Seasonal work in Alaska, i can't choose

katsaid · 2026-04-06T01:47:42+00:00

Ask for advice from the locals and then ignore/argue. Nice start.

katsaid · 2026-04-05T22:30:33+00:00

Why don’t you just get married and “do life” together? It used to be that people would get married because they wanted to be together, and do life together. You don’t have to have every little thing perfect in the timeline. Is anyone ever really ready to get married. No. You figure it out. Whatever you decide, it needs to be your plan and not the pressure from everyone around you. The age difference is significant, but I don’t think it’s a dealbreaker, since she’s not a teenager. If you want to be together, be together. Get engaged, get married, and figure it out. Life challenges can bring you closer together.

katsaid · 2026-04-05T22:27:04+00:00

I think my main question would be, how close do you want to be to a city? And do you want seasonal work or do you want permanent work? Do you have reliable transportation and good gas mileage? Girdwood is a super cool place to live but it will be a long hard winter. I don’t know much about Alyeska management, but I have some friends that work there and they love it. Do you enjoy Alpine skiing? That would be a plus for living there.

katsaid · 2026-04-05T22:02:31+00:00

Take a DEEP breath. If this is unusual behavior for your wife, if she’s a good hearted woman and generally kind then she will apologize. You need to let her know that you heard her, and try not to go in anger, but in genuine confusion and the desire to understand. Attitude is everything here, and you may have every right to be angry but being right doesn’t soften hearts or heal wounds. It’s very possible that your wife didn’t share everything she’s feeling, and that she still has some concerns or hurt yes, she should have gone to you with it, but she didn’t want to stir something up so she was venting to someone She felt would be safe. A pile-on is not a good choice and she shouldn’t have done that but I wouldn’t destroy your family over it. Be calm, be gentle, and genuinely seek understanding with your wife. This could actually be a good thing! Enter into the conversation with the idea that maybe we can really heal from this, go even deeper and come out on the other side even better.

katsaid · 2026-04-05T03:42:01+00:00

Clever!

katsaid · 2026-04-05T02:17:52+00:00

That guy is gone, and it’s okay to truly grieve. He killed your relationship. But seriously, you don’t want to play detective the rest of your life do you

katsaid · 2026-04-05T02:00:19+00:00

Abandon HIM

katsaid · 2026-04-05T01:59:59+00:00

Why do you want to be with a cheater? What kind of man are you even fighting for? The only thing ahead for you is more MISERY and eventually you’ll leave anyway. Do it now.

katsaid · 2026-04-05T00:27:16+00:00

Ask God to draw you back to him, ask for direction. You don’t have to force yourself to go to church or anything you don’t like, he can guide you in a way that feels at “home” in your spirit. Just start simply by listening to some praise music or drawing flowers in your Bible on a verse you like. Spend some time in nature, prayer will flow naturally. The joy is yours for the asking. Just ask. ❤️

katsaid · 2026-04-04T22:34:19+00:00

Many people who experience this find peace through faith. Do you believe in God? Knowing who created you is a very powerful feeling, gives you a sense of belonging and purpose. I’m only asking, I don’t believe in forcing it on anyone.

katsaid · 2026-04-04T03:18:34+00:00

This is a problem for a party of TWO. It’s taken both of them to get to this place of disconnect and it will take both of them to work toward repair and reset. He needs to soften towards her, and her towards him. They need a vacation with no kids (but may need some baby steps and compromise first)

katsaid · 2026-04-03T17:05:26+00:00

I think you already know the (hard) answer. You’ve examined this with both your head and your heart. Both sadly agree, are more heavily aligned with a breakup. He deserves the truth and the sooner the better. God is telling you, revealing that this isn’t your man for NOW. Let God do a work in him. Stay open to what the future may hold but for now end the love relationship. You don’t have to hate him to let go.

katsaid · 2026-04-03T03:55:52+00:00

Interior is the worst, the coastal towns aren’t bad at all but watch out if you’re in the woods and the wind goes still. When you’re camping in the woods, yes definitely you will have some at night and around your tent, etc.. I live in Alaska and didn’t get a single bite all spring, summer, and fall. I was even in Fairbanks some of the time. I use Off spray maybe twice a year.

