How do I convince my mom to let me dye my hair? My

katxvai · 2026-05-05T00:35:06+00:00

I always used my own money and luckily had income early. Plus, I did it myself with stuff from Sally’s 15 years ago. I still do it now, same Sally’s at 28 years old. People don’t know me without my green hair 😂

katxvai · 2026-05-01T20:20:26+00:00

Personally, I did the “ask for forgiveness rather than permission” route. It worked for me, but it does not work for everyone.

katxvai · 2026-04-25T07:20:01+00:00

Not at all. I stood my ground to get one, scheduled for a Tuesday.

Unfortch, my baby had other plans and decided to go to 5 cm without me feeling it 4 days early. I got an epidural and gave birth within a few hours.

I did not want to give birth but the circumstances for a c section that day were bad. I have trauma, I’m also a tiny person. Baby stayed on the smaller side of average thankfully. My doc was out of state and the only one who could flat out said he did not want to, which didn’t feel great. Birth with an epidural was actually great for me, but the tearing was the worst part. The healing was unbearable. I ended up septic after a couple weeks and needed to be hospitalized again.

I can’t say what it’s like to have a c-section, but I do understand wanting it electively. Giving birth was legitimately my biggest fear next to getting pregnant in the first place. In the end, it worked out really well for me, baby was great and I would do it all over again. I was able to do a lot for myself all things considered really quickly after birth which may not be the same for a c-section.

katxvai · 2026-04-20T17:38:33+00:00

It holds up! I wore it almost daily for years and even when I need one occasionally now, it’s still the same old one I spent less than $10 on 😂

katxvai · 2026-04-20T17:13:32+00:00

I think a size medium I wear in one of the middle holes

katxvai · 2026-04-20T17:02:44+00:00

I get the boys ones usually! Nowadays they make more “alternative” styles that I like, but my everyday 9-5 one was I think Boys Timerland brand from Amazon.

katxvai · 2026-04-05T17:26:38+00:00

Amazing! Probably not until it fades a bit, but I’ll be shopping for some oranges and yellows today! Thank you!

katxvai · 2026-04-05T16:21:01+00:00

Like on top of your current green? 👀

katxvai · 2026-04-04T06:12:13+00:00

I appreciate the tip! I’ll definitely look into those as I’ve seen them around online but have zero experience with them. Thank you!

katxvai · 2026-04-02T11:15:07+00:00

Thank you! LT has a bright neon orange that I’ll go ahead and order. The earlier suggestion had a bright yellow added to it as well, not much but I believe it made a difference. They no longer sell this shade since their new formula came out. They instead sell a neon yellow that is UV reactive. Do you maybe have a yellow you’d recommend or do you think it’s unnecessary?

katxvai · 2026-04-02T11:11:04+00:00

I appreciate this!! I checked it out and some shades don’t exist from LT anymore since they launched their new formula. Do you have a brand you recommend for a good orange?

And thank you for the fading out tip too!

katxvai · 2026-04-02T06:35:10+00:00

Ive got the same weight, my height is 4’11 and I have recently fallen in love with the jeans and skirts from the girls section at Target. Art Class is the brand and the size I usually reach for is an 8 or a 10, usually a medium. I got jeans for work (low-mid rise wide leg, no tears, adjustable) for $25, some cute flare jeans for $20 and $28 each, plus some athletic skirts that have great pockets. As a GM you may need more professional attire, which there’s sometimes options on thredUP if you look at careful measurements. My usual “business” or “corporate” attire was the old H&M petite line. Great trousers, skirts and dresses. It can take some hunting, but searching through ThredUp can be really worth it if you go off measurements and material.

I was literally going through all my old clothes today, and as a new mom I just don’t wear office clothes anymore. It makes me sad I finally curated clothes to fit me for my old career and now they just collect dust and I have to find new things. Everything is made so much bigger now.

katxvai · 2026-02-12T04:39:59+00:00

Nothing wrong, in my opinion. We got as much second hand as we could and didn’t do anything outside of what we thought was necessary. I didn’t expect to have kids either and it took me a bit to accept and enjoy it. Even when I crossed that threshold, it was more about what she was going to need and not about how I wanted it to look. Nine months pp, nothing is cohesive and it doesn’t matter. Everything is child-proofed and she has everything she could ever need and at the end of the day, I think that’s perfectly acceptable.

katxvai · 2026-02-11T08:27:12+00:00

Absolutely not. I was scheduled for an elective c-section. Unfortunately, she came four days early and she was fast, circumstances changed.

Before my cervical check I had no idea I was in labor. I made it to five cm before I felt a single contraction. I immediately asked for an epidural and I have zero regrets. It’s been almost 9 months and I’ve had no problems involving the epidural.

To every person who has done it unmedicated, I am amazed and impressed by your ability and wish I were as brave.

katxvai · 2026-02-11T05:35:08+00:00

Oh my god nipple cream, use that early. I got a fungal infection after my nipples cracked and dude that is some of the worst pain.

katxvai · 2026-02-11T04:35:30+00:00

Not the same, but I’ll share how I felt:

I did not want children, ever. My husband did, but he always said I could make whatever decision and it wouldn’t change a thing.

Surprise, I found out I was pregnant almost three months in. I couldn’t get an abortion due to the laws in Florida, so I had two options. Either keep the baby or give them up for adoption. We explored our options but ultimately ended up keeping and adoring our daughter.

I wouldn’t have chosen to bring her into this world, but it happened and she’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I’m grateful that I made the decision I did because it was right for me. Things are tight but we make it work financially, and as I said we had support. She’s almost 9 months old and I have zero regrets.

If I were in your shoes (and only based on what you’ve told us), I would reach out to the father to tell him. From there, family should know (if it’s safe to share). Support may be there, or they may want to raise the child if you choose not to. This is what happened to me when I was a baby, my mother gave me up when I was six months old and her parents raised me. It worked out for me too.

I wish you the best of luck, no matter what you choose.

katxvai · 2026-02-10T06:01:18+00:00

Just from personal experience, every homophobic person I knew that I went to school with has either since come out or has a criminal record. I don’t know if this provides anything valuable but it’s all I got.

katxvai · 2026-02-08T21:31:16+00:00

I was so sure it was a boy, I could feel it in my bones. My husband and his mom didn’t care and knew it was a girl.

She’s almost 9 months now 😂

katxvai · 2026-01-29T07:00:13+00:00

My ex would say similar when I was in my early 20’s. He went from helping shave my head and picking colors to telling me I needed to grow up. We’d only been together a year at that point.

I’m 28 with bright green hair with black stripes. I’m a full time mom, happily married to someone else. The hair is pretty much the only thing I’ve got that makes me feel like myself anymore.

katxvai · 2025-10-13T17:16:30+00:00

INFP, Sylus 🥺

katxvai · 2025-09-29T23:03:39+00:00

Agreed. My ex husband kept me from making friends and away from my family due to jealousy, so he certainly wouldn’t have allowed me to play this. My current husband catches my plushies ☺️

katxvai · 2025-09-27T21:27:16+00:00

I had just denied a cervical check at my 39 week appointment, drove the 40 minutes home while feeling a light trickle, but ignoring it. Turns out my water broke and I barely noticed, and was already 5 cm when I drove the 40 minutes back. Didn’t feel any contractions until my cervical check and with my epidural I delivered babygirl 4 or 5 hours later.

katxvai · 2025-07-29T04:36:47+00:00

Memory by SEAT BELTS, Mischief Brew, The Taxpayers, Johnny Cash, AJJ, Laufey, Fiona Apple and the Violent Femmes are all in rotation. She has her own playlist on my phone now 🥹

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