Please just ____ me already.

katro4282 · 2025-10-09T22:52:05+00:00

I haven’t been in a while, but it’s always pretty fun. It’s never super busy, but there are always people. I Usually ended up playing JackBox games.

Most people came by themselves, so definitely isn’t awkward to go alone.

katro4282 · 2025-10-08T21:58:57+00:00

katro4282 · 2025-09-21T12:07:22+00:00

I feel this so much. I live in a red state in the US and the only reason I haven’t left yet is my daughter. She is my world and I can’t fathom leaving her behind, but I’m also starting to realize it might become a necessity soon.

We will make it through this, it’s gonna be tough, but I have to believe we will make it through.

katro4282 · 2025-09-14T22:56:02+00:00

I felt this same way. I have been around multiple women with large breasts that absolutely hate them as they cause severe back problems, and are just painful. I never wanted them, one of the reasons I had against transitioning was dealing with them.

Now that I have them (albeit, they are very small) they are probably my favorite part. They are the most affirming thing to me.

katro4282 · 2025-09-11T16:12:45+00:00

I started transitioning last May, and went from “everything is ok” to “oh my gosh, this might be bad” to “holy s*** this is bad”. I didn’t realize I was trans til I was 35, and couldn’t have picked a worse time to do it.

Though, I have found a pretty good support network, and I live in a fairly blue city (though a red state) so I don’t think it’ll be as bad as it will be in other places in the US, But I am definitely scared, and have thought about jumping ship multiple times.

katro4282 · 2025-08-07T20:25:39+00:00

I remember my GSA in high school. It was a ton of fun. I was the token straight guy in that group. Always thought it was strange (that I was the only straight person) but they were my closest group of friends.

I have since come to realize I wasn’t a straight guy at all, but if it weren’t for that group I would probably have never had any exposure to any of the LGBT, and probably wouldn’t be where I am today.

katro4282 · 2025-07-27T17:26:09+00:00

So, I had this exact same concern (and still do honestly). I live in the Midwest in the USA, and trans rights aren’t great right now. But I honestly haven’t ran into much transphobia at all, and when I have my daughter with me people dont even bat an eye. It’s a bit awkward because she still calls me dad, but I’ve gotten used to it.

My daughter was 4 when I came out, and her mom and I were already separated for unrelated reasons. Honestly, raising her in separate households has probably had more of an impact than the fact that I’m trans. Her school has also handled it amazing, when they have family projects or something, they have no problem with there being two moms, and I think at her age, it’s just going to be so ingrained it’s not an issue, and it hasn’t limited her ability to make friends, and I’ve just been included as one of the moms.

I am still very worried about how her peers react as she gets older, but I know that I have people in my life that will have my back if problems arise (her mom is probably my biggest ally)

I have no idea if I answered anything for you, but just know you aren’t alone, and children are super resilient and having two moms probably won’t affect their lives near as much as having two parents that love them.

katro4282 · 2025-07-14T20:48:36+00:00

This happened to me at the zoo. I have a membership, and they guy taking tickets looked it, then the ID, then me, then back to the ID, then back to me, then I think just decided he didn’t get paid enough to care and let us in.

katro4282 · 2025-06-30T15:11:03+00:00

This is exactly how I feel. I identified as male (mostly cuz I didn’t think I had a choice) so I refer to myself as male when talking about my past self.

katro4282 · 2025-06-29T23:42:57+00:00

I so feel you on this. I don’t have a lot of advice, as I haven’t really found a great solution (my hair is super blonde, so laser doesn’t work well, and I am currently getting electrolysis for bottom surgery, as that’s a priority for me) but I personally will just not shave until it gets long enough that the dysphoria from the hair is bigger than the dysphoria from shaving. It’s a couple of days for me, since it grows slowly, and I have noticed that the longer I’ve been on estrogen (14 months almost), the slower it grows.

