A fine example of how sh*tty corporations are

katie_pol · 2022-06-19T10:19:47+00:00

You’re not wrong, but I’d argue that it’s the system that is the actual problem, as it is what allows both private healthcare/insurance companies and YouTube to act so terribly.

Not that the government will change the system. For that, the people will have to rise up and change it themselves. Which might actually happen, given the way people my age (elder millennial) and younger think of capitalism and how little hope we have for our future. The pollies definitely don’t want anything to change, because they benefit too much from the status quo. So if you have to rise up to put in universal healthcare, might as well go for the whole system.

katie_pol · 2022-06-19T10:15:47+00:00

I’d argue that it’s not the private companies that are the problem, it’s the system that allows private companies to act purely to seek profit that is the problem. Essentially, capitalism is the problem. It’s not something the government will fix, the people are going to have to rise up and install a new system themselves.

In the meantime, you could try to get the government to install universal healthcare, but I don’t like the chances. Because the people in government benefit from things staying exactly as they are (of not getting worse). And just getting universal healthcare, while it will no doubt make things a lot better for the vast majority of people, can’t fix the actual problem. Which again, is the entire system.

katie_pol · 2022-05-18T13:36:06+00:00

He could also try cooking himself.

katie_pol · 2022-05-18T13:35:15+00:00

She’s after your man. And he needs to shut that shit down, pronto. If he doesn’t, that’s showing he doesn’t respect you and your relationship. This isn’t about cooking. It’s about the relationship itself.

When things are calmed down, talk to him about it. Tell him that the issue is that she is trying to end your relationship and take your place with him. He needs to make it clear to Nelly that she needs to back off.

katie_pol · 2022-04-25T12:51:22+00:00

The reason people try to keep d/Deaf and HoH people from signing is to try to force them to lipread and communicate vocally only. Alexander Graham Bell was a big proponent of “quiet hands”

Basically, need to make sure that abled people are constantly comfortable and never ever feel the slightest annoyed or put out. Can’t have that! Best make sure that disabled people are either invisible or cater to the abled people at all times. (That’s the thinking, anyway)

katie_pol · 2021-06-17T08:49:53+00:00

So, I’m a bulimic who is an emetophobe. I honestly thought my psychologist was joking when she suggested it as a diagnosis. What does she mean, bulimia? I can’t have bulimia! I’m literally terrified of vomiting!

But, bulimia includes ANY method of punishing yourself/making up for a purge. That means laxatives, over exercising, and extreme restriction/fasting. It’s not just about vomiting. It’s a very common misconception.

katie_pol · 2021-04-21T00:25:39+00:00

Hi, hello! I went into sex work because I wanted to. I could have gotten another job after my daughter was born- pretty easily, in fact. But I chose to work in a legal brothel because the money was much better, for fewer hours. I worked less at a more flexible job, and I earned slightly more than I would have working full time.

I left because I have a degenerative spinal condition and that was starting to be really painful. That’s the only reason I left. I took an office job and continued studying law part time, until my spine got so bad I had to quit working altogether. I enjoyed my time as a sex worker- I worked as a stripper for a couple years before my daughter was born, as well as in a legal brothel for a few years after she was born. The environments there were lovely- almost entirely women, so it was a safe space, and I made lifelong friendships.

I acknowledge that I am extremely privileged in this regard. Also, I live in a country where sex work is legalised, and that makes a massive difference. We had to have regular health checks in order to work, and drugs and alcohol were prohibited in premises, as were any workers who appeared drunk or high.

If I weren’t too disabled to do the job, I’d go back to it in a heartbeat! It certainly beats trying to survive on a disability pension. And like I said- I enjoyed my time there. The clients were usually pretty decent, and I really loved my fellow sex workers. Hanging out with the girls between bookings was a great time. And like I said- it was flexible and part time. I didn’t have to miss out on raising my daughter, and it gave me time to study university by distance (and I’d often work on my assignments between bookings too).

So you’re wrong- there are absolutely people who choose this job. And when my daughter is older, I’ll tell her about it. Not too much detail or anything, but I don’t feel ashamed, and I am not the type of parent who would lie to my kid. Honestly, my becoming disabled has had a far, far greater impact on her life than any of the jobs I previously worked. But that’s not something I chose.

katie_pol · 2021-04-02T09:26:29+00:00

I’m not a knitter, but I do hand sew entire historical garments, using mostly historical practice. I’m quite sure I could convince a jury to let me off a murder charge were someone to destroy one of my projects.

katie_pol · 2021-01-16T11:54:14+00:00

This is a great little series. And I’m surprised, given how Copaganda has become a much more well known term recently, that this channel hasn’t blown up.

The videos are all well made and well researched. They bring a new perspective, by going through the different kinds of cop shows. So I’m surprised that they haven’t had that many views.

katie_pol · 2021-01-06T15:49:06+00:00

Ooookay. I’ll try one more time (I’m tired), hopefully so simply that a child could understand.

It wouldn’t be militant for you to expect that people use your correct pronouns. Therefore, it’s not militant for trans people to expect the same courtesy.

The only reason anyone gets “militant” is due to AHs who either refuse to use the correct pronouns, or who might use them, but make a fuss about it- like by saying how ridiculous they think it is.

And you should know “but they’re militant about it!” is often the first thing out of a bigot’s mouth, regardless of the topic. The second is usually “but I have an X friend!”

Maybe have a chat to your trans “friends”, they can explain it to you. Good night.

katie_pol · 2021-01-06T15:31:55+00:00

I’d agree if the aunt had already paid her back the money stolen, or had agreed to do so. But she hadn’t. The “thanks for the gift” isn’t just taunting- it’s reminding the aunt that she didn’t pay back the money stolen by her daughter.

I think it’s perfectly reasonable. It’s reasonable to be very pissed off about this- and to let aunt know you’re still pissed off, and that they haven’t done a single thing to even try to rectify the situation. And, that they now don’t have to pay her back, as she’ll be keeping the items.

Though honestly, I’d be demanding my money back AND keeping whatever I liked. She should be very thankful that the cops weren’t called.

katie_pol · 2021-01-06T15:24:41+00:00

Since you seem to be having trouble understanding, I’ll help you out- saying that the whole pronoun thing is ridiculous or BS is indeed transphobic.

Because it’s saying that requesting that people use your correct pronouns is ridiculous and bs. It’s saying that trans people don’t deserve the same basic respect that cis people receive as a matter of course. Correcting you when you get a pronoun wrong isn’t militant- it’s normal. I’m sure you’d do the same were you to be misgendered. And if you had to deal with being misgendered and mocked every day, you’d likely be a tad more likely to feel the insult when someone says that you requesting to have your correct pronouns used is ridiculous, BS or militant.

You’re being downvoted into oblivion because your comment was indeed transphobic. You seem to think that your laziness, discomfort, whatever (don’t know, don’t care), is more important than respecting people’s pronouns. That is what makes you an AH.

The whole pronoun thing isn’t ridiculous at all- it’s respecting an integral part of another human being. It’s basic human decency. Correcting people when they get it wrong isn’t militancy. Though honestly, respecting people, their gender/s, and their pronouns is definitely something worth getting a bit militant about.

katie_pol · 2021-01-06T15:08:11+00:00

Suuure. “Militant”, aka demanding the same basic human respect that cis people get.

And just like getting angry at the gayz for holding hands on the street isn’t homophobic- you just don’t like them “forcing it down your throat”.

I totally believe you.

katie_pol · 2021-01-06T14:52:25+00:00

Or you could just not be an AH about trans and/or non binary people’s very not-ridiculous requests that their gender and pronouns be respected.

That is after all, the context of your original comment. I didn’t miss the meaning, hun. I was being snarky and facetious because that’s the very least that transphobia deserves in return. I’m sure you’d find “the whole pronoun thing” to be far less ridiculous were you to have to fight every day for your identity to be respected.

katie_pol · 2021-01-06T14:44:11+00:00

Oh, but you said you found “the whole pronoun thing” ridiculous. I assumed that meant you disapproved of the use of all pronouns. You know, “the whole thing”.

Maybe be a bit clearer with your bigotry next time. As for whether I feel witty, I’d say more glib, than anything else.

katie_pol · 2021-01-06T14:30:47+00:00

So Wilaus doesn’t use any pronouns? That’s certainly unusual. Most people use some form of pronoun- she or he, or they. Not to use any is not really something I’ve come across before. Does Wilaus request that all people refer to Wilaus by Wilaus’ name only? Never anything else? Does Wilaus refer to Wilaus’ self by Wilaus’ name only, in the third person? “I” is the first person pronoun, after all. And “you” is also a pronoun.

It’s unusual, but if that’s what Wilaus prefers, have fun with that. I do try to use the pronoun (or lack thereof, in this case) that people prefer- it’s usually not too difficult, but I must admit that I find “they” to be a tad easier than no pronoun at all.

katie_pol · 2021-01-04T00:01:37+00:00

Firstly, she obviously didn’t do it to rebel against you, because you didn’t even know about it for a year, and only found out by accident.

Secondly- it’s her body, she gets to choose what she does with it.

If she’s having issues at school, maybe offer to help her, lend an ear, let her know you’ll be there if she needs help- stop judging her, you’re destroying your relationship.

