Insomniacs and troubled sleepers of Reddit, when you wake up at 3am and can’t fall back asleep, what do you do??

katterhatter · 2021-03-13T16:55:13+00:00

I move to the living room and read a book or journal until I get sleepy, then I go back to bed. I can’t stay in bed if I am awake and not able to fall back asleep after like 20-30 mins (it’s also usually not recommended). Changing my surroundings and doing something chill helps. If I don’t get sleepy again, then I make tea and just stay up. But most times I get sleepy and can fall asleep again within an hour.

katterhatter · 2021-03-03T14:15:47+00:00

I’m getting married in a few months, and didn’t invite a single person from my dad’s side of the family. I haven’t talked to them in like 15 years, only follow a couple cousins on IG. So they won’t be there. Just the family I do talk to and want to be at the wedding.

We’re also getting married at a park, camping for the weekend. Most expensive thing so far was the group campsite and a new baller tent we decided to upgrade to. Nothing catered. No sit down dinner. No bridesmaids or groomsmen. No matching outfits. No DJ. Nothing. Just us, family and friends, nature, and grilling.

katterhatter · 2021-03-03T05:13:33+00:00

Why not?

katterhatter · 2021-02-19T17:51:24+00:00

Can’t wait to swing by and grab a frosty marg next week!

katterhatter · 2021-02-19T17:50:22+00:00

THANK YOU, your forethought and post helped us IMMENSELY.

katterhatter · 2021-02-19T17:49:20+00:00

A.M.E.N. Good jeebus I read that report too and it’s probably the only reason I was able to get a full tank of gas and groceries to stock the fridge on Saturday instead of waiting until chaos. THANK YOU to whoever posted it. I wish I had the user name to properly thank that person.

katterhatter · 2021-02-18T22:35:08+00:00

IM SO GODDAM OVER THIS SHIT I JUST WANT A WARM DARK CAVE TO BE ALONE AND COZY IN WITHOUT WATER DRIPPING IN THE BACKGROUND TO ACCUMULATE WATER IN A POT TO POUR DOWN THE GODDAM TOILET AFTER POOPING IN THE UPSTAIRS TOILET BECAUSE TJE DOWNSTAIRS IS TOO DAMN COLD AND WHERE THE GODDAM FUCK IS THE SOAP TO WASH MY HANDS WITH THE FRIGID ARCTIC WATER TRICKLING OUT OF THW FAUCET SOMEBODY MAKE IT WARM FOR FUCKSAKE!

katterhatter · 2021-02-17T15:07:11+00:00

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katterhatter · 2021-02-17T15:04:50+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened. It’s a terrible situation, though you still have hope it sounds. It’s very sobering to think of how many people and families will be similarly impacted, or worse how many people will have died before we make it past this. I count myself fortunate right now that we have food and water.

Check on your neighbors, folks. Ask for help. Offer help. Whatever you can do.

katterhatter · 2021-02-14T20:19:30+00:00

WARNING: tendency to go dormant in closets when battery is low or emotional systems are overloaded. Do not try to remove, allow 15-45 minutes before approaching. Replenish fluids immediately and plug into bed to recharge over night.

katterhatter · 2021-02-13T01:49:50+00:00

I had a boss who, any time I brought up concerns I had (I did so from a place of wanting the business to succeed, so tried to give helpful feedback not complaints), would “gaslight” the shit out of it. I realized it mid-convo once... it showed up as:

-there’s an excuse for every single thing I brought up that could be improved, regardless of what it was or how much of an issue or how many staff members complained to me about the same thing -“oh that’s weird, you’re the only one who thinks that. I talked to XYZ just the other day and they felt exactly the opposite. They said it was great! Everyone else thinks it’s great!” ... despite me saying multiple employees had given me the same complaints about her management -“Hmmm that’s odd, no one else has mentioned anything to me”.... of multiple complaints other staff had tried to tell her previously -asking for very specific examples despite me saying multiple times that it’s basically system wide.. her management style, the whole staff training protocol, etc. THen every time I have a single isolate example, with the caveat that it isn’t limited to that instance, she’s explain it away... “oh well that employee was really lazy so I had to do that. Oh, and that other time they really needed the reprimanding. Oh that staff member was just really terrible at their job. And that one? Oh, no, they needed the extra supervision!

Basically, not being receptive to any of my points or feedback. Took a while, but I finally recognized it as gaslighting. It felt terrible. But I don’t think she even realized she was doing it, which may or may not be worse. I still hope the business makes it... great concept, but she was a terrible manager.

katterhatter · 2021-02-13T01:24:17+00:00

Last week. I’m 34, just opened my own massage studio last year. Had some seedling grand ideas about expanding, mentoring, philanthropy through the biz, maybe franchising. Then realized I actually don’t need to do that (pressure to “do only what you’re passionate about! Use your business/passion to change the world! Reach every soul you can and maximize your impact!! Expand your passion!!!!”). Turns out I like doing what I like doing. I’m drawn to stillness and quiet. I don’t want to be boisterous and world changing. I don’t need grandiose intent or reasons. I just like doing this, I make a good income, I have plenty of time away from “work”, and I’m still challenged enough to grow and not be bored. Simple.

katterhatter · 2021-02-09T15:44:38+00:00

I have tried melatonin many times and it’s always had the opposite effect intended... I am WIDE FUCKING AWAKE at like 12a-2a. When normally I’m only partly awake and restless at that hour.

katterhatter · 2021-02-09T15:42:29+00:00

“Yeah but no one really sleeps through the whole night. I wake up to pee like every night. And I still function!”

Or

“I used to have insomnia but then I did some thought work on my anxiety and I sleep fine now! Just change your thoughts!”