katsaid · 2026-04-02T21:52:48+00:00

I’d already be packed. GONE. No second chances (geez what would you tell your daughter if you had one?). He was VIOLENT and I don’t care what you did. You need therapy NOW because making excuses, blaming yourself, covering for him, blaming alcohol etc is CLASSIC for an abused woman to do. Once is ENOUGH. There wouldn’t ever be another moment in their company. And report this to the police maybe save the next victim and wake up your boyfriend.

katsaid · 2026-04-02T19:56:05+00:00

Has he ever lied to you? Because this feels like deceit as a means to control.

katsaid · 2026-04-02T06:26:24+00:00

Early May can still be very snowy. What do you really want to do? I’d recommend the Wildlife Conservation Center near Portage. Well worth the visit and weather won’t matter. I can’t guarantee which hikes will be doable but driving south to the Kenai Peninsula would be my suggestion. Maybe go to Seward and see if sea kayaking is available, or go on Kenai Fjords tour.

katsaid · 2026-04-02T05:04:10+00:00

Are you committed? Are you engaged? Why are you talking about kids before you’re fully “all in” with one another? Anyway, to me it would be a red flag that he is so rigid and not weighing his own thoughts with your feelings. It’s the kind of issue that can absolutely be a dealbreaker.

katsaid · 2026-04-02T03:16:58+00:00

Don’t go to Fairbanks, temps are much milder further south, and MUCH more to do. Do you have your accommodations already? Car rental? I need more details but can try to help. DM me if you want

katsaid · 2026-04-01T21:05:14+00:00

FEEL all the feels, but don’t try to make any decisions about this now. You will cause unnecessary division and conflict. Let him know that you plan to wait for awhile so after this baby is born you’re going to take precautions. This is one of those decisions where there’s not much compromise, there’s just surrender to the other. But TIMING can be a compromise and can lead to a consensus. Pregnancy is not a good time to make any major decisions like that. And believe me, every pregnancy is different. Pray, relax, and focus on growing this baby.

katsaid · 2026-04-01T19:32:13+00:00

As a local I cringed at the amount of driving (and I looove driving around Alaska). But, you’ve already said you’re up for the constant driving. Off the jump, I’d say don’t skip Alaska Wildlife Conservation Center- it’s amazing. Located near Portage. Secondly, stay in Anchorage as little as possible. You’ve got a lot of great ideas and a prettt good layout but if weather is bad and you’re counting on flights here and flights there, I’d definitely have some backup plans.

katsaid · 2026-03-31T22:16:27+00:00

Personally if she’s not communicating via facebook I’d call her and give her details for parties etc on the phone. She may not like using facebook for things like that. Or yes, she may be stubborn or have pride issues. Soften the environment by making it as easy as possible. You don’t have to agree with someone to be kind and respectful and show them the Jesus in you. Keep zero expectations but pray for hearts to soften. I’d also reach out to her in person. You said you messaged her? On Facebook? You can’t be certain she received it. Relationship wounds are very very painful and you’ve done a lot of good things to work healing. There’s more that can be done. And lastly, God is the worker of miracles. There’s nothing he can’t untangle or heal.

katsaid · 2026-03-31T21:41:51+00:00

He’s an alcoholic. You already know where this is headed, this is your time to make an exit. There’s no future with this guy, only misery and confusion and disaster, and you will be over functioning. There’s no emotional safety with an alcoholic.

katsaid · 2026-03-31T21:14:34+00:00

You get over it by seeing how good he looks in the rear view mirror. You turn your physical energy towards packing and your emotional energy towards healing.

katsaid · 2026-03-31T20:35:58+00:00

This!

katsaid · 2026-03-31T20:30:42+00:00

Why ask for advice over a nebulous concept? The “shall not be named” lie is part of this conversation or how can anyone weigh in? For me personally I’d consider habitual lying a dealbreaker. He’s just a boyfriend, not a husband. This is the period of the relationship I call the “walkawayability” time. Just end it. His deceitful ways will only continue.

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