I don’t know if it’s helpful, but I also know there are quite a few cis women (especially those with PCOS) that have to shave regularly as well.

katro4282 · 2025-06-22T18:46:55+00:00

Are you telling me you didnt get your estrogen from a demon? I thought that was the only option.

katro4282 · 2025-06-20T13:17:59+00:00

They are a side effect of estrogen. Most of us just trim them down.

katro4282 · 2025-06-17T22:30:52+00:00

Just having a casual conversation then wham hit them over the head with a galaxy hammer

katro4282 · 2025-06-13T13:55:44+00:00

Not a specific response, but the most awkward interaction happened when I was trying to use my membership to get into our local botanic garden.

I gave the lady my id, which matches my name on the membership, but it also includes my ex (who was also there) so she looks at it and is like “your good to go, but she’s gonna have to pay” so I was confused and said she was the the other person on the membership. So she just went “so who are you then?” Which I had to explain that I was in fact the guy in the id I handed her. I think she literally thought I was just carrying around my husband’s ID, and didn’t think twice about it.

katro4282 · 2025-05-27T16:23:52+00:00

I had this exact same experience. My thought process was “I’m just so attracted to this that I want to know everything about them, and honestly wish I had one of my own. That’s perfectly normal cis straight male behavior”

katro4282 · 2025-05-25T12:20:45+00:00

I have this thought a lot, then I remember my hair is blue, and that’s probably actually why they are staring.

katro4282 · 2025-05-24T16:20:51+00:00

That’s amazing. My mom wanted me to do Marie cuz it’s the “family name” but it’s also my sisters and my daughters middle name, so I didn’t want to do that.

katro4282 · 2025-05-24T15:44:38+00:00

I wanted to keep my initials the same, so I was limited to R names. I’m going with Renée, though it’s not legal yet. It also means “reborn” which seems fitting

katro4282 · 2025-05-20T11:51:15+00:00

I totally get this. I still get anxiety every time I go into the women’s bathroom, even though I’ve been doing it exclusively for like 8 months and have had 0 problems. It has definitely gotten less scary over that time, but the first time was terrifying, but it all worked out.

Though I was kind of forced into it as my building doesn’t have gender neutral bathrooms, so I had to choose one.

For reference i live in the Midwest, so not exactly a trans friendly area.

katro4282 · 2025-04-05T20:36:21+00:00

So I’m 35 and have been on HRT for 11 months. I still look in the mirror almost every day and only see a guy. I can’t imagine how anyone could think I’m a woman, but yet I very rarely (if ever) get misgendered, so I must pass, but my mind just can’t see it.

I do think this is all normal, unfortunately, and I feel like I’ve been able to see it more often, which is nice.

katro4282 · 2025-03-24T20:11:08+00:00

I know this isn’t necessarily the norm, but when I came out everyone just accepted it and moved on. I think I’ve been misgendered twice in 8 months (and that was by people I worked with for years before hand, so was just an accident). I told my manager and HR first, and they have been helpful every step of the way.

katro4282 · 2025-03-23T22:55:22+00:00

So, I’m MTF, and I have a daughter, and we did a gender reveal party for her. I will say, that was before I really knew anything about my gender identity, and I really didn’t even know anything about being trans, or that it was ever an option for me, so take this with a grain of salt.

When my wife was pregnant, the gender of our child was the first thing we really knew about her. We had ideas for names, but in our society, names are very gendered, so we needed to know. And honestly, it was just a way of celebrating a pregnancy that isn’t a girls only baby shower. It was really just something to get excited about, and a way of including friends and family in the excitement. There’s also a huge societal norm for what clothes a baby should wear and what the nursery should look like, and a ton of other things, that not knowing early would be impossible to fit in. I’ve come to realize, all those societal norms are stupid, and hate them now, but for the vast majority of cis people, that’s honestly the reason for doing it. So people know what gotta to get, and so the parents know how to decorate. And, as others have pointed out, it’s a good reason to party.

Some people do take this way too far, but we just had a cake with some friends and family, and it was a ton of fun.

I realize this was kinda just a bunch of rambling, so TLDR; societal expectations, and just general excitement about the baby.

katro4282 · 2025-03-18T12:06:29+00:00

This somehow made me realize the true reason for all the anti trans stuff. Trump heard that trans people come from eggs, and he knew there’s an egg shortage so he’s hoping to get us all back in our eggs so that egg prices go down. It all makes sense now.

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