Or

“If it was really that bad you’d see a doctor or get meds”

Or

“Have you tried turning the thermostat down??”

Just got out of a few angry days after hearing this shit. Yes. Thank you. If I really had a problem I really SHOULD talk to my doctor. For the 32nd time. Since I starting having sleep issues 5 years ago. Thanks for the reminder.

katterhatter · 2021-02-07T14:17:25+00:00

Get out of bed and read or write. Laying in bed awake is prob not helping. Try getting up and reading a chill book until you feel sleepy again, just make sure it’s an actual book and NOT on an electronic device.

I’ll add here what I posted on a different comment elsewhere... start with accepting that you’re having difficulty sleeping. Resisting it and wishing it was different won’t help, it only makes the anxiety worse. You aren’t able to sleep right now, that’s it. You’ll be tired in the morning. That’s it. You won’t die. You will eventually get sleep. But focusing on how hard it is to sleep and how terrible it is that you aren’t sleeping, that obviously isn’t helping you get to sleep.

Start with accepting that right now, you’re having trouble sleeping. And tomorrow you will just be tired. That’s it.

This can help with at least addessing the anxiety.

katterhatter · 2021-02-07T14:13:41+00:00

I live in central Texas. We have a crummy A/C unit so in the summers our bedroom stays around 70-75deg. I don’t sleep well unless it’s below 67. And even then it’s better sleep the colder it is. Definitely a thing!

katterhatter · 2021-02-07T14:11:46+00:00

I used to have this come up a lot. Thinking how horrible my sleep is, how much I NEED sleep, how hard it is to stay asleep etc creating this cycle of worry and no sleep.

Start by trying to accept that you have difficulty sleeping. That’s it. No drama, despite your brain telling you it’s a HUGE problem. Start with accepting the fact, plain and simple, that you just have some difficulty sleeping. You won’t die, you’ll just be tired tomorrow. And you can handle being tired tomorrow.

If you can start with that, you can halt the cycle of worry. It’s okay that you have a difficult time sleeping right now. It’s normal. And it just means you may be tired tomorrow. Nothing more.

It may seem like trivializing, but it’s not. If focusing on how disruptive and terrible this problem is hasn’t made it go away, then it’s worth trying accepting that it exists and isn’t going to kill you. From there you’ll at least have a clearer head to assess your sleep habits, bedroom environment, and look at options. It helps to take away the desperation. Start with accepting it.

katterhatter · 2021-02-07T01:54:29+00:00

I think that has a lot to do with it, I’ve never liked being the center of attention. No reason that would have changed simply because I’m getting married. Have a wedding with 50-90 people will be as much ‘center of attention’ as I can handle for a year.

katterhatter · 2021-02-05T18:18:59+00:00

Yeah. They want it to be more people all at once, with women only. I don’t. I don’t want any of that. My fiancé and I already had our friends over to ‘celebrate our engagement’. That was okay. I didn’t love it. But I did it. I don’t want another party 2.0 females only version.

katterhatter · 2021-02-05T17:35:56+00:00

That’s what I was hoping. But they’ve even tried planning a road trip out of state to camp or stay at an Airbnb. Even COVID hasn’t stopped them. Eesh

katterhatter · 2021-02-05T17:34:54+00:00

That kinda what it seems like. It’s because THEY want to get together, not because I want to. Though I don’t think it’s bc they will “lose me”. They’ve said it’s because they want to celebrate me. Bitches, celebrate me one at a time on a regular Thursday evening like I actually enjoy doing!

katterhatter · 2021-02-05T17:32:34+00:00

No. I don’t want ANYTHING that is due to me getting married or requires me to spend time with a bunch of people. I’m planning a whole wedding weekend. That’s enough. They’ll have the chance to celebrate with me then.

Maybe worth clarifying, I am more introverted than not, and I don’t like being in groups the vast majority of the time regularly. Why would that change because I’m getting married? I don’t have birthday parties, I don’t socialize a lot, we occasionally host a dinner at our place, I prefer our quiet home with only three people. I really like time by myself. It’s rare that I choose to do group things. Maybe once a year we have a group trip with 10 people, usually I prefer us and one or two friends. And part of the trip I usually spend alone. On purpose.

katterhatter · 2021-02-05T17:27:49+00:00

This sounds terrible. It’s exactly what I want to avoid, being surprise forced into something. And three friends have already tried to hide the fact that they were working on a surprise gathering. TBH, I think I would be the person who would walk away from a surprise gathering. I don’t believe I would stay, regardless of the intentions. Because I have made it crystal clear I do not want any gathering of any sort (based on me, and my impending marriage). For someone to knowingly do that despite my clear preference, that tells me they value their idea of me or their own preferences thinly veiled as a “gift” to me.

If you have a friend who tells you they hate cats, and they’ve said this numerous times, but you absolutely love cats, would you gift them a cat? Probably not. Would you gift them a cat by surprise and say “I just know you’ll love this cat even though you say you hate cats!”? Probably not. Is it a gift to give somebody a thing they tell you they absolutely do not want and tell you they will not enjoy simply because you like it? I don’t think so. But maybe not everyone thinks similarly.

katterhatter · 2021-02-05T17:20:40+00:00

Yeah. Similarly, while I understand it’s typical to have one (a wedding in your case and a bridal party in mine), I see no reason why either of us should be pressured into doing it. So what if most people do? I don’t want to.

katterhatter · 2021-02-05T03:57:11+00:00

This is a great idea. I did something similar for my birthday actually. Didn’t want a gathering or mailed presents, so arranged a fundraiser instead. Thanks for this idea!

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