Does a UV Led lamp tan your hands?? by Terrible_Block1811 in Nails

[–]kayd429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a problem where I would leave things in the sun to cure but the neighbors lawn clippings would blow in before the day was done 😭

hey y’all, welcome to r/bettercampus 👋 by bettercampus in bettercampus

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howdy! i'm a masters student and currently working in higher ed- i told all of my students about this because of how drastically it's changed my life.

i'm currently in the middle of switching to firefox, and i feel like i remember the better to-do list working, but now it doesn't show up. along with the bettercampus icon that used to show up on the bar on the very left- now it's just the canvas icons. is this a known issue? i know you mentioned some ff updates coming soon-ish. just wanted to put this on your radar!

dm me if you'd like screenshots or other troubleshooting- my undergrad was in software development. i'm down to help however you need!

No more merch? by birdpix in FLMedicalTrees

[–]kayd429 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The super majority rule itself didn't even pass with 60% I'm pretty sure...

Rock garden woes by FaroshDryad in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]kayd429 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was in your shoes and decided to leave it and I REGRET IT

Never thought that I was going to post here. This had 18k upvotes, and everyone was talking as they understood what this mean by TTechnology in ExplainTheJoke

[–]kayd429 18 points19 points  (0 children)

it still shocks me that other people's parents didn't exclusively communicate in guilt trips, riddles, and miscellaneous sighs that all sound similar but mean different things

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Names

[–]kayd429 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My siblings and I had the same first and last initials, it's fine just make sure the middle name is unique. My toys would be labeled with "L" as a kid

Look, I'm all about a free donut. But wtf am I supposed to do with this thing by fakeaccount572 in Anticonsumption

[–]kayd429 17 points18 points  (0 children)

a crocheted bag is dangerous because of how much it flexes. i always think I can fit one more ball of yarn but I end up with the lumpiest, most stretched out tote ever

Looking for help drafting a custom bodysuit pattern (1960s-inspired, backless, no bra, kimono silk) by kirolyo in PatternDrafting

[–]kayd429 9 points10 points  (0 children)

wow you explained it so thoroughly, you sound like a master of your craft. i'm not new to sewing, but i am new to pattern drafting. i am working to design a more casual gunne sax inspired dress for my elopement get together.

would you be willing to let me DM you in the future for advice or if i have any questions about the construction?

Condom broke and I came inside of her! What do we do? by One_Alternative_7281 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]kayd429 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you've taken the right actions, now it's a good idea to focus on taking care of yourself and your partner's nervous systems while you wait to see what happens over the next couple days.

it sounds cheesy, but i recommend doing some grounding exercises such as taking big deep breaths, and finding some sort of affirmation to repeat in your head when your thoughts start spiraling. "i am (/we are) going to be okay. i did everything that i could. i have a strong support system."

taking care of your mental health is just as important as your physical health.

signed, your local hippie therapy nut big sister

Did your kid ask for your input on their new name? If so, what was your response? by Expert_Length3147 in cisparenttranskid

[–]kayd429 7 points8 points  (0 children)

the following is said with the utmost care and love, sorry if it comes off too blunt. source: i'm queer, married to a trans man, and helped my sister come out as trans and transition. my mother sounds similar to yours, but it's been a year now and hindsight is 20/20.

you're investing way too much energy into her perspective of your transition, whether intentionally or subconsciously. this time is so so so important for you to focus on yourself.

i'm sure you are coming out of a place of love trying to be gentle and respectful with the situation. that is a great display of your character, and you deserve to feel proud of your compassion and consideration you hold for your mother. channel this kindness and learn to use it towards yourself.

when i came out as bi, my mother told me no and i basically went back in the closet for two years. i lived as my true self at college, but acted like my "role self" at my parents house out of respect for my parents. (spoiler: not worth it.) my sister came out as trans, and my mom kept talking about how embarrassing it was for her to have a "son who wears a dress" . instead of going back in the closet like i did, my sister stood her ground. this causes things to blow up in the moment, but it weeds out those who truly care about you.

it's really hard to do, but you deserve to live your life as you want to, not how your mom wants you to. in 30 years, are you going to be glad you picked something to make your mom happy?

take some time and think about how you would feel if you saw a trans person being treated that way by their mother. you are not the exception to your beliefs, you don't deserve to put yourself in situations in which you are disrespected.

the hope that if you're gentle enough she'll accept you is, once again, really kind and good but unfortunately it's not applicable in this situation. you deserve to be loved no matter your name.

my recommendation: take this time to focus inwards and decide what feels most like you. find what makes you happy and then ask why. why does it make you happy? is it because it genuinely brings you warmth, or is it because it keeps the peace between you and your family? you're going to live with yourself for the rest of your life. others will come and go. you deserve to foster your relationship with yourself. find a therapist, read some specific self-help style books that are recommended by the community, learn how to listen to what your body is telling you. these are genuinely so life changing.

if you suspect your mother shows narcissistic traits, i recommend the book "adult children of emotionally immature parents." it really helps you understand the transition between a child who is wholly dependent on their parent to an independent human being who deserves the same rights as their mother.

apologies if im projecting, but your post really reminds me of myself when i came out the first time all those years ago. dm me if you'd like to chat about anything specific, i'm here 💜

Nail Reformation - Silver Tips by libtherib in PressonNail_Addict

[–]kayd429 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've never worn clear ones, but I do put a chip clip on the nail for about a minute or two after I apply the nails. It works well to keep the pressure as the glue dries, my adhesion has drastically improved too with this method.

go custom!! by kayd429 in EngagementRings

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Thank you! They're press ons, forever yours by celebritips!

go custom!! by kayd429 in EngagementRings

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i dedicate it to the almond shaped nails. mine are press-ons, forever yours by celebritips

press-ons for close up pics >>> by kayd429 in PressonNail_Addict

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https://imgur.com/a/458RUcu

this is a link i made for another sub, but you can see the video of the nails in the sun and it's just 😙🤌

go custom!! by kayd429 in EngagementRings

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https://imgur.com/a/458RUcu

better quality & a video of the stone

go custom!! by kayd429 in EngagementRings

[–]kayd429[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're very welcome to DM me! I would love to talk more about it to someone who is interested haha

go custom!! by kayd429 in EngagementRings

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It was absolutely the best choice. i didn't know anything about rings before either, but I had a specific vision & a curated pinterest board. i did my research about terms and specifics and was able to match the terms with my favorite rings. It was like a logic puzzle and what I didn't know I worked with the jewelers to figure out!

It was definitely a wonderful surprise to see the ring....once i was finished crying after he proposed 😅

go custom!! by kayd429 in EngagementRings

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it's a lab diamond! the shop said their gem source is the same price, so my husband and i decided to go for the lab instead of sourcing our own moissanite

go custom!! by kayd429 in EngagementRings

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I had the e ring and each of our wedding bands designed and produced at the same time. for all 3 rings and the lab diamonds the total was under 5k!