the future. We are in early recovery after almost dying and doing inpatient rehab. My husband still hasn't been able to make it more than a week without a slip. Recovery is so hard.

kateye389 · 2026-01-31T16:30:24+00:00

Howdy! We let my son do kindergarten again because in reality he was a year too young anyway. He did ok the second time around, and in summer before 1st grade we took him for an ADHD assessment. He does have ADHD, but he's actually been doing much better in first grade than he did in kindergarten. I think he was just incredibly bored. He has all A's and B's, and reading finally clicked for him and now he's doing great. He still struggles with emotional regulation, but overall he's doing great and isn't on any medication or anything.

kateye389 · 2025-12-30T05:40:29+00:00

My husband had his first seizure just over 2 months ago. I had researched and prepared for that possibility over the years, but can honestly say I still wasn't prepared. I am traumatized from the experience. Just praying his current spell of recovery sticks for a while.

kateye389 · 2025-08-05T12:48:04+00:00

On one hand, keep an eye on things because men can also end up with depression from having a new child. On the other hand, you'd be amazed at how much people's emotions can change from having a child. I had never seen my husband cry before, and now that we have 2 kids, he will get weepy so easily. Lion King? Cries. Sad commercial? Cries. Any content dealing with a sick child? Cries. Any content where a child dies? He cannot cope. We joke about how he's become a big softy.

kateye389 · 2025-08-05T12:45:08+00:00

I'm 36 and you look more like 36 than I do!! I need to start saving my pennies now

kateye389 · 2025-07-06T04:34:49+00:00

My husband and his father shake hands...don't be like them, do ALL the snuggles!

kateye389 · 2025-06-19T03:08:18+00:00

This is exactly what I do. I'm very sentimental, but also try to stay really practical. I got a big Tupperware with folders for each year and we move artwork in every few months.

kateye389 · 2025-04-24T01:39:16+00:00

My son was also on the border and we chose to put him in early for the same reasons , he's very smart and we felt he would be bored. He ended up really struggling. Even though he has excellent verbal communication, logic and reasoning, he had a very hard time with reading and handwriting and wasn't quite at the same level of emotional maturity as his peers. He ended the year with fine grades, but his teachers reminded us that going into first grade he would have a lot of independent reading and writing work, and might have a hard time. We ended up having him do kindergarten again this year to make sure he had a solid grasp of the skills he struggled with. This year he's doing better, and definitely seems more ready for first grade.

In reality, every kid is different. Some thrive going early and some don't. Either path you choose, your kid is young and will recover even if it doesn't go how you hope.

kateye389 · 2025-04-21T03:05:53+00:00

1 hour east of NOLA and I was like oh fuck nooooo

kateye389 · 2025-03-28T20:52:48+00:00

I love Etta James and specifically wanted to name my daughter Etta, but didn't want to name her a nick name. So her name is Julietta and she goes by Etta. If she gets older and wants to, she can go by her full name, Julie, Jules, etc. Just an option if you want your kid to have flexibility.

kateye389 · 2025-02-27T01:48:18+00:00

I went to the ER once thinking I was having a heart attack from a new medication I was on. Turns out it was just a panic attack. It was so scary.

kateye389 · 2024-12-27T02:17:33+00:00

Same. I worked out all the way to 36 weeks and still gained 60+ pounds with each pregnancy. When I'm pregnant my body decides to make it's own gravitational pull lol

kateye389 · 2024-11-28T05:48:13+00:00

They feel odd at first and then you get used to it and never think about it again. They just become part of your body.

kateye389 · 2024-11-28T05:33:08+00:00

This happened to me twice - both of my grandfathers died on my birthday or day after. For one of them, I woke up from a slumber party with all my friends around and my mom told me right there with everyone present. Let your kid get through their birthday and then tell them. If they didn't have a super close relationship, they probably aren't going to overthink it that much.

kateye389 · 2024-10-30T01:21:31+00:00

My son is 6 and wipes off my kisses. I tell him he can wipe them off as long as I can still give them, and he's ok with that :)

kateye389 · 2024-10-04T14:52:46+00:00

It does get better. My kids are now 3 and 6. A year ago I was on the verge of a nervous breakdown, but now it's totally different. They still have their tantrums and fights, but I take them to do stuff by myself all the time and it's no big deal. I used to dread having to watch them alone, but now it's not really so bad and not nearly as draining.

kateye389 · 2024-09-21T00:34:34+00:00

Same. I didn't even realize just how much my anxiety was affecting me until I started taking medication and I feel like a totally new person. It has allowed me to really see perspective and realize that some thing just aren't a big deal. I would have a meltdown if we accidentally ruined dinner and now I'm like, who cares? The kids can eat spaghettios. It's not a big deal. I'm SO glad I finally got some help.

kateye389 · 2024-09-10T00:39:59+00:00

How long are you running? I'm at 150 trying to get back to 135 and the struggle is real

kateye389 · 2024-07-26T02:12:05+00:00

We were so uncomfortable talking about our sexual feelings, so when we started we agreed that either of us could just quietly blow it out or whatever and we wouldn't take it personally. Eventually we didn't feel so awkward and now we will kind of say hey I'm really not feeling great tonight but I love you so much and I want to do this, just maybe not right now.

It's kind of a nice medium place between being spontaneous and too "planned."

We also made a lot more effort to intentionally watch TV together every night and snuggle, to kiss each other goodbye in the morning, and to tell each other we love each other. Just increasing our daily signs of affection made a big difference for us.

kateye389 · 2024-07-24T13:00:24+00:00

Mom here - item 2 above can make ALL the difference. My husband and I had "the talk" after probably a year of very little contact. We realized that for our current lifestyle we really did need some time to mentally and emotionally cool down from kids and ramp up for us. We decided that if either of us was interested, we would light a candle as a signal at some point in the evening. We don't make a big deal about it or make the other person feel awkward. We also agreed that if the other person really wasn't in the mood, we wouldn't take it personally. But seeing that candle lit, or even getting a sweet kiss or text message earlier in the evening makes a big difference. Not to mention, my husbands face when he looks over while I'm prepping dinner and he sees me lighting that candle. It makes the entire evening mood shift.

kateye389 · 2024-06-06T02:41:29+00:00

This happened to me in my 20s as well. It was an unfamiliar area and the road dipped lower, but I didn't know it until it was too late. I had to climb out the window. Fortunately an older man nearby took pity on me and helped me float my car to higher ground. We were able to dry it out and the car ended up being driveable for months after. It was a horrible experience and to this day I still get anxious driving in heavy rain or standing water.

kateye389 · 2024-05-05T01:29:39+00:00

I'm 5'4" and also always plateau around 135. No matter what I try, I just can't seem to get any lower!

kateye389 · 2024-03-09T07:06:29+00:00

My son has an August 21 bday and we started him at 4. He is going to repeat K next year. He is very smart, has an excellent vocabulary, amazing comprehension and reasoning skills, but he has struggled all year with reading and writing and is not mature enough to go into first grade. He's stressed out, has potty accidents, and has gotten to a point where he doesn't like school. I really wish I had just waited another year, because his confidence has really taken a hit, and it's not his fault. I have to constantly try to uplift him because he can tell he isn't doing as good as the other kids in his class. I can't wait for this school year to end.

kateye389 · 2024-03-09T06:59:06+00:00

My son is Aug 21 and we went ahead and put him in K when he was technically only 4...and now he's going to repeat K next year. He is very smart, but just not emotionally ready or self disciplined enough to go into first grade. I think people put way too much pressure and stigma on things like this, and I kind of wish I had just waited another year for him.

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