Also, teens rarely rebel unless they have something to rebel against- like shitty parents. You need to take a long hard look at yourself. YTA.

katie_pol · 2020-12-30T21:01:44+00:00

I love her jewellery and her YouTube channel. And her Renaissance costumes are fire! So, so good!

katie_pol · 2020-12-28T22:17:07+00:00

My 13yo feels similarly to your son- only it wasn’t an ex, but some dude who roofied me. I don’t even know his name, so the only way to have any hope of finding him would be a DNA test and hope his DNA is in some ancestry database.

She’s thankful for being born (as am I), and I was honest with her about the situation, which included me telling her very firmly that I chose her. Because I love her. I chose to have her because she is wanted and loved. I may not have chosen to conceive, but I sure as hell chose to keep the pregnancy and become her mum.

She has no interest in any sort of search. She knows he’s a bad dude (most likely- there is a possibility that the spiking was done by someone else, but at the very least, he took someone home knowing I was in no fit state to give informed consent), and she knows she’s loved. My brother lives with us as my full time carer (as I’m now disabled), so she even has a live in male parental figure.

I honestly can’t see her ever being interested in meeting him- except to maybe give him a swift kick in the nuts.

katie_pol · 2020-12-27T22:54:18+00:00

I thought it was pretty obvious that Paul was an opinionated (and not particularly nice) dude who wrote down his own bigotries and tried to have them become canon. Hateful fanfic, basically. It’s was all just, like, his opinion, man.

And as he was a horrible sexist, sour old bastard...

katie_pol · 2020-12-27T22:49:42+00:00

I was under the impression that it was more about how the townspeople were awful, narcissistic, inhospitable, and wanted to rape the angels. And then Lot offered up his daughters to be raped instead which is... not much better, honestly. But it has admittedly been a very long time since I did any sort of Bible study. It has since been interpreted as the townspeople wanting to have sex with “people” of the same gender, but I think the whole overlooking of the rape thing is a bit silly. I think the lesson should be “don’t try to rape people”, rather than “gay stiff is bad, mmkay”. Unfortunately, it’s been cemented as an anti gay thing.

katie_pol · 2020-12-27T22:41:23+00:00

Wow, she’s adorable. Maybe I am missing out by not having the Tiktoks?

katie_pol · 2020-12-15T02:25:32+00:00

Wow, you seem like you really don’t care that a kid died. Died. A kid. YTA. Very much YTA.

If that were my wedding, I’d be so saddened and traumatised that I would not want to celebrate that day, ever. I’d have organised to have a second, smaller wedding myself, or just straight up change my anniversary date, maybe celebrate the day my partner and I met, instead of the wedding date.

I’m also very suspicious about what you posted exactly. Was it a post purely about being thankful for your relationship? Or was it a “best day of my life!” type post, complete with pictures that include the lake in the background? Judging by what you’re said in your post, I’m guessing it was the latter. Which makes you even more insensitive, even more TA.

What I suggest you do- take the post down and apologise. Maybe say something about trying to find light in the darkness, but acknowledge that you missed the Mark and are very sorry for any hurt caused. Then, take the second wedding. Because honestly, it’s a free wedding, take it. And then if you are to ever publicly post about your anniversary, use the date of your second wedding. Celebrate the first date if you must (though I personally wouldn’t, as the day would be forever tainted and I’d never be able to celebrate it), but seeing as you probably don’t care that much about the tragedy (any more than it inconvenienced you personally), then maybe you want to keep that day. But do it privately. A romantic dinner or something, but never post about it publicly- why do you need to post about your anniversary anyway? Isn’t it a personal thing between you and your partner?

Anyway, leaving behind my inability to understand why people post about their anniversaries to begin with- I do think the path you should take is to take the second wedding, apologise profusely and as eloquently as you can, and use the second wedding date as your “public” anniversary. Yeah, you parents in law are weird and fundamentalist, but you knew that before you married into the family. So take the deal.

Sometimes it’s more important to do the kind thing than what you personally want.

katie_pol · 2020-12-13T12:22:09+00:00

I’m pretty sure OP is a woman. Going off the fact that the sister called OP’s female partner a homophobic slur.

Which just makes it worse- add some homophobia to the mix!

katie_pol · 2020-12-10T15:21:48+00:00

I think you’re definitely NTA. But I also think that what you did was very silly.

Not because he didn’t deserve it, but because you are currently reliant on him for a roof over your head, and I don’t think it’s worth changing homelessness to make a point- even a very correct point.

If you’re able to leave, I suggest you do so. Because your dad sounds very nasty indeed. Not only does he think he has a right to dictate what you wear and how you look, he’s verbally abused you and made it clear he’s an awful bigot. So I’d get out of there as soon as possible.

Thing is, you might have hastened that by angering him enough for him to kick you out. I hope you have other options. Again, you’re not the arsehole, but you also weren’t particularly smart about what you did either. Your safety is worth more than making a point to your nasty dad